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Birth Control frequently has the side effect of suppressing sex drive, as well as "anaphrodisiacs" should you want to try them.

But with that being said... I think you'll find any sex drive would override the feelings of repulsion - for what little it's worth.

Something I forgot to mention: I'm also wondering what hormone therapy will do for the issue. I am planning to seek it out eventually (I'm neutrois), but am worried that it might increase sex drive as well...>_<



If the human libido is strong enough to change my mind from "utterly revolting" to "awesome", then no wonder so many people are slaves to their sex drives. gonk And I mean slaves. I've seen advice columnists encourage divorce based on low libido. How brainwashed do you have to be to not realize what a horrible, shallow idea that is? [/rant]

Besides, this isn't about whether or not I'll like it if it happens. I don't want it to happen, and I will do anything in my power to prevent it if the possibility is indeed there.

...Plus, I doubt that having the physical desire would have anything to do with my feelings about sexual acts. That's a mental aspect; sexual attraction, or the lack thereof, is a the physical aspect. sweatdrop The thought of liking it is almost as bad as the thought of having it, so I'm grappling for refuge in logic; hopefully logic won't let me down like it always does...



I would give so, so much to go backwards through puberty, as well as unlearn everything I know about it. Because ew. gonk If that's childish, then I don't want to be mature, dammit. I honestly don't.

Besides, think of it this way. Asexuality is part of who I am; it is, after all, my sexual orientation. How would you like it if you were perfectly happy with your orientation, perhaps due to being in a committed relationship, and then it changed and you were having feelings that you couldn't repress and really didn't want?

...Plus, even if I stop being asexual, I'll still be aromantic, and that combination would embody everything I hate about sexual society (i.e., strong importance on sexual acts, little to none on emotional connection). xp I'd be a walking, talking bastion of hypocrisy.

The human body does some seriously ew things. I may love my nephew but I don't know why my mom wanted me to watch him enter the world. gonk

I may be straight but if for whatever reason I became attracted to women, there's not much I can do about that other than learn to go with it. Fighting what can't be changed just causes more problems for yourself.

And having sexual desires doesn't mean you'll be having sex with someone you don't care about or even having sex at all. They can be ignored or dealt with in other ways.

1.) I know right? Sometimes I still wonder why other animals don't bleed out their vaginas like we do. gonk How is that evolutionarily effective?!

2.) Well, for me, sexual urges would be a serious problem. Not only am I grossed out by anything to do with the concept, but I'm also a total recluse offline. By choice. So finding a partner would be troublesome. xp

3.) True in theory, but as evidenced by...most of society, it's apparently just short of impossible to repress the desire to have one's parts fondled. And I have literally zero willpower; in fact, just now, I ate my way through a bag of chips that said it contained ten servings...>_>



1.) True, but still, the fact that people encourage this sort of behavior is just...it really kills my respect for humanity. Well, helps kill it, anyway. xp

2.) Well, it's going to be hard enough finding a specialist who's willing to treat someone to a halfway point rather than a straight-up gender conversion, so hopefully if they're open-minded enough to do that, they'll be nice enough to help me figure out all the complications.

3.) ...oh god oh god you have a point now excuse me while I hide under my bed for the rest of my life gonk

Gah sorry I missed your post gonk It was right behind two that had quoted me, so when I clicked it just jumped to theirs.

Well, hopefully I can still maintain my sexual independence if worst does come to worst, be it via repressing it or some other means.



1.) Well, if I thought everyone in the zCB were like that I wouldn't come here for advice razz

2.) Well, maybe I'll move down there if I can't find one here!

3.) Haha, it's okay. It's just a very effective indicator of how well libido can brainwash people gonk

1) Dogs do. Not sure about other animals.

2) I was similar when I was younger. My friend got more comfortable with that part of life before I did. When she told me things, I thought it was gross and she kinda freaked me out. As time went on I allowed myself to get more comfortable about that part of life. But you have to be open minded about it. And not all actions involving sexual urges involve a partner.

3) Most of society doesn't apply to this situation. Most people chose to embrace rather than reject their sexual urges. And similar to eating a bag of tasty chips, when something is enjoyable you want to do it.

I struggle with the same doubts sometimes. I mean, I'm perfectly happy with loving, non-physical relationships. But the thought of it getting, er, intimate is just... terrifying? And rather gross. Um, no thanks. I don't care the reason, whether it's something I was born with or something that was triggered by being sexually assaulted; I am asexual. And I'm happy that way. If my body suddenly decided to betray me, I would be very, very uncomfortable.