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My friend needs help...

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Posted: Sun May 22, 2011 1:48 am

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So I have a friend who is 12, and doesn't have a Gaia account. And she's telling me that she thinks she might be bi.... I told her that it was okay, but her problem is she is scared to come out to her family. She came to me for advice, but I didn't know what to tell her cause I never came out about anything. (I'm still undecided, so I have nothing to come out about)

I told her I'd think of something.. and so I'm asking you. She's always had a problem with talking to her parents/whole family... especially since her big sister will always think she's copying her.. (Her big sister claims to be bi, but my friend actually has feelings for a girl she knows... her sister only says she's bi cause she thinks a few celebrity girls are sexy...)

Anyway, anyone have any advice for her? I can't think of anything.

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Posted: Sun May 22, 2011 2:21 am

i think she should come out when she is comfortable with her self being bi if she is not already,if she is, she should come out to her parents. i cant speak from experience on come out to parents so idk on that part all parents are different so reaction but then again she should be good if she only 12

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Posted: Sun May 22, 2011 11:52 am

It's way too soon in my opinion. She should at least be pretty certain she is or isn't before coming out. I still haven't come out to my parents and I've known for the past like four years. I know it's not that long, but it sounds like she's rushing everything. Tell her to calm down: she's only 12, she has a LONG time to figure out herself and come out. Doing this so quickly is only going to cause a butt load of drama. There's no rush, really.

Posted: Sun May 22, 2011 12:08 pm

she doesnt need to be judged by her sister she knows its the truth thats what matters. about the coming out id say if shes sure about it then tell someone she trusts next to you and discuss it and then first tell her parents and then focus on the rest of the family

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Posted: Sun May 22, 2011 1:40 pm

she should wait until she is completely comfortable and completely sure before coming out and telling her family

Posted: Sun May 22, 2011 3:43 pm

I think she's too young to come out about being bi. She has to be sure she's actually bi or just bi-curious. she should give herself time to think about it. And if she's actually bi, she should come out when she's comfortable.
And if her family is really religious or something, I think she should hold off on coming out until she's older when she can move out or something. (oh, and tell her not to care what her sister thinks, she shouldn't be scared to come out just because of what her sister thinks) 3nodding

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Posted: Sun May 22, 2011 4:25 pm

It's nice that she's figuring this out at her young age but can pose those problems she's experiencing. Honestly I think she should wait before she comes out. It'll be so much better for her to be really comfortable with her sexuality before she really shares that information with the world.

For now, just keep that within her group of close friends, like yourself, and just talk about it. I can't even describe how much talking about it helps but only to the right people.

If she ever needs support, there are plenty of other rescources online that can provide any support she may need.
'It gets better' project (Nice boast of confidence there)
Gaiaonline (We're a fun bunch)
Human Rights campaign (Information in general and how we're trying to improve things)
Trevor project (For if something goes wrong)

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