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 Posted: Thu May 26, 2011 5:12 pm
I already said, my mom had a brain tumor. Well, she came home three weeks ago. I asked for strength, for myself so I could help her. I need to ask for prayers for her. Last week she started to decline again, then Tuesday she was readmitted her back into hospital and she has yet to respond to the treatments, and she is only gotten worse since. I don't know what to say or even do anymore.
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Posted: Thu May 26, 2011 7:33 pm
I think all we can do is keep her in our prayers. If you need someone to talk to, we're here for you.
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Posted: Fri May 27, 2011 11:44 pm
I'll be praying, Dear. Be strong. <3
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 1:57 am
I've got your mom in my prayers, don't worry.
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Posted: Tue May 31, 2011 9:27 am
Thank you,
I am scared and worried for her, my prays for the last few days have been that she ether gets well, or she is taken with as little pain as possible. I don't want to see my mom go, but I don't want her to stay, if all she is going to be is enduring this pain for the rest of her days. I just hate seeing the person, I learned faith from, questioning hers. I am trying to stay strong, but I feel so weary, and yet, I know I can't break, as so many need me to be strong.
I will try to keep you guys updated. When I know more.
Since the last time, the best way I can put it is, her body is shutting down. Her kidneys are failing, blood count had dropped and she isn't producing any white blood cells or platelets. They have injected her a number of times with a hormone that is supposed to cause her to produce more, but I haven't heard of it working or not. I know they moved her to a clean room, basically a room where everything is sterilized before entering
That is all I know of this time, when I know more. I will update again, hopefully with joy and words of praise.
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Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2011 2:49 pm
I don't want to but, I have told you guys already about my mom. and now for an update... My dad told me some really bad news and if you don't like bad news I suggest you don't read beyond this point......., The hospital gave the last bag of platelets they will give her. Tomorrow they are moving her to a closer hospital, the closest one with a hospice unit... meaning they are giving up on my mother and they are now trying to prepare the family for her passing.
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Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2011 8:46 pm
Southern_cross_nemesis I don't want to but, I have told you guys already about my mom. and now for an update... My dad told me some really bad news and if you don't like bad news I suggest you don't read beyond this point......., The hospital gave the last bag of platelets they will give her. Tomorrow they are moving her to a closer hospital, the closest one with a hospice unit... meaning they are giving up on my mother and they are now trying to prepare the family for her passing. I'm so sorry. *hugs*.
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Posted: Tue Jun 07, 2011 9:50 pm
Can I ask, how do you say goodbye, before someone is taken to heaven? I am told that I can make great poetic sayings... but right, I can't think. I barely want to go about my daily chores.
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Posted: Tue Jun 07, 2011 10:15 pm
Southern_cross_nemesis Can I ask, how do you say goodbye, before someone is taken to heaven? I am told that I can make great poetic sayings... but right, I can't think. I barely want to go about my daily chores. The goodbye will happen when it does, focus on enjoying your time with her and make whatever peace with her you need to. Heaven is in our hearts so even though she's gone from this world, she's still with you in spirit and in memory. Make these last memories with her be the best you can. It's normal to feel that way right now, just be sure to express it healthily. Maybe this will help
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Posted: Tue Jun 07, 2011 10:38 pm
as a man prone o great bouts of demoralizing depression, I know what it's like to be so overwhelmed that you just shut down.
don't give in to that apathy; it's dangerously entrapping. you will become lost, and miss the opportunities you need to find closure.
experience is important, and to feel and think and socialize are healthy. I know it hurts, but the pain and scarring will prepare you for the future. and after all, there may not be much time left to do the things which need be done.
it doesn't matter how you say it; goodbye is goodbye, and the point is to be there. if nothing comes out but tears and sobbing then that's just as good a sonet or poem as any other. no composer can match the raw emotion of reality.
and just because the hospital has given up, doesn't mean you should too. she's not dead yet.
besides, even if she goes, she's still your mother. she wouldn't want you to miss life because of her death. grieve with the rest, be compassionate, be sensitive, be vulnerable. you've done good, you've kept the strong face that everyone needed to see. that job is complete now. it's ok.
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Posted: Wed Jun 08, 2011 2:08 am
It is just hard, cause everyone around me seems to have already given up and accepted it as a fact. And thanks to school and work, I can't go see her for another few days. I seemingly only have the people, I know on the internet for support.
oh, and thanks for the read.
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Posted: Wed Jun 08, 2011 1:42 pm
Southern_cross_nemesis It is just hard, cause everyone around me seems to have already given up and accepted it as a fact. And thanks to school and work, I can't go see her for another few days. I seemingly only have the people, I know on the internet for support. oh, and thanks for the read. I haven't known you long, but you seem like a strong and selfless person. Just forge onward and keep doing what you've been doing with respect to God and your mother. As you know, you're in our prayers.
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Posted: Sun Jun 12, 2011 10:54 am
God gave us the stars, so we may always know we are not alone.
They shine their light, so we may always find our way home.
Clouds may blind our sight,
still they shine so bright.
At 9:15 last night my mother was introduced to Heaven's light.
I hate spreading news like this, but I wanted every to know. I thank thee for their prayers and wishes. I don't know when I will be back online.... I still can't believe she is gone. I feel numb, broken, and overwhelmed with sadness. What hurts the most, it seems everyone is already fine with it. Except for me and my Father.
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Posted: Sun Jun 12, 2011 6:11 pm
It's always hardest for those who lived with a loved one who just passed.
It seems callous sometimes that others are more easily accepting of a person's passing, but they have probably have felt the way you do (or will someday) at some point in their lives... Everyone grieves differently, and some people feel like not showing their grief to others is actually helpful, brave, and strong. Focusing on other people's attitudes will only serve to upset you more right now, and I am sure that is not what those other people want for you.
Please, just worry of your own grief and that of your father, because really, you two have the best understanding of how each other feels at this point.
I will still be keeping you and your family in my prayers.
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Posted: Sun Jun 12, 2011 7:01 pm
Eltanin Sadachbia It's always hardest for those who lived with a loved one who just passed. It seems callous sometimes that others are more easily accepting of a person's passing, but they have probably have felt the way you do (or will someday) at some point in their lives... Everyone grieves differently, and some people feel like not showing their grief to others is actually helpful, brave, and strong. Focusing on other people's attitudes will only serve to upset you more right now, and I am sure that is not what those other people want for you. Please, just worry of your own grief and that of your father, because really, you two have the best understanding of how each other feels at this point. I will still be keeping you and your family in my prayers. I agree. I pray that you and your father find peace, as I'm sure your mother already has.
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