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Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 2:49 pm

Lately it seems that my mother has been doing everything she can to either piss me off or to get me to do something stupid like run away from home..
I don't know what to do, she's extremely ignorant to anything I have to say..

Well, my older sister is planning on moving in with a cousin of ours and mother has led herself to believe that I am going to do the same exact thing.
She pestered me about it for a full day, even when I told her over and over again that I am nothing like my older sister..Well, I was hoping that after that everything would go back to normal between me and her..but it hasn't.

She jumps at any chance she can to yell at me for stupid reasons, such as misinterpreting something she says, and just a few days ago she offered to put me in the same continuation school she is having my older sister go to.
I've even proved to her countless times that I am nothing like my older sister, I've been through long conversations with her about what I want to do with my life, yet she is still extremely ignorant to anything I do or say.

I'm really starting to feel as though she is trying to force me to wander the same path as my older sister..She's put me so close to the edge that I am just about ready to do so..
She keeps complaining about how everyone keeps turning against her, yet everytime I try to prove that I'm not going against her, she just pushes me further away.
I've tried talking to her about how she's been making me feel, but she just refuses to listen to me..

What am I supposed to do? Do I just cave in and do the exact thing she is pressing me to do?...I no longer know how to stay calm though this..And its a lot harder when I don't have anywhere I can escape to for a while..She's putting all this unneeded stress on me when I'm already stressed out enough about the coming of midterms...

Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 2:58 pm

Hm, not sure what sort of advice to give you seeing as my mother isn't like that and that I am the older sister in my family. But I shall try!

But, sometimes when it seems that my mother is nagging at me about certain things it's because something is going on with her at that moment.

Is your mother just going through something at the moment and just deciding to take it out on you? My advice is to ask her why she's treating you like this and if there's anything that maybe she's going though that she needs to talk about. Why her sudden change in attitude towards you, what's the reason behind, her motive? Stuff like that.

Not sure if this will help or not, or maybe you've already done this, but I figure I'd try to help you out regardless. *shrugs*

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Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 3:05 pm

No, we've already tried discussing our problems and such with one another. She still wont listen to me.
We both know that she's going through a lot at the moment, but she never takes it out on me..She seems to be so 'traumatized' by my older sister wanting to leave this way that she either does not know how she should be treating me anymore or she is just fed up with reasoning and listening to us..

Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 5:25 pm

If she's stopped using reason and logic, you do the same. Do the most outrageous thing that you can think of (that's not dangerous). But this is a double-edged sword, because if this backfires, you might be in even deeper trouble. The thing is: are you willing to take a risk?

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Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 5:31 pm

That is something she would expect of my older sister...If I was to do anything outrageous, it would give her more reason to go about claiming that I am turning into my older sister..

Posted: Mon Jan 10, 2011 12:27 am

Hmmm... maybe you should seek a therapist or a counsiler for your mother. I'm not sure, but from what you describe it seems that your mother could be mentaly and/or emotionly unstable and could use some help. Then again, this could simply be the on-set of menopause combined with empty-nest syndrome.

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Posted: Mon Jan 10, 2011 12:31 am

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Lately it seems that my mother has been doing everything she can to either piss me off or to get me to do something stupid like run away from home..
I don't know what to do, she's extremely ignorant to anything I have to say..

Well, my older sister is planning on moving in with a cousin of ours and mother has led herself to believe that I am going to do the same exact thing.
She pestered me about it for a full day, even when I told her over and over again that I am nothing like my older sister..Well, I was hoping that after that everything would go back to normal between me and her..but it hasn't.

She jumps at any chance she can to yell at me for stupid reasons, such as misinterpreting something she says, and just a few days ago she offered to put me in the same continuation school she is having my older sister go to.
I've even proved to her countless times that I am nothing like my older sister, I've been through long conversations with her about what I want to do with my life, yet she is still extremely ignorant to anything I do or say.

I'm really starting to feel as though she is trying to force me to wander the same path as my older sister..She's put me so close to the edge that I am just about ready to do so..
She keeps complaining about how everyone keeps turning against her, yet everytime I try to prove that I'm not going against her, she just pushes me further away.
I've tried talking to her about how she's been making me feel, but she just refuses to listen to me..

What am I supposed to do? Do I just cave in and do the exact thing she is pressing me to do?...I no longer know how to stay calm though this..And its a lot harder when I don't have anywhere I can escape to for a while..She's putting all this unneeded stress on me when I'm already stressed out enough about the coming of midterms...

Sounds to me like your mother is insecure..... I mean, you yourself have stated that she jumps at you for stupid reason and in some parts of your worry you did state that she rambles about being betrayed by others....

If you can, try to develope a tolerance. In a way, people push others away because they themselves are scared to face some sort of fear. By pushing you away, she basically feeds onto her "everyone betrays me" attitude.

If you want her to stop bothering you about it, talk is good. But to anyone in this world, action seems to be the better solution. Don't cave in, just go with it.

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I Cant Seem To Give Out Some Advice...Well Because I Have No Clue On How Your Sister Is.
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Because You Keep Claiming You Turning Into Your Sister, And TBH This Makes It Sound Like She Is Trouble.
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