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 Posted: Sat Jan 15, 2011 4:57 am
Ok so, I started fingering this girl and stuff and It was little awkward since we talked a lot online but, just actually met in person. We are hiding that I am there for awhile then eventually dad goes to bed. So, I start making move on her and I am fingering her and it's awkwardly silent except for a like wet sound coming from her vag. She says "I hate that sound and laughs a bit." So, trying to bring the mood back into sex I say, "You want me to put something else in there instead." So, she says yeah I put on the condom and suddenly i start getting soft. So, we spent 2 hrs trying to get it up she, sucked it and it was getting hard but then she was grossed out by taste of latex. So, she stopped and during this whole time she is giving me a hand job suck on and off. We kinda couldn't stop laughing about how sad the situation was. Plus didn't help I kinda gave up and cracked so many jokes during it. Eventually we just quit though. Now, I just need major help, for some odd reasons she wants to try some other time. I don't wanna screw up again? D: How can I get better at pleasing her and keeping hard. ]: Like even afterward when I got home I jerked off and it was little hard to get completely hard. Should I go to the Dr? Is it just my horrible inexperience? Is there some tips of how I can get better? like REAL tips not just "Well be yourself." Because myself is a goofy ******** who can break the ice with a girl just horrible at sex.
D: My manhood is at stake. Please help!!~~
(BTW I AM 16!)
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Posted: Sat Jan 15, 2011 9:18 am
If you're able to get hard at other times, then this probably isn't a medical issue or anything that you need to see a doctor about. A lot of guys have trouble getting or staying hard when they are nervous or stressed. And a lot of guys are nervous or stressed their first time, their first few times, their first time with a new partner, if a lot is going on at school or work, if they're afraid of being caught, etc. So you'll probably find that the issue goes away once you get more comfortable with this girl.
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Posted: Sat Jan 15, 2011 11:08 am
LorienLlewellyn If you're able to get hard at other times, then this probably isn't a medical issue or anything that you need to see a doctor about. A lot of guys have trouble getting or staying hard when they are nervous or stressed. And a lot of guys are nervous or stressed their first time, their first few times, their first time with a new partner, if a lot is going on at school or work, if they're afraid of being caught, etc. So you'll probably find that the issue goes away once you get more comfortable with this girl. Pretty much this. smile Without going into too much detail, when my first time happened, it took my boyfriend more than one try before he could stay hard. And he had no problems after that, we were both just really nervous and that was how it manifested in him. sweatdrop So no worries. Be confident! You're both learning, and you were with someone new, so it's understandable that you'd be a little nervous/the situation was a little awkward. As Lorien said, as you get more comfortable with your partner, the issue should go away.
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Posted: Sat Jan 15, 2011 11:44 am
Okay, that helps. >.< I felt so ashamed.
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Posted: Mon Jan 17, 2011 5:33 am
Another question would Viagra or something like that help or is it a horrible Idea. I just really wanna avoid this happening again next time and trying to prepare COMPLETELY for it.
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Posted: Mon Jan 17, 2011 6:14 am
You probably do not need medication, and medication that you don't need is usually a bad idea. It sounds like you just need time to get comfortable. It's nothing to feel weird about. A lot of guys need time to get comfortable with their partner before they can get or keep an erection, just like a lot of girls need time to get comfortable before they can get wet or relax their v****a enough for penetration. Most girls will understand. So if you still feel really weird and embarrassed about it, it actually might be a sign that you're taking things too fast with this girl and are nowhere near comfortable with her or that you're not very comfortable with your own body. And if either of those are the case, it might be wise to wait a little while before having sex again. You can always find other things to do until you get a bit more comfortable with a girl. It's not like there's any rush.
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Posted: Mon Jan 17, 2011 2:45 pm
Kojima Shiro Another question would Viagra or something like that help or is it a horrible Idea. I just really wanna avoid this happening again next time and trying to prepare COMPLETELY for it. You'd never be able to get it. My understanding is that Viagra is available by prescription, and no (legitimate) doctor is going to prescribe Viagra for a 16 year old, especially when there's nothing medically wrong with you. It takes time and patience, really. smile Maybe just don't think about having sex until you've been around her for a little while? No point in putting pressure on yourself to make it *perfect*, when sometimes the beauty is in letting it happen naturally. Was it awkward at the time that my boyfriend took awhile before he was able to stay hard enough to wear a condom? Oh yes. Do I regret it? No, because the moment was special and we were sharing our first time with each other. It didn't go perfectly, but I don't know if I would have wanted it to anyways. As Lorien said, it's better not to rush sex. It's a big deal and can totally change a relationship if the people involved aren't prepared, for better or for worse.
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