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Are you saying that she's not classy because she had sex in the woods even though you had sex in the woods too? People have sex in beds, chairs, cars, woods, backyards, and a whole bunch of other places. As long as everyone participating and/or watching is a consenting legal adult, it's ok and doesn't really have anything to do with how classy or not classy a person is. That's true regardless of their sex and gender.



Condoms work by creating a barrier between two people and their fluids. When used as directed, they make it very difficult for STDs and sperm to get through. But if your condom breaks, has a hole, or has a tear, then it won't be able to offer you its full protection as a barrier. It's kind of like how a water balloon won't be able to hold water as well with a hole or how your house won't keep heat as well with a crack in the window. Holes and tears often get bigger during sex too. So any tear or hole in a condom is a big deal. If you tear a condom while opening the package, you should throw it away and get a new condom.

If you know this girl and still talk to her, make sure she takes a pregnancy test if she is late. You should both also get STD tests. HIV can take three months to show up on a test, so you'll want to test around late August to make sure your results are accurate. In the future, make sure you read and follow the directions that come with condoms. That means:

- Make sure your condoms are not stored in a hot place. The glove box of a car can get way too hot, and even your pockets can get too hot to store condoms in.

- Be careful when unwrapping condoms. Check for holes and tears. Do not use a condom that has holes or tears.

- Use a condom every single time.

- Check expiration dates, and do not use expired condoms.

- Do not use oil-based lubricants with condoms.

- If you want to change holes, then change condoms too. So if you want to go from a**l to vaginal sex, change condoms. If you're with two women at once and want to go from one to the other, change condoms.

- Never wear more than one condom at a time.

I'm not butthurt. I'm just letting you know that what you said doesn't really make sense, even as a joke. To be perfectly honest, it just made you sound narrow-minded and inexperienced.


Well, you definitely screwed up. But you may or may not be totally screwed. You'll have to wait and see if she's pregnant or if either of you have an STD. You might come out of this just fine, but don't make a habit of this!


The size of your p***s has nothing to do with anything. How long you were with her has nothing to do with it. And the fact that the condom stayed on doesn't really have anything to do with this situation either. The condom still had a tear in it from what you said, which means you put yourself and the girl at risk.


Feeling fine has nothing to do with anything, neither does the amount of times that you've had sex. Some of the most common STDs can have no symptoms at all. People can have HIV for years without even knowing it. And some people get an STD their first time having sex. So you definitely don't want to wait until you have symptoms before you get tested, and not having sex a lot doesn't mean you don't have an STD.


I'd still recommend getting tested. Saying that she's "probably" clean isn't terribly reassuring. And it's generally recommend that people get tested regularly or between partners anyway. So if you've never been tested and if you and this girl weren't virgins before this, you're about due for tests anyway.

In summary, yes you are probably ok, but as Lorien mentioned, there is still a risk for pregnancy and STI transmission if there was a tear in the condom (regardless of where). Furthermore, some STis like HPV and genital herpes can be passed to another person even if a condom is used, so that's something to keep in mind.

I understand that you don't want to be tested, and that you don't like it. I don't think anyone likes being tested. But regardless of whether you're sexually active on a regular basis or you're having a one-time thing, being tested is part of being sexually responsible. If you can't go without your parents, then maybe being sexually active is something to hold off on until you're a little older and can go by yourself. Or, the other option is asking your family doctor if doctor-patient confidentiality extends to someone your age. When I was 17 and went on birth control for the first time, I remember asking our family doctor and she said yes it would be confidential. But, it's worth asking your doctor about if you're not sure of the answer. 3nodding