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 Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:13 pm
When there's no more options left? I've done everything. I've looked at emancipation laws, asked help from probably the best person(elyzia), asked if I could live with my dad, with friends, with anyone else.. I need to be 16 with parent consent for my state's emancipation laws, elyzia stopped replying after I told her my issues, I can't live with anyone else.. I'm stuck. I feel like I've totally run out of options. I'm not religious, and I don't believe in universal wrongs such as suicide and such. I've thoguht about it for months. Looked at my options. now what?I'm probably just some stupid hot headed 15 year old, but that's all I'll be to anyone. If I go to a therapist, they'll put me on medication to 'reduce my hormone levels causing it'. Why does everyone think that just because I'm 15 my issues can just be shoved off as me being over dramatic? If people can't value my opinion then how can they expect me to value theirs? "There's always a way out", yeah, but maybe my way is right to me.. I'm so tired of having to please everyone. They don't try to please me or anything. They don't listen. I've tried everything I can, and this is my last attempt.
I need advice. Quickly. Hobbies, moving, emancipation, law enforcement, therapy, I've tried it all. If I'm skipping something, please tell me. I'm so close to breaking. I've been crying for months and months, and I'm tired of crying. I need a solution.
And, please keep your blurbs on suicide to yourself, because obviously our opinions WILL differ. This is my thoguht on it, and you saying 'it's wrong and never an answer' is so ******** generic. That's your opinion, it's fine.. for YOU. Don't try to change my opinion on it, please. I'm not going to say what's wrong, because I need advice on how to keep together. I'm not interested in hearing you all b***h about how my problems are 'so easy to solve'.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:34 pm
Your problems are not easy to solve, by the sound of it your cornered and can't find a happy way out of it.
I don't know what kind of problems you're having but I'd say just stop caring about the things that bother you, give up trying to fight it?
It's a dumb idea, but it works for me.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:35 pm
I'm noticing more and more that therapists aren't having "empathy". They must have faked it to get their piece of paper saying that they know the human psyche. Medication doesn't fix everything.
I remember from other thread about some of the issues you are having. I wish there was something I could do for you. Even though I'm a complete stranger I do enjoy helping, regardless of who or what kind of relationship I have with that person.
I know something that helped me get out of pit like the one you're in. I started working in a small business. About ten people max. After a while I just of opened up to them about my likes, dislikes, troubles and so forth. Much like a family. They even gave me birthday gifts and helped out when I was broke for three weeks. Maybe if you could find something with the same guidelines it may help you, either, feel better or find some real help.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 4:01 pm
i usually just lie down in some park or in the woods but i'm not you so that might help, or might not
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 5:20 pm
I have to say, I haven't been through anything like this before. But I've been through some pretty tough scenarios myself. There weren't a lot of things that worked for me. But there are a few things that I can give you advice on. If you've tried therapy, there's a possibility that you just didn't click with your therapist. If you find the right one, one that you can get along with and who understands you, they might really be able to help you. And talking your problems out with someone else helped me a lot. It helps you feel better, even if it doesn't completely solve the problem. And if you can find the right medication (believe me, it took me forever to find one that worked for me), it helps a lot. Since I don't really know your situation, there's not much I can do. But if you want to talk to me, I might be able to do more for you. You can send me a message at my main account, Lady Aoko Chan.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 6:21 pm
Midnight Shadows Strike I have to say, I haven't been through anything like this before. But I've been through some pretty tough scenarios myself. There weren't a lot of things that worked for me. But there are a few things that I can give you advice on. If you've tried therapy, there's a possibility that you just didn't click with your therapist. If you find the right one, one that you can get along with and who understands you, they might really be able to help you. And talking your problems out with someone else helped me a lot. It helps you feel better, even if it doesn't completely solve the problem. And if you can find the right medication (believe me, it took me forever to find one that worked for me), it helps a lot. Since I don't really know your situation, there's not much I can do. But if you want to talk to me, I might be able to do more for you. You can send me a message at my main account, Lady Aoko Chan. I agree on your therapist point. The one she saw didn't have an ounce of empathy for her client.
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Posted: Fri Apr 29, 2011 5:46 pm
Well I'd like to hear more about your problems before I can advise anything. If you take the time, maybe we can think of something before we go with something so final as suicide. If you don't want to talk about them here, then PM is fine.
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Posted: Fri Apr 29, 2011 6:04 pm
pirulaso Well I'd like to hear more about your problems before I can advise anything. If you take the time, maybe we can think of something before we go with something so final as suicide. If you don't want to talk about them here, then PM is fine. Everyone I've told other than Elyzia has replied with 'Those aren't good enough problems, they're so easy to solve', but no one ever tells me HOW to solve it. They just say it's easy to solve and if it were them in my shoes, it wouldn't even be an issue. I'm scared to tell people because if my problems are so useless, then I don't want to feel even worse for having them, and not being able to fix them on my own. The result of all my problems is I can't function right. I can't concentrate, I dont' want to do anything, I don't do anything, I can't do what I want to do. All I do is cry and try to find someone irl, but they think I'm too clingy or they find it awkward. Therapists don't even let you finish, after your time is up, you're gone. They don't make time. I can't do an hour a week, especially when they try to rush you out early. Yes, some therapists are great. I had one that I clicked with, but they're gone.
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Posted: Fri Apr 29, 2011 7:06 pm
You mentioned emancipation laws... is this an issue that would end once you're 18? Have you considered simply waiting three more years? I hope this doesn't sound like I'm just blowing off your problems, but I find that perspective often helps. I wish I could be more helpful, but I've never really been in a horrible situation....
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Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2011 5:29 am
Ultimate Echidna You mentioned emancipation laws... is this an issue that would end once you're 18? Have you considered simply waiting three more years? I hope this doesn't sound like I'm just blowing off your problems, but I find that perspective often helps. I wish I could be more helpful, but I've never really been in a horrible situation.... When you go through a situation, such as the one she is going through, you tend to want something to change fast. Waiting isn't always an option when you are miserable.
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Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2011 6:44 am
I'll just say this so you know I'm not saying ti because I'm anti-suicide or anything. I, too, don't believe in universal wrongs. I view suicide as a personal choice and I think if it's well thoguht out and not something heated by the moment, I feel people should have a right to do it. I, though, think that you can get better. Things are hard to deal with, yes, but you have good things going for you. You can focus on preparing yourself as well as you can for when you graduate.. Go to college, make life how you want it, and at the same time, get away from everything bad. You would have to wait, yes, but who knows how long? Maybe your dad will get into a situation where you can live with him. I admire how you went throguh all of your options, then asked if there were any more before saying 'all that's left is X'. A lot of people don't care about options then just say 'well then I'll kill myself'.
I really hope things work out for you how YOU want them to.
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Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2011 12:39 pm
Its Me Mr Pregnant pirulaso Well I'd like to hear more about your problems before I can advise anything. If you take the time, maybe we can think of something before we go with something so final as suicide. If you don't want to talk about them here, then PM is fine. Everyone I've told other than Elyzia has replied with 'Those aren't good enough problems, they're so easy to solve', but no one ever tells me HOW to solve it. They just say it's easy to solve and if it were them in my shoes, it wouldn't even be an issue. I'm scared to tell people because if my problems are so useless, then I don't want to feel even worse for having them, and not being able to fix them on my own. The result of all my problems is I can't function right. I can't concentrate, I dont' want to do anything, I don't do anything, I can't do what I want to do. All I do is cry and try to find someone irl, but they think I'm too clingy or they find it awkward. Therapists don't even let you finish, after your time is up, you're gone. They don't make time. I can't do an hour a week, especially when they try to rush you out early. Yes, some therapists are great. I had one that I clicked with, but they're gone. Well I'm more logical than emotional, so I might be inclined to think your problems aren't a big deal in the long run. I haven't heard your problems and venting always helps. I never met someone who wouldn't accept a free chance to talk about their troubles. So I'll keep my opinions to myself until I can find out what's wrong.
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Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2011 12:53 pm
I agree with pirulaso letting you vent. You always have the Burn family to open up to when you have no one else.
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Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2011 10:02 pm
i agree on therpist. well i've never seen one before but they're the same as the counsellors right?
well anyways i'm done with counsellors all they do is this.
"are you alright?"
-insert words-
"mhm"
and then they don't care and do anything with you. push you aside and all.
then there's this part when you tell them the most unimportant things but still tell them your suicidal blah blah blah and they totally ignore you.
anyways.
problems are obviously not gonna up and walk away right? LOL.
sooo, instead of shitting your over how much it sucks.
try and make it as good as you can (:
andd sometimes, trying to be happy and all that.
you don't need to tell someone about it and blah blah blah.
you can listen to music, go outside and run, exercise.
sometimes little ordinary things can do the trick as well (:
but of course im not saying telling someone is a bad idea.
cause i like doin that too.
but it's just that most of the time people can't really help.
because they don't really know how.
so it's really up to you.
just saying.
LOL. sorry for long...blob (:
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Posted: Thu May 19, 2011 6:54 pm
You said that you aren't religious, but if Christians are right, you'll probably be situated between murderers, rapists, and liars if you go through with it.
I was about to go through with it myself when I said, eh, why take the chance?
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