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 Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2011 10:27 pm
So recently all I see is my friends with thier boyfriends/girlfriends. Even if they aren't with them, they still talk about them all the time as if I knew what they were talking about. I hate when they talk about relationships around me. I get uncomfortable, but my personality prevents me from telling them otherwise. I always get jealous of their relationships and their success with love. I can't even build up the courage to tell a girl how I feel about her. I mean I find it sad that I can talk to girls as if it was a sport, but the moment I start to develop feelings for them, I can't even tell her what I'm thinkning half the time. I suppose it comes with being trown into the friend zone so many times that I'm expecting myself to fail at getting a girlfriend. I feel asw if I have to live in the shadows of my friends while constantly helping them build up thier relationships. I feel inferior compared to most of my friends in fact. I mean I constanly feel as if there is nothing I can do to even come close to what they have. I think it's nice of them though to cheer me up by saying I'll be with someone beautiful and that I'd be her Prince Charming or something like that. I just needed someone to listen to me is all. I'm just a nerdy high school graduate looking for an answer to his grief.
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Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2011 11:43 pm
All I need is one star in the sky...It's not BAD.... I've been jealous before.. Jealousy is basically only a wish for something someone else has, but can't get.
I bet you're only scared of rejection.. but don't be.
Girls want to be told how you feel about them, or you'll end up being hurt cause you see them with someone else. Tell a girl how you feel before it's too late.
And if you're rejected, then try to find someone else. There's a special someone for everyone... you just have to find that person.
Don't let the jealousy ruin things with your friends. Tell them that you'd rather talk about something else, or just try and change the subject. :3 ...Wish for you every night.
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Posted: Fri Jun 17, 2011 11:24 pm
Thanks, it's nice to know someone is willing to help me figure out some way of dealing with my problems.
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Posted: Sat Jun 18, 2011 4:07 pm
Its not bad to look at something and want it. Its something to strive towards. Its only bad when the thing you want is an actual person whose taken. So its okay to want a girlfriend... Not somebody's girlfriend.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 7:07 am
Envy and Jealousy both are in fact very bad. they are dangerous and destructive emotions.
but like all emotions, they are normal. it is alright to feel that way, to have those desires, those emotions. but only in the same capacity as anger, sadness, and things like that. it's certainly alot worse to NOT feel it!
still, you cannot indulge these emotions. they are harmful. jealousy ruins relationships, and envy will lead you farther and farther into loneliness. if you cannot trust your friends, you will eventually lose them.
still, it will help you if you can discuss the issues with them. nobody likes to be alone, and it isn't fair for them to leave you off alone, or discuss topics that you can't realy engage in.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 9:10 am
Pretty much what Kase said covers it. But I wanted to add that there is someone for everyone! Some chicks really dig nerds. Yes, we are out there whee
Tell your friends if there's some girl you want to ask out or whatevs. If they are good friends, then they'll help you in any way they can. They may even be able to get around your shyness by encouraging you or asking for you. Good luck 4laugh
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 7:04 pm
Chieftain Twilight Envy and Jealousy both are in fact very bad. they are dangerous and destructive emotions. but like all emotions, they are normal. it is alright to feel that way, to have those desires, those emotions. but only in the same capacity as anger, sadness, and things like that. it's certainly alot worse to NOT feel it! still, you cannot indulge these emotions. they are harmful. jealousy ruins relationships, and envy will lead you farther and farther into loneliness. if you cannot trust your friends, you will eventually lose them. still, it will help you if you can discuss the issues with them. nobody likes to be alone, and it isn't fair for them to leave you off alone, or discuss topics that you can't realy engage in. And don't whine about it openly. No one likes boo hoo-ing.
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 7:08 pm
There's a pretty big difference between envy and jealousy (from what I've heard).
Envy is wanting something similar that someone else has, while jealousy is wanting the other person not to have it while you do (a reversal of the situation).
Envy is a desire for something new, while not intending harm on those who you are envious of.
Jealousy is greedy.
It's okay t be envious, but not really okay to be jealous.
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Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 7:21 am
Labyrinthknight7 There's a pretty big difference between envy and jealousy (from what I've heard). Envy is wanting something similar that someone else has, while jealousy is wanting the other person not to have it while you do (a reversal of the situation). Envy is a desire for something new, while not intending harm on those who you are envious of. Jealousy is greedy. It's okay t be envious, but not really okay to be jealous. you've got those backwards. Jealousy is wanting it, regardless of whether someone else has it or not. "why don't I have that? I want it!" it is as the Sn of Greed, though can be distinct from it. Envy is the one where you feel you deserve it more than others, that it should be yours, and if you can't have it then nobody can.
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Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2011 11:31 am
pirulaso Its not bad to look at something and want it. Its something to strive towards. Its only bad when the thing you want is an actual person whose taken. So its okay to want a girlfriend... Not somebody's girlfriend. very true! its ok to want a girlfriend as long as they are single!
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Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2011 10:10 pm
Hehehe, you guys just put a smile on my face. I'm glad to hear that I actually have a shot somewhere out there. I'm glad there are so many people out there who are willing to help me out. It's funny that I'm more comfortable taking advice from strangers than from my own friends. But I should have more confidence in my friends and especially in myself. I thank all those who have replied to this silly post of mine. Maybe one day, with all of your help, I'll actually get a date. Hehehe
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Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2011 8:37 pm
It's part of human nature to be jealous. Don't let this get to you, and take your time in getting a partner. Rushing it will lead to bad results and outcomes, which is what you don't want. Change the subject if you feel uncomfortable about it.
I'm going through the same thing right now. I am the only virgin in my group of friends. I hate it too when they talk about sex, because I've never experienced it. Although they do treat me like I'm stupid sometimes when it's discussed, I'm taking my merry sweet time so that I don't mess it up in the long run. So you're not alone.
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 5:45 pm
It's not a terrible thing, but there is a reason it's one of the seven sins.
Basically instead of desiring what others have, it can consume you from the inside out (Metaphorically). It's difficult, but you should feel happy for the ones that have these things and I suppose inspired in a way. Your allowed to feel sad you don't have it, doesn't mean you can't have it.
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