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 Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2011 1:13 pm
If so, how would you do it? Would there be rules? What would they be? Would you allow kissing, cuddling, whatever?
If not, why?
I obviously am, and it's actually going great!
Basically, open relationships can work, but I find that it takes a lot of gauging and reassurance for some to be able to be comfortable with your place in the relationship. Me and Tiffany have encountered lots of hurdles ever since we started living with each other back in October over this. Mostly it was me being self conscious and worried that me having play partners was making her uneasy, like they were replacements. Luckily, her jealousy is not because of that, but because I have play partners, and she just can't seem to find any.
This is my first open relationship, so of course it didn't start perfect. But working through it, it's ended up being pretty great.
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Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2011 1:20 pm
I think they do more damage then good personally, and it's just complicates things and is just over-all not worth it.
Plus I could just not be okay with some other girl crawling all over my man. Me and Jeremy have joked about it before and he would DEF never let another guy near me, he gets all possesive when I even bring up ex-boyfriends so xP. So I'm happy we're both on the same page.
Plus it would make me sort of uncomfortable, if he was fooling around with other girls and then sleeping with me, just kinda a cooking pot of sexual diseases S:
cause even with protection, you can catch something so.
Not for me, if other people want to do it, sure whatever, I'm not dating them.
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Posted: Fri Feb 25, 2011 3:49 am
Most likely not, if I were going to do that I'd just try to get a set of regular hook ups or something.
MAN that sounded kind of arrogant.
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Posted: Fri Feb 25, 2011 5:47 am
I don't really know. An open relationship doesn't sound a whole lot like a 'real' relationship to me (no offence intended, of course), I think I'd find it weird having multiple partners, but treating one a little more.. committedly?
Alternatively though, I could see myself in something less open, yet still polyamourous.
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Posted: Fri Feb 25, 2011 9:45 am
Not for me. I'm not going to lie, I would be very jealous thinking about the guy I like (or anybody I'm in a relationship with ever) doing stuff with other people. I don't think I'm like, insanely jealous under regular circumstances, but the way I see it, I wouldn't feel comfortable doing any kind of open relationship "stuff" with other people while I was seeing somebody, it would feel like cheating, and therefore, would feel like being cheated on if it happened to me. I understand that's kind of the point of open relationships (I think... to be honest, I really don't understand them that well) but I just don't think I would ever try it. I guess I'm mono-amourous?
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Posted: Fri Feb 25, 2011 9:51 am
Felin Greenleaf Most likely not, if I were going to do that I'd just try to get a set of regular hook ups or something. Yeah. Basically. Having an open relationship seems like waaay too much work for me.
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Posted: Fri Feb 25, 2011 10:52 am
No no no no and no.
We already talked about it a while ago though. Me not being enough for someone would make me feel absolutely worthless and pointless and ugly and stupid and every other word in the book. I'm already not the most desireable person in the world. I don't need that thrown in my face by 'Hey I'm gonna go ******** someone else. Bye."
If I'm not enough for some one, what is the point of being romantically involved? I'm obviously just a piece of flesh. I don't know. It would just destroy me emotionally from the inside out. I'd probably gain weight, get high and drunk a lot and pretty much just self medicate myself into rehab.
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Posted: Fri Feb 25, 2011 11:02 am
No. I'm not the type to need random hookups and I wouldn't want to date a guy who was so horny that whenever I couldn't be there or I wasn't around, he felt the need to go find other 'play partners'.
I just can't imagine coming home and my boyfriend being like, "So what did you do today? I went over to ____'s house, we had sex and such. Pretty cool."
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Posted: Fri Feb 25, 2011 2:06 pm
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Posted: Sat Feb 26, 2011 12:51 pm
For clarity of what I was saying earlier, I think I could probably love two women. But it'd really only work for me if they were into each other as well. This is certianly not something I'm actively seeking, I just think in regards to an open relationship, that's the only scenario I really see working out.
I think this stems from my Mormon ancestors and too many Three's Company reruns as a kid. pirate
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Posted: Sat Feb 26, 2011 1:27 pm
Regore I don't really know. An open relationship doesn't sound a whole lot like a 'real' relationship to me (no offence intended, of course), I think I'd find it weird having multiple partners, but treating one a little more.. committedly?
I agree with this, Like, if you can do it, then more power to you. But the concept just sounds so foreign to me. Like, you're committed to one person, but you both mess around with other people? I personally would feel really bad about myself if my SO suggested it; like I'm not enough to satisfy them. Plus, I'm pretty sure I'd get jealous.
So no, definitely not for me.
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Posted: Sat Feb 26, 2011 11:44 pm
Short answer: No.
Long answer: Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
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Posted: Sun Feb 27, 2011 3:24 pm
I think I'd be okay with an open relationship. It's not something I'd actively seek out, but if it came up, then I think I'd be receptive to that.
I guess I don't see sex as necessarily connected to relationships and intimacy. So I can fully understand why someone might find an open relationship a good thing. Like you can have sex, intimacy and love with your significant other, but then just have pleasurable sex (minus the 'love' aspect) with other people. Like any other activity you might do with friends.
So yeah, I think I'd be open to at least trying it out. I think it's healthier to try something like that then be stuck sexually unsatisfied in a relationship. Because you know, your significant other might not...for example, be able to play chess with you, when you really really love to play chess. But then I don't see why you couldn't then play chess with a friend to satisfy that need. Kind of a rubbish analogy but it's the spirit of it. I know people will argue that you can have better sex with your SO if you practice/try harder or whatever, but sometimes you're just aroused by other people and I don't see that as inherently wrong.
Polygamy's slightly different I think, I sometimes doubt I have enough love in me for one person, let alone more than one. xD
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Posted: Mon Feb 28, 2011 10:15 am
Ignore my post. I'm PMSing today so I've been taking everything personally. Wahh.
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