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 Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 12:04 am
Yeah sooo...
I'm 20 years old and I've never been on a date, had a boyfriend, been kissed or anything. Lately I've been feeling like theres got to be something wrong with me because no guys have ever asked me out or anything. Everyday I see little 13 year old that have boyfriends or not very attractive girls with boyfriends, whenever i see that it's like how can they have boyfriends and yet not one single guy has asked me out? idk maybe i'm ugly or weird or something. So I guess what i'm getting at is, is it wierd that i'm 20 and have never even been on a date, been kissed, or had a boyfriend? I just feel kind of mopey lately.
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 12:25 am
*hugs* hun, i know how you feel. it's annoying to see other people with dates when they aren't all that atractive or anything. i've never been asked out either or on a date and it's really annoying and depressing. keep your chin up and keep going, everything will work out and if anything maybe you should start asking people out, just to try it?
btw, i'm 20 as well and gay so i'm not one of those shmucks who wants the girl to ask ME out XD
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 12:39 am
You are the apple...
I used to know a girl who was your age at the time and was in the same situation. Only difference was she wasn't looking for a guy or anything.
I havent seen a picture of you, but just because a guy wont ask you out doesnt mean you're ugly. Maybe the one's who want to date you are just too shy to ask you? Do any guys have your eye? Ask one of 'em out on a date. The worst they can say is no. "No" can hurt, but you'll move on. There will be other guys.
No guys that have your eye? Ask a guy friend on a date. Or hell, just dont even call it a date. Just go hang out. The worst is you'll stay friends, the best is something might spring up between you two.
Not dating or not being kissed isn't a bad thing. There's so much pressure in society to have been in a relationship or just to have had your first kiss. While i've had both, I feel no need to do either at the moment.
It's up to you, what you want to do, these are just some options. Pick one and run with it. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
and I am your core.
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 8:46 am
No, that is definitely not weird. I started dating pretty young, but when I got older I actually met a lot of really inexperienced guys, guys who were still virgins even past the age of 21. One of them had never even kissed a girl. And they weren't creepy, or ugly, or anything either. They usually just hadn't found the right person or been in the right situation to be romantic or sexual.
So feel free to ask a guy out if you have your eye on someone and want to speed up the process. But other than that, don't worry about it. It's far more common to be an inexperienced adult than most people realize.
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 2:44 pm
I know the obvious solution is to ask a guy out but I just don't think I could. I'm pretty shy myself and I am afraid of rejection. I'm also slightly old-fashioned in that I think the guy should be the one to ask a girl out. There is a guy who has caught my eye but I just don't know if he feels the same. He's quite a bit older than me and I think he might have a girlfriend, not sure though. And I do hang out with my guy friends but i dont like any of them in that way, and besides they have girlfriends. I've never really cared about the pressure of society, this is more about me actually wanting to have a relationship. If you all are curious about what I look like scroll down in the about me section of my profile.
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 8:00 pm
omgfurubarocks If you all are curious about what I look like scroll down in the about me section of my profile.
You are the apple...
Ugly and unattractive? Hardly. You're rather cute and good looking = )
and I am your core.
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 8:04 pm
 Times have changed why don't you try asking someone out?
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 8:09 pm
Testicular Diabeetus Times have changed why don't you try asking someone out?
You are the apple...omgfurubarocks I know the obvious solution is to ask a guy out but I just don't think I could. I'm pretty shy myself and I am afraid of rejection. and I am your core.
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 8:34 pm
I'm betting it's because you got 1st place in a game of Assassin's Creed Brotherhood out of 8 people.
There's your problem, they are scared of how awesome you are. xd
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 8:49 pm
my advice, is don't sell yourself short, and don't give up the goods too easy. no matter what, you still deserve your standards, and your dignity.
I am about to be 21, and never had a date in my life. my first kiss was when I was 18, and it was by NO means on my terms, nor enjoyable. in fact, it ruined kissing for the rest of my life. and I lost my virginity to rape; by a catholic girl who was also a minor. and the only reason she did it, was because she likes hurting people.
when me and my girlfriend split up last year I had seemingly lost my "touch". I had all of 4 or 5 sessions of Sex that year, to a total of 3 girls in 4 encounters. not exactly my best. I didn't get any compliments, and 4 of those 5 times I still woke up alone. it hurts. I felt like I was no longer attractive, and that caused my depression to get worse and worse.
when we got back together, I found out that in all y awkwardness and fear of being bad in the sack, I had become better than ever. I only found out because I asked for feedback. redface
but my point is, that you may feel unnatractive because you aren't being asked out, or even hit on... but th etruth is that you might be so attractiv that you intimidate others who also feel self-conscious. maybe these boys just feel that they don't stand a chance with you, so they lower their standards and go out with easy middle-school girls and desperate "uglies". though I say that word without much seriousness, because I'm told myactual tastes fall into the category that the majority of the world considers ugly. >.> to which, I just wanna say right now, ******** all of you who think the girls I like are ugly.
now, another thing I wanna point out, is that those 13 year-olds... they don't know what the ******** they are doing. they don't know what love is. they don't know what romance is. they have no decency, no standards, no anything. they are just going out with eachother because it's expected.
you have better standars than that, and a better upbringing. you may be waiting, and you may be overdue, but at least you have this going for you; you are better than them.
:hugs you.:
so don't giive up just yet, and don't let it get you too down. sometimes the depression is part of what makes the process all the longer. be proactive. maybe if you make the first move, you'll be surprised to find out the the guy you picked has had his eyes on you the whole time and was just too nervous to make a move. smile
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 10:51 pm
I actually have very high standards for myself. I would never even consider doing anything untill I knew someone extremely well and was in an exclusive steady relationship. I don't want a boyfriend or anything for the physical aspect of the relationship, though I wouldnt mind that. I'm more interested in the holding hands, going on dates, maybe some kissing etc. I want romance
I also know that those 13 year olds arent in "real" relationships. I was more using that as an example that everytime I do see them i'm reminded of how single i am. I know i have better standards than that. I just can't help what I feel about my situation.
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2011 7:05 am
Well you already know my standing on the issue at hand Cass, [should I retrieve the PM incase you forgot :3] But if you ever need to talk about things you know I am here <3
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2011 9:56 am
Rock4ourRock omgfurubarocks If you all are curious about what I look like scroll down in the about me section of my profile.
Ugly and unattractive? Hardly. You're rather cute and good looking = )
and I am your core. Ah , its cause you look like the dude from True Blood. That explains it.
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2011 11:21 am
BrokenJanders Well you already know my standing on the issue at hand Cass, [should I retrieve the PM incase you forgot :3] But if you ever need to talk about things you know I am here <3 yeah i know <3 Just wanted some different perspectives
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2011 11:48 pm
pirulaso Rock4ourRock omgfurubarocks If you all are curious about what I look like scroll down in the about me section of my profile.
Ugly and unattractive? Hardly. You're rather cute and good looking = )
and I am your core. Ah , its cause you look like the dude from True Blood. That explains it.
You are the apple...
dawhanow?
and I am your core.
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