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 Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2006 12:55 pm
I need help on how to tell my parents that I'm pregnant
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Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2006 4:02 pm
I don't mean this in an offensive way; I just don't know you.
Do you know who the father is? And does your parents know him?
If you say yes to both, your parents should take it very well.
If you say no, then it will take a long talk, but they should be loving towards you no matter what.
What you should try to do is get both of your parents together and say " Mom, dad. I need to talk with both of you about a serious problem I'm trying to deal with."
Try to make a comfortable atmosphere. Get them when there not in the middle of something and are in good moods.
Remember to tell them all the feelings and emotions your going threw so they can understand more how you feel about this.
If you don't want the child tell them. You'll have two options. 1) abortion or 2) you can give up for adoption.
If you do want the child tell them and tell them why. There are many ways you can get help with this.
This is your decision, so you do what you feel is right.
I'm 18yrs. old and 9weeks pregnant and I still live with my mother and my grandmother. My father lives in N.Carolina. My Mom was shocked at first, but it turned in to excitement. My father on the other hand isn't doing to well, but he's not mad at me just at the father of the baby. (who I'm not with anymore.)
The thing is I told my parents and I feel so much better like a weight was lifted of my shoulders.
Just thing of it like I did.
If your daughter was pregnant and going threw what you're going threw now, what would you want her to do?
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Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 1:35 pm
thanx well i do no ive been dating him for about 1 year and yes my parents do no him i think ill tell
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Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 1:46 pm
I'm moving this to the pregnancy subforum. Please re-read the guild rules again, so you know where to make your threads in the future. smile
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Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 8:59 pm
I'm going to disagree that even if you answer "yes" to those questions that your parents will take it well. It really depends on your parents. Will they be upset and disappointed? More than likely, but that's to be expected. You can't expect parents to take news like that well at first.
It may seem scary, but it's time to swallow the pride and get them together. Tell them you have something serious you need to talk about. Have them sit down and say it. If the father is in the picture, it can be support for you to have him be there to tell as well, since he is equally responsible.
Talk to them about your options and what to do. Either ways it's crucial to tell them ASAP to get you to a doctor and get the care that you and the baby need, regardless of choosing to keep the baby or not.
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Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 9:04 pm
Well I don't think anything is going to make this a really easy conversation but I think a few things should help. Are you going to do it yourself or are you and your boyfriend going to sit down with them together? If you are both going to be involved then I suggest that together would be better. I think wording like "We are expecting a baby" would probably be better then "I'm pregnant". Also have you made a decision on what you plan to do? Presenting yourself to them as someone who is mature and has informed herself about her options will help them deal with the news better. Remember, you are about to become a parent so as scared and childish as you may be feeling right now you have to pull the courage out for the baby you are carrying. Good luck
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 5:30 am
I am also going to disagree with some of the advice I think you should tell each parent seperatly starting with the one you think will take it the best. You should also take yourself to the public health office and get on medicaid and wic. You will be suprised how much that will make your parents understand what you are doing to be grown up about this. Telling your parents seperatly gives them there own time to react instead of having them feed off each other. If one of them is mad and yells they will both end up doing that. Goodluck.
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 2:16 pm
thank you all I have told my parents and they had taken it badly but they said no matter what I am there daughter and they will always protect me and help me do Whats best
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 2:15 am
Li-en thank you all I have told my parents and they had taken it badly but they said no matter what I am there daughter and they will always protect me and help me do Whats best u are lucky...some parents take it really bad...
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