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 Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 4:55 pm
I recently broke off a long distance relationship with a great guy that had been going for 14 months. I just couldn't take the stress of loving someone who seemed so unobtainable, so I told himthe best thing to do, in the long run, was to end it.
Well lets just say, it really did nearly kill him. He cried, he begged, he pleaded, he appologized. And last night he called just to make sure that my plain ride back home went safely...
And I don't know... I mean, i couldn't go back to that, to the crying at night and lonely nights out where all my friends have their bfs and I don't... But I get sick to my stomach everytime I think of his shaking voice, or his sobbing, or him having to tell his friends why he is so depressed again (he has been battling depression for the past few years).
So, the oint of this whole rant, basically, is to ask: How do you get over breaking somebody's heart?!
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 6:56 pm
Just time.
I know its really hard, but just think of him as a great time that has been.
And think of now as a new&next phase in your life.
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 10:26 pm
You keep moving forward; you keep living your life. Emotional pain of that particular sort really is usually healed by time, & only time. I know that that kind of sucks, because just waiting to feel better certainly isn't easy, but there's simply nothing you can just "do" to get over stuff like that.
That said, however, there are certainly things you can do to make sure that you're not miserable over this situation for longer than is absolutely necessary... & that mostly consists of letting yourself move on with your life (or making yourself move on with your life, if that's what it takes). Life is a series of new people, places, situations, events, etc etc. ; people continuously come & go through one's life, & no matter how it may seem now, one day in the not too distant future (although not tomorrow) you'll find that both you and the boy whose heart you broke have both totally moved past the situation... & yes, he WILL get over it. He WILL date other people, fall in love with other people, hurt & be hurt by other people... I'm sure he'll never forget you, but he won't have any feelings towards you. Don't think you're a horrible person, & don't feel guilty... You did what you needed to do for yourself & what was best for your life, & you should be damn proud of yourself for that.
The one big thing I really want to advise that you DON'T do, though, is remain in contact with him. Just don't communicate with him at all. If you do, you'll keep getting hurt, & he'll keep getting SUPER hurt; it will be like you breaking his heart over & over again, because even if you have a conversation with him in which you try & make him feel better it will ultimately conjure up to many memories & emotions & pain.
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 10:32 pm
elyzia The one big thing I really want to advise that you DON'T do, though, is remain in contact with him. Just don't communicate with him at all. If you do, you'll keep getting hurt, & he'll keep getting SUPER hurt; it will be like you breaking his heart over & over again, because even if you have a conversation with him in which you try & make him feel better it will ultimately conjure up to many memories & emotions & pain.
I second this paragraph.
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 10:38 pm
how i deal with it is i kill them ............
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 10:43 pm
END_OF_ALL_HOPE975 how i deal with it is i kill them ............ You're not helping... rolleyes To be honest, the whole ordeal was set where noone could get out without getting hurt. In that sense, depression was bound to happen but the best thing you can do is keep looking forward, looking back on things that bother you won't change the future for the best.
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 4:50 pm
w thank you guys that helps alot. I'm still a bit hurt becuase I know it will take him a while to heal, but I am very relieved to hear all of you say that i did the right thangs and that things willget better...
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 2:53 am
I thought about giving you some advice for a second. But there are too many questions I'd have to ask to give you the advice you would need and I'm not sure you would tell me the truth.
EDIT:
I will say this. Be a total b***h to him. If he holds you in a positive light he will never get over you.
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Posted: Thu Jan 27, 2011 3:56 am
When you enter into any kind of relationship, there is a chance of that happening.
Don't forget the pain you've caused other people, and don't try to "move on".... Living with it will serve as a reminder of who you are, good and bad, and what you've done, good or bad, so that you will not pass harsh judgement or so that way there will be a limit upon your pride. It will also make making decisions involving other people later in life easier... not where you can ignore their feelings, but where you can acknowledge them and weight the costs with the benefits.
It's only when humans acknowledge the fact that we hurt other humans that we can stop acting as rose vines, with thorns all growing and furthermost twisting and knotting up, mindlessly stabbing into one another through their words and actions.
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Posted: Thu Jan 27, 2011 4:23 am
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