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Since this is basically a chatterbox, I wouldn't say that it's irrelivant.

Everyone has issues with their parents. Well, accept for one of my friends, but she doesn't count because she's perfect. I know that I have problems dealing with my parents about 85% of the time. Usually I'm fighting with one and totally fine with the other. But sometimes it's both of them.

I have a different situation than you though. My mom wants me to "respect" my dad, but the thing is, he simply does not care. He's always joking, and then when I joke back, my mom punishes me. It's really irritating. Most of the time, I just avoid all contact with her until the next morning. By then both of us have cooled off.

Okay - I kind of got sidetracked with my own personal problems. Back to yours.

I don't know your mom exactly and I cannot presume to judge your family and your lifestyle. However, what you wrote in the last line disturbs me slightly - I don't think that parents should hit their children. But I may just have been raised differently. I mean, my mother has hit me, but I was three and I was being spanked. There's a difference.

Also, I don't think that your mom has the right to talk about your grades with other parents. It's a family topic that shouldn't be discussed with others. She can ask other parents what they do to make their kids study, but it isn't right for her to point blank tell them that you're bad.

Sometimes my parents will talk about my friends, too. About how nice they are and how they never talk back to their parents and the like. It's annoying since I want to point out that I'm different then they are. I have a different personality and I'm better than them in different aspects. But it's human nature to see the bad, not the good.

Also, on the same topic, when I try to compare my parents to other parents, they tell me that they have their own policies and ideas and that they aren't other parents. It's very frustrating. Hypocrites annoy me.

My mom also thought I was crazy to laugh at something I had read. She doesn't find it strange when people laugh when they watch a movie, but she finds it strange when people laugh at something they've read. She gave me a huge lecture on how antisocial I was becoming. Then she went to sleep while I sulked.

Oh, wow. I just read the part where you mentioned that you were asian. My mom's Korean, but she speaks English very well. I could never type a rant like this with her in the same room. Thank god my computer is in my bedroom.

And yes, I think that it's awkward to know that your dad knows that you have had your period. When I first got it, I avoided telling either of my parents. Of course, since my mom shares the same bathroom with me, she found out. But thankfully, she agreed to keep it from my dad. That sounds like a real bitchy thing of your mom to do.

Unfortunately, my dad ended up finding out on a road trip. I got it in the car and I didn't notice. When I got out at a rest stop - just to say the least of it, I was mortifed and my dad knew.

Parents do add to the stress of growing up. It's a simple fact. Even though I know they've been in our same situtation, it's been way too long for them to remember exactly how we feel.

What I would try to do (it occasionally works for me) is either:

1. Try and write a note explaining exactly how you feel. Therefore, you can make sure that your feelings are articulate and well thought out. People generally tend to respond negatively to yelling and screaming; a note would ensure that everything is calm. Also, by writing a note, it shows that this is something you feel strongly about - you've taken the time to write everything down.

2. You could try and sit down and CALMLY explain everything if you don't want to write a letter. Make sure that you know your key points so you aren't repeating the same thing over and over again - this looks and sounds bad.

I would not raise your voice as this usually leads to a screaming match. People are more likely to listen in a calm atmosphere.

It's past 11:15 pm now and I have school tomorrow. If I think of anything else, I'll definately post tomorrow.

I hope that your relationship between you and your mother improves. <3