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 Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 2:18 pm
ive been engaged for how long and just today i decided to book the place for the reception in august. i still dont know where i will have the wedding though. catering in included with the reception place, freaking $1000, but booking the place wasnt too expensive thanks to my awesome connections smile
really though, i hate planning it and find it depressing. all my life i loved forward to planning my wedding with my mother and needless to say that wont be happening. she always promised she would be at my wedding and i always end up thinking about that promise whenever i start to do anything with the wedding and it just depresses me even more. my friends, aunt and sister all say they will help and i am grateful, but it isnt the same at all. at some point i really need to stop being so emotionaly damaged because of this xp
another reason i dont like my wedding right now is that i feel afraid to talk about it on facebook because most of my friends and most of the fiance's family arent invited. he doesnt get along with most of his family at all and most of my friends are all in a group and there are a couple people in that group i cant stand but if you invite one person you need to invite them all or else you must be the antichrist. so i felt it would be easier on me to just not invite any of that group, plus now i save money on food.
is it tacky for me not to do an open bar? my family are all big drinkers but an open bar is so expensive and i probably wont be drinking from the bar. some people tell me its tacky and i need it and some tell me they can suck it up and pay for the drinks themselves.
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 5:21 pm
My Uncle's wedding didn't have an open bar, no one condemned them for it. Think of it this way, if people have to pay then they'll drink less so then there will be less people driving home drunk.
I know it's not the same, but it'll be fun having your sister and everything help plan <3
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 5:30 pm
 You don't need a bar. I have been to plenty of weddings that didn't have bars. Heck if you want to copy me you can make it b.y.o.b. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 12:24 am
You don't need a bar at all. Those saying that it's tacky that you don't have an open bar are 100% in the wrong. I am not serving alcohol at all at my wedding because 1. I'm allergic to anything that isn't clear, and 2. IT'S EXPENSIVE! They estimate that the average open bar adds between 3 and 5000$ to a wedding budget.
As for the wedding planning with the mother, I'm sorry that your loss prevents you from doing so. Perhaps plan a small memorial gesture to her. One of my friend's weddings, the groom's mother had died just a few months before, and they left an open seat in the front row, and when he came out he placed a rose upon the chair to honor her and have her there in "spirit".
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 1:43 am
A wedding is a huge thing, a huge change. I think it would scare me too at some point.
Most of the weddings I went to had an open bar. Open bars are nice through the guests eyes. But a killing for your money. If it's too expensive, don't do it. Think about your money, you don't want to live on water and bread the week after the wedding, right?
It's great friends are helping you. Of course it's not the same as your mother helping you. But you can still make it a great time with your friends.
I agree with Akiska and the others.
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 5:35 am
Akiska You don't need a bar at all. Those saying that it's tacky that you don't have an open bar are 100% in the wrong. I am not serving alcohol at all at my wedding because 1. I'm allergic to anything that isn't clear, and 2. IT'S EXPENSIVE! They estimate that the average open bar adds between 3 and 5000$ to a wedding budget. As for the wedding planning with the mother, I'm sorry that your loss prevents you from doing so. Perhaps plan a small memorial gesture to her. One of my friend's weddings, the groom's mother had died just a few months before, and they left an open seat in the front row, and when he came out he placed a rose upon the chair to honor her and have her there in "spirit". i think i would cry if i saw an empty seat meant for her. it is a nice idea though i think its like $500 an hour for open bar at the place my reception is and thanks everyone, no open bar. if anyone bitches i can blame you guys XD
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 5:46 am
Shanna66 Akiska You don't need a bar at all. Those saying that it's tacky that you don't have an open bar are 100% in the wrong. I am not serving alcohol at all at my wedding because 1. I'm allergic to anything that isn't clear, and 2. IT'S EXPENSIVE! They estimate that the average open bar adds between 3 and 5000$ to a wedding budget. As for the wedding planning with the mother, I'm sorry that your loss prevents you from doing so. Perhaps plan a small memorial gesture to her. One of my friend's weddings, the groom's mother had died just a few months before, and they left an open seat in the front row, and when he came out he placed a rose upon the chair to honor her and have her there in "spirit". i think i would cry if i saw an empty seat meant for her. it is a nice idea though i think its like $500 an hour for open bar at the place my reception is and thanks everyone, no open bar. if anyone bitches i can blame you guys XD Send them to us. cool
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Posted: Fri Jan 28, 2011 4:33 pm
I didn't serve liquor at my wedding either. Part of it was because my mother-in-law had a fit and said she wouldn't help with anything if we had booze & I wanted to keep the peace ( I even had a religious service to keep his side of the family happy evil ) But 2 other major contributing factors to us not serving alcohol were the expense AND a LOT of our guest were underage & we didn't want to have to worry about legal issues surrounding that (I was 21 and my husband was 20 when we got married)
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