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 Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 8:23 pm
one of my friends blocks me out, lashes at me, and when she does let me in occasionally tells me she is emotionless and feels so numb.
now me being raised from a relaxed, rather hippyish family llife i belive in the powers of meditaion. however when i suggest that. she lashes again saying how a dont understand and how meditaion is BS....
then she asks me if i understand. and in someways i do, i can see her point of veiw,
once upon a time our places were switched and she helped me so much.. i just wanna make her happy. but i dont know what to do..
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Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 10:01 pm
You are the apple...
What did she do to help you? Unless the other person knows what can help cheer up someone, the other person will generally use whatever would cheer them up.
Example: If someone likes giving/receiving hugs to be cheered up, that person will usually use hugs to try to cheer someone else up.
Perhaps you could use that to your advantage? Unless she knew what would make you happier...
and I am your core.
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Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 10:22 pm
no she doesnt like hugs.and she doest meditate. And wht helped me was knowing she was there to talk to. but shes so against talking to me sometimes... i feel like i'm part of the problem and i dont know how to change to become a part of the solution.
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Posted: Fri Mar 18, 2011 1:19 pm
Sometimes time is the best remedy. Just say to her "if you want to come to me, I'm here whenever you want, you know how to get a hold of me" and leave it at that. Not the best solution seeing as how I don't know your friend, but it's something I've had to resort to in the past because nothing I've tried worked.
Also, if you were the problem, she should come out and tell you. Odds are you aren't though, but feeling like you are is something I can relate to. Plus you shouldn't change yourself to please others.
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