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 Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 6:57 pm
I don't know... I'm just at a loss.
I've always had a laid back attitude towards life. For example, I had a friend of mine steal $600 from me. but I didn't get mad, I just confronted him about it, he paid me back (after roughly 2 months) and through all of it I can honestly say I didn't even feel a twinge of hatred for the person.
But, ever since my fiancee broke up with me, I've had this bitterness that just wont go away. it started out small... but the break up was a year and a half ago, and the bitterness inside has grown to the point where I feel like I'm a completely different person...
I want to be the person I was before. life in general is so much easier when you can let things roll off your shoulder... but nothing works. Now, the smallest things seem to set me off. just the sight of certain people makes my blood boil... and I'm at a complete loss...
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Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 8:34 am
I feel your pain. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 9:07 am
I can definitely relate, although I tend to get over things pretty fast so I've never had to go through that for that long. If it was a shorter amount of time, then I would say just give it more time. But a year and a half is a pretty long time.
Sometimes when you get into a funk, you just stay home and mope, which definitely doesn't help. So try getting out and doing things that you enjoy if you haven't been. Hang out with friends or find some new friends. But if that doesn't work, you might want to try talking to a professional about it.
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Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 9:23 am
I dunno... Maybe take a little time off on the weekend with your friends to have some pure fun doing whatever you love to do and you can forget about everything. Thrills of rollercoasters, the relaxation of watching the clouds... Idk... But you might need just a little big fun time to forget about everything!
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Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 12:19 pm
Well its reasonable to be in a sour mood with the end of a heavy relationship. It sounds like you have alot of pent up anger that you need to find a way to release. Its going to take time to get over this kind of stuff, but you should eventually go back to normal with the right... regimen? That's not the right word.
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Posted: Thu Feb 03, 2011 1:14 am
thank you for all the advice. One thing I'd like to get back into is local theatre. I'm not that good at it, but being a guy who can carry a tune, geting small roles in musicals isn't usually that hard.
unfortunately I work second shift, I get to work at 3 in the afternoon and don't get home untill 12:30 at night. It really does put a damper on anything elts I'd like to do...
mabye I should get a new job...
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 11:14 am
Oren Soloman thank you for all the advice. One thing I'd like to get back into is local theatre. I'm not that good at it, but being a guy who can carry a tune, geting small roles in musicals isn't usually that hard. unfortunately I work second shift, I get to work at 3 in the afternoon and don't get home untill 12:30 at night. It really does put a damper on anything elts I'd like to do... mabye I should get a new job... revamp your life i fully support the new job and mixing things up a bit and changing your routine makes life more exciting and something to look forward to.
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 11:29 am
I agree with the new job part ^w^ it may help you be yourself again. and if you need someone to talk to I'm always here since Not many others talk to me ._. so I'm up for a chat ^w^ and according to a lot of people I'm easy enough to vent at and I don't mind it
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 2:20 pm
I went through something similar a few years ago. It did take me awhile to get over it, but I changed alot during that time. I became more professional, a lot more polite, even changed my appearance and thought process. I'm sure if those people saw me now they wouldn't know what to think.
I had a lot of time by myself to cope and change for the better. Maybe the same could happen to you. Or you just need to find a new lover.
sweatdrop Either way time will heal all wounds.
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Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 2:37 pm
Vaan_Lohengrin Oren Soloman thank you for all the advice. One thing I'd like to get back into is local theatre. I'm not that good at it, but being a guy who can carry a tune, geting small roles in musicals isn't usually that hard. unfortunately I work second shift, I get to work at 3 in the afternoon and don't get home untill 12:30 at night. It really does put a damper on anything elts I'd like to do... mabye I should get a new job... revamp your life i fully support the new job and mixing things up a bit and changing your routine makes life more exciting and something to look forward to. I agree with Vaan, make some changes, make your schedule different, meet some new people and keep the close friends. Life's too short to be stuck in routine.
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