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Okay, so here's the deal.
I live with my grandparents at their house.
I have two uncles who live here too...
And I have a cousin who lives here because she has issues with her own family at her other place.
I try to take care of her when I can, and whenever she asks for favors from me, I at least attempt to help her out the most that I can.

Because she's family, I do love her. But she does a few things that gets on my nerves sometimes, like...



- Often attempting to ask my boyfriend for favors through me.

- Asking me for favors that she knows I can't do, unless I had an actual car [she expects me to ask my boyfriend if I can borrow the car so I can give her or her own boyfriend a ride somewhere].

- Stealing some things that belong to her family members; when we ask her, she uses excuses like "Oh, I picked it up from this place/that place."

- Stealing things in general.

- Always telling me about how she broke up with her boyfriend, but then tells me that they're together not even a week later and that she has had conversations with him about their plans to marry after high school. Based on this kind of on and off relationship that she keeps complaining to me about? Hmm...

- Getting on my case about little problems that I have with my boyfriend when she knows she has worse problems with hers.



So yeah.
I found out that my cousin stole my boyfriend's iPod because his has a few unique marks that he put on it when he had first gotten it a year ago [that way, it's easy to tell whether it's his]. It had gone missing for almost a few months now, and whenever I bring up how she got "her" iPod, she always tells me that her boyfriend bought it for her.
But when I spoke to her sister [who has never lied; whenever she had tried doing so in the past, she always breaks and tells the truth soon after] not even an hour ago, I heard that my cousin had apparently just "found it on the ground at school." Or, at least that's what my cousin told her sister.

Also, I know for a fact that her boyfriend has money. He's always getting new surfboards, new sunglasses, new game systems, new this and that... And I also know that he had gotten her an iPod Nano before. My cousin gave that one back to him after they broke up one time.
This iPod, however, is busted up in all the same ways that my boyfriend's iPod was, and there's the same mark on the screen that he had gotten in the past from keeping it on for so long.
She had also stolen my flat-iron straightener that my mom had saved up money to buy for me [that thing costed almost 300 dollars...] and sold it online about a year and a half ago for a third of the original price. I didn't tell my mom because it would break her heart that all her hard work just went for so much less than what she spent for me, but my GOD. And she still has the nerve to ask my boyfriend and myself for favors!

I got the iPod back to my boyfriend, and my boyfriend helped me put a lock on my door [there never was one on my room door since I was just renting the room, but my grandparents were okay with me putting the lock up], but he and I are still very upset about this recent theft. I'm glad that I got to the iPod before she could sell that, too. I feel that I shouldn't directly bring it up with my cousin because I really can't afford to have family drama in the house, but I'm not too sure right now. It's just too much for me, and it would be too much for my grandparents if they knew that one of their grand-daughters has been stealing things from everyone for who knows how long.

I know this was long, but do you have any advice? :c

This is all true. o:

As for what she spends the money on, she actually seems to sell things and buy other items, such as a digital camera for herself, a new straightener, tongue rings, belly button rings, etc. It seems that she is extremely materialistic, sadly. :c

I have brought up the issue with my grandparents. My grandma, of course, saw this as an act of wrongdoing, and spoke with the both of us to figure things out. My cousin constantly denied having even seen my boyfriend's iPod, but eventually she gave in and admitted to stealing it.
I'm mainly relieved because now my grandparents know that my cousin isn't always a good, obedient girl, and that she actually lies/steals often.

My grandparents told her that if she lies or steals [or does both] again, they'll have no choice but to kick her out of the house and send her back to her family's place. My cousin really doesn't want that, so hopefully she'll cut back on all that dishonesty.