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 Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2011 5:48 pm
So, I'm a part of this guild, and since it's a guild of artists, I thought that everyone would be understanding and mature. Right now, I have never felt more alone in my life. I'm trying to juggle all these friendships, and things are just falling to pieces. Two of the people I know have died in the past week, and I predicted both deaths, but could do nothing to stop them. My friends are no longer including me in activities, like going to town, etc, etc, and when my friend had a seventeenth birthday, I complimented him all day, and made him feel special. He gave a shout out to all his friends, telling them how much he loved them, and he never mentioned me. I don't want to seem rash, or anything like that, but I just feel so secluded. I really do.
I don't want to lose anyone else, but as of right now, I just feel so tired...I don't feel like I can fight for anyone anymore. I'm even too tired to cry. I'm not going to commit suicide, or anything, but do you have any kind words? Or any advice? Sorry to impede, but right now, I don't have anyone else to go to.
~*Fear*~
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2011 9:20 pm
DontFearTheCreeper So, I'm a part of this guild, and since it's a guild of artists, I thought that everyone would be understanding and mature. Right now, I have never felt more alone in my life. I'm trying to juggle all these friendships, and things are just falling to pieces. Two of the people I know have died in the past week, and I predicted both deaths, but could do nothing to stop them. My friends are no longer including me in activities, like going to town, etc, etc, and when my friend had a seventeenth birthday, I complimented him all day, and made him feel special. He gave a shout out to all his friends, telling them how much he loved them, and he never mentioned me. I don't want to seem rash, or anything like that, but I just feel so secluded. I really do. I don't want to lose anyone else, but as of right now, I just feel so tired...I don't feel like I can fight for anyone anymore. I'm even too tired to cry. I'm not going to commit suicide, or anything, but do you have any kind words? Or any advice? Sorry to impede, but right now, I don't have anyone else to go to. ~*Fear*~ In the words of Joseph Addison “I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable.”In other words don’t let the loss of your loved ones weaken you. Death isn’t meant to torture, it’s a way of life…I think to make us stronger. As for your friends, it wouldn’t hurt to ask them what the deal is, be open with them on how you feel and if they truly are your friends they would understand or give you reason at least. I don’t have many but I cherish my few friends and I’ve come to understand that a friendship is a two-way road. We both have to equally contribute in strength, patience, and openness. Look sir just relax and rest easy. The more you worry and take on alone the faster you tire yourself. Burdens only get heavier with time. You aren’t alone unless you make it out that way. Chin up and smile! Life is what you make so I say go for it and make it an adventure…don’t let things slow you down. ^-^
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2011 9:28 pm
hmm i know the feeling though i didnt get it quite like you did... i dont predict deaths.
everything else you could be overthinking, i know i did. but after a while things will get better trust me. and if not let us all work together to move on.
i believe in you! =)
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Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 3:26 am
Lady Kika Flare DontFearTheCreeper So, I'm a part of this guild, and since it's a guild of artists, I thought that everyone would be understanding and mature. Right now, I have never felt more alone in my life. I'm trying to juggle all these friendships, and things are just falling to pieces. Two of the people I know have died in the past week, and I predicted both deaths, but could do nothing to stop them. My friends are no longer including me in activities, like going to town, etc, etc, and when my friend had a seventeenth birthday, I complimented him all day, and made him feel special. He gave a shout out to all his friends, telling them how much he loved them, and he never mentioned me. I don't want to seem rash, or anything like that, but I just feel so secluded. I really do. I don't want to lose anyone else, but as of right now, I just feel so tired...I don't feel like I can fight for anyone anymore. I'm even too tired to cry. I'm not going to commit suicide, or anything, but do you have any kind words? Or any advice? Sorry to impede, but right now, I don't have anyone else to go to. ~*Fear*~ In the words of Joseph Addison “I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable.”In other words don’t let the loss of your loved ones weaken you. Death isn’t meant to torture, it’s a way of life…I think to make us stronger. As for your friends, it wouldn’t hurt to ask them what the deal is, be open with them on how you feel and if they truly are your friends they would understand or give you reason at least. I don’t have many but I cherish my few friends and I’ve come to understand that a friendship is a two-way road. We both have to equally contribute in strength, patience, and openness. Look sir just relax and rest easy. The more you worry and take on alone the faster you tire yourself. Burdens only get heavier with time. You aren’t alone unless you make it out that way. Chin up and smile! Life is what you make so I say go for it and make it an adventure…don’t let things slow you down. ^-^ That was actually very helpful. c: It made today much less horrible. Thank you for your kind words.
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Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 8:12 am
I've had a similar situation before and the best I can give is get better friends. xD'
I know my advice isn't that great, and I don't know the details, but if you treat all your friends with kindness all the time and they very rarely if ever return the favor or invite you anywhere, I'd still consider them friends but I wouldn't even bother hanging out with them anymore.
I'm sorry you're having to go through two or their deaths too, it's a terrible thing to have to go through. But-and I learned this the hard way-try not to let it get you down. I once read that emotional pain only lasts for 12 minutes-anything else past that is self-inflicted. So take a moment of silence, cry or whatever you feel you have to do, get it all out of your system, then try not to get hung up on it any more. I doubt they'd appreciate you getting hung up on their deaths anyway.
I apologize if I sound a bit harsh, I don't mean to, but it is best if you try and remove anything that's giving you problems in life or making you stressed out or sad. From experience I've tried clinging to it and it just ended in massive depression all the time. I learned to stop, found better things and people to do/hang out with, and I'm much much happier. In life, you'll loose friendships, through death or just through not sharing interests anymore, ect. You have to learn to let go and realize it's not what's best for them, but for you. It sounds selfish, but in the long run if it's making you miserable you're only hurting yourself, not them.
If it's possible, try taking a vacation with people that you are close with and appreciate you to someplace you've never been or want to go, it reallllyy helps you relax. Plus, it'll be an adventure! Adventures always take your mind off the bad things. ^^-
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Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 6:27 pm
Fuzzy Brown Shark I've had a similar situation before and the best I can give is get better friends. xD'
I know my advice isn't that great, and I don't know the details, but if you treat all your friends with kindness all the time and they very rarely if ever return the favor or invite you anywhere, I'd still consider them friends but I wouldn't even bother hanging out with them anymore.
I'm sorry you're having to go through two or their deaths too, it's a terrible thing to have to go through. But-and I learned this the hard way-try not to let it get you down. I once read that emotional pain only lasts for 12 minutes-anything else past that is self-inflicted. So take a moment of silence, cry or whatever you feel you have to do, get it all out of your system, then try not to get hung up on it any more. I doubt they'd appreciate you getting hung up on their deaths anyway.
I apologize if I sound a bit harsh, I don't mean to, but it is best if you try and remove anything that's giving you problems in life or making you stressed out or sad. From experience I've tried clinging to it and it just ended in massive depression all the time. I learned to stop, found better things and people to do/hang out with, and I'm much much happier. In life, you'll loose friendships, through death or just through not sharing interests anymore, ect. You have to learn to let go and realize it's not what's best for them, but for you. It sounds selfish, but in the long run if it's making you miserable you're only hurting yourself, not them.
If it's possible, try taking a vacation with people that you are close with and appreciate you to someplace you've never been or want to go, it reallllyy helps you relax. Plus, it'll be an adventure! Adventures always take your mind off the bad things. ^^- Beautiful advice. c'8
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Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2011 12:58 pm
Hey, No need to fear, the Captain is here! I'll be you're new friend. smile
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Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2011 3:27 pm
jerksofreshhhh Hey, No need to fear, the Captain is here! I'll be you're new friend. smile ~mid-air freeze frame~ Yeah! 8D
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Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2011 6:15 pm
That's sad, I'm sorry about your friends. As for the ones who don't include you, well, don't worry about it. You find out who your real friends are in life. So dont be sad, you'll find plenty of true friends.
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Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2011 6:16 pm
I honestly have no idea how you feel. I mean, my friend cuts himself and thinks about suicide, but in the end he doesn't do it which is cool. I mean, when someone dies in my life I don't even shed a tear. Like my Uncle Lemon. (Yes Uncle Lemon) He died in a car crash a few years back but at his Funeral I was sitting down playing Yu-Gi-Oh. (Yes, I really did) Anyways, here's some advice.
Live life the way you want to live it and speak your mind as I do. If someone's pissing you off, just say that they are, and if someone is going to commit suicide and you know that they will, give them TRUTHFUL reasons so they can stop being depressed. My friend, this advice totally sucks but I still use it and I'm here today in all my glory. Anyways, follow through with your life and beat those who oppress you senseless like my momma beats a chicken, HARD.
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Posted: Thu Mar 24, 2011 10:57 pm
Memento Mori. Remember that you are human. I don't mean to sound depressing or overly dramatic, but people die. It's part of life. Some people just die earlier than others.
Suicide isn't the answer, of course. Maybe some people give up a bit too easily, some people forgot to enjoy life, maybe some people have some problems. But we all have problems, and we all have to learn how to deal with them sooner or later.
Don't be afraid though; uncertainty is only natural. The only thing certain about the future is uncertainty, non? Live life and love. ;D
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