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First I want to let you guys know that my husband is going to be here on Monday, Valentine's Day instead of the 17th which is good. I did as he asked and posted the message on Facebook for his friends and family to all see and know that he is coming home early. Well here is where the rant come in...

His grandmother (whom I loved) posted a reply stating that 'he will be a good slave like always since he is coming home.' Here is the thing. My husband is the type that would do anything that is asked of him and he would do anything for me. When he was home I would asked him to do things but it has only happen since I been pregnant because I have limits. His gma complained about how he cares for the animals. The only thing he does for my pets is the cat boxes and he sometimes feeds the pets when he sees that they need it and I haven't. And he does it because he loves them and consider his own.

I ASK him to do things not tell him (which the definition of a slave is to tell or make someone what to do). Its his choice if he wants to do it or not. I use to have a problem on telling people what to do because of my insecurity but now since I met him I ask and he can do as he pleases.

Im at the point Im about to cry with a mix of being pissed beyond I have ever been. I mean I thought these people liked me but it seems that they only liked me to show people that they did. And now I'm seriously thinking about not going there for Easter this year and just let him go and I just go to my mom's. Even if the baby is born by then.

He wont be home from Chicago until Monday so he hasn't seen it or anything. I'm going to talk to him when he gets home about it.

His family was raised that the woman does everything. But we split all chores and stuff. When we first moved in he said that he was going to be in charge of the kitchen. Which include dishes, trash, and sweeping and mopping when needed *a very tiny room*. My job was to do all that involved pets, vacuum, dust, do the laundry, pick up after him *he can be a tad messy*. now when the baby gets here I will be doing everything the baby needs PLUS everything that I did before. Its like Hell Im not super woman. I can't do everything, plus work, care for a baby, plus make time for all my doctors appointments. And Im going to be laid up after the baby is born because of my neck surgery. DX

Ok, I know not everyone is going to agree with me on this ... but.... and this is NOT to say that it is right how his family is acting....I think you should just ignore it if you can, at least for now. You're under a lot of stress, he's obviously under a lot of stress, his family probably MEANS well ( I have to deal with my husbands very conservative, old fashioned family as well. AND his mother tried to tell me to get rid of my bird) Confrontation and making him feel like he has to defend you or pick sides is just going to add stress. I would just not let them in on details of your every day life that might set them off. Just don't tell them that he is cleaning the litter box or helping with the laundry if you can totally avoid the subject. It may sound bad, but just avoiding certain subjects all together has been the only way that as an Atheist, I've been able to keep the peace with his Born Again Christian family for 10 years.