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 Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 6:03 pm
As most of you know my husband is at Navy Boot Camp right now at the Great Lakes Base near Chicago. Well I got a call last night that shocked the Hell out of me and brought be to complete tears....
My Husband had a mental break down while he was there and is now in the Insane Asylum on the base. They have him on Suicide watch....He called me last night to talk to me for 15 minutes and said that he just couldn't do it and missed me way too much. He regretted not calling me when he got there the first day and he said he was stupid for not taking a picture of me.
All I could say to him was that I love him and I am proud that he at least tried to go into the Navy and no matter what he wants to do, Come home or stay, I will be 100% behind him. I told him to not worry and just get better for all three of us. I told him that I will send him a picture of us to him as soon as I can and he will have it. He said he wants to come home but with the snow storm that just hit and the snow we are to get Friday-Monday the Navy wont let him leave because there is no way for him to get home. Roads are close and there are no flights to my area.
I dont know what else to do or say to him. If I could I would go to the base myself and see him to reassure him that he will be okay and that I support him fully. The only reason he went to the Navy was to challenge himself and to give us a good future.
I need some advice please. D=
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Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 6:15 pm
ugghh, I dunno what to say. I mean, my ex and I weren't together very long and he was already in the military when I met him AND I wasn't preggers.
And that was hard enough. He was done his Basic Training and had a computer and we talked via skype and saw each other most weekends. But he would always say that he wished he could wake up next to me every day and that he constantly missed me. I can't help but feel that that's mainly why he broke it off. He said III wouldn't be able to handle it but I think he was scared of THIS happening. Getting too attached and giving up on everything he dreamed of and worked so hard for.
Anyway, if your hubby can't handle it, he can't. I'm sure he can support you and give you a good future with a job closer to home.
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 6:21 pm
The Base wont release him at all and he might not be able to go home at all. -sighs- I know he can support us if he came home but Its the whole thing of them actually let him come home and stuff.
They wont let him come home until he is better and neither one of us knows when that will be.
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Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 6:49 pm
My boyfriend has had moments where he doesn't know what he's going to do. But both of you need to understand that it's just like being medboard. They can't leave until they get better because they are a risk. They don't know if he's going to go on a killing spree or something, so he needs to get better in order to come home, even if that means that he has to fake it. If he clears out, he can come home and you need to tell him that. There isn't anything either of you can do other than support eachother and get him off such a high risk level.
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 10:26 am
They are sending him home and will be home on the 17th. Not sure why it would take 10 business days to get him home 5 hours away but whatever. As long as he is home I dont care.
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 11:06 am
xXGabriella-ShadowfireXx They are sending him home and will be home on the 17th. Not sure why it would take 10 business days to get him home 5 hours away but whatever. As long as he is home I dont care. awe Im glad to hear it,my mom said its pretty common for that to happen
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 11:41 am
Cowgirl-with-heart xXGabriella-ShadowfireXx They are sending him home and will be home on the 17th. Not sure why it would take 10 business days to get him home 5 hours away but whatever. As long as he is home I dont care. awe Im glad to hear it,my mom said its pretty common for that to happen It is? o.o XD well as long as my hubby is happy I dont care how long it takes. He sounded really sick on the phone like he had a cold or the flu. >.> Which will suck because my immunity is really low right now and I can get sick really easy.
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 6:33 pm
He's doing the right thing. When my boyfriend was in basic for the army, there were several people in his section that killed themselves. If he's feeling that way, going home to you is the best thing.
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 6:38 pm
Vanilla eXee
He's doing the right thing. When my boyfriend was in basic for the army, there were several people in his section that killed themselves. If he's feeling that way, going home to you is the best thing. Well he will be here in about 2 weeks. He is mostly excited about seeing our son being born in 13 weeks *that is the due date. I doubt he will be born on time* He is already told me his plan. 1)Get a better job 2) go back to school *I support 100%*, 3) and find a better, safer animal and baby friendly place maybe to call our own. We want a Rent to Own house or a Contract for Deed.
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 6:44 pm
It really is a much better idea for him to be home and working somewhere close by. Goodness forbid anything happened while he was serving. Now he'll be able to support you with more than just money and he'll be there for the important events in his son's life. I wish you luck, hope he has a safe trip home.
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 6:49 pm
Vanilla eXee
It really is a much better idea for him to be home and working somewhere close by. Goodness forbid anything happened while he was serving. Now he'll be able to support you with more than just money and he'll be there for the important events in his son's life. I wish you luck, hope he has a safe trip home.I agree with you. It was pretty much our back up plan anyways. Well not the house part. We were planning to leave state but we really wanted to stay here for a few years first. Plus with him here I can recover from the surgery that I'm suppose to have after the baby is born in peace. I was really worried about not being able to breast feed and the boy not taking bottle. But with his father there it will help since he will be bonded to the both of us and we can bottle train the baby early.
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Posted: Sun Feb 06, 2011 7:09 pm
I'm glad they are sending him home to you. My husband was never in the army, but he does have some mental health issues and has been institutionalized more than once. It really is for the best that he's getting the help that he needs. The best thing you can do is just be really supportive and make sure he doesn't think you feel like he is a failure and let him know you will stand by him. You should really encourage him to seek additional counciling after he is released too. I wish you both the best of luck.
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Posted: Sun Feb 06, 2011 9:04 pm
imderanged I'm glad they are sending him home to you. My husband was never in the army, but he does have some mental health issues and has been institutionalized more than once. It really is for the best that he's getting the help that he needs. The best thing you can do is just be really supportive and make sure he doesn't think you feel like he is a failure and let him know you will stand by him. You should really encourage him to seek additional counciling after he is released too. I wish you both the best of luck. He told me what triggered the break down. He has Anxiety attacks. He hadnt had one for almost two years until he went to the Navy. We really couldnt afford his medication for it so he stopped taking it *he really never needed the meds after he met me*. Once he gets back we are getting him on the meds again and making him go to the doctor for a full check up. I talked to him yesterday and he sounds so much better. I can hear happiness in his voice when he spoke.
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Posted: Tue Feb 08, 2011 3:45 pm
Update:
Darrell *husband* called and told me that everything did go threw and he will be home next week at the latest. XD He told me he was as bored as hell and that he keeps getting placed in different divisions. He doesnt even know which one he is in now and its making him mad. I can't help but laugh because that is like his normal self and him being his normal self is what I want. Each day I talk to him he sounds alot better and happier soon he will be his self 100%.
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Posted: Wed Feb 09, 2011 1:04 am
That's great he is doing better. It sucks that the meds are so expensive. I have an anxiety disorder too. The med I take is expensive too, even with insurance. Xanax is cheap, but I don't like how it makes me feel. Personally I've had more luck with the SSRIs. Lexapro works well for me even at a very low dosage, but everyone is different. maybe he can talk to his doctor about trying some meds that have a generic to help with the $$$. Cognitive behavioral therapy can also be very helpful for people with anxiety disorders.
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