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Posted: Fri Dec 17, 2010 2:34 pm

ok, so i'm in love with my best straight friend....at least i think he's straight if he isnt he hasnt come out yet. there are a few problems with me the whole thing though. first off he's dating my ex girlfriend. but i honsetly just think shes is a cover up(or i could be wrong )but i'm picking up signals that he really likes me. And he's like super nice and it makes me like him even more. and i think i'm in the level where i'm starting to really like him a lot. and i don't know what to do. i don't want to get my heart broken. So i desided to just ignore him and get him off my mind and heart and now, that i started avoiding him, he's the one that clings to me. I don't know what to do. Is it possible to make him like me too?

im not ready to come out to him but i really like him and if i knew he liked me it would just make everything in my life so much easier. Is there anything i could talk to him about that would let me know if he was in the closet, but not directly ask him?

Posted: Fri Dec 17, 2010 2:51 pm

Some people are really friendly to everyone. Some people are really friendly to a few close friends. Some people are really friendly with just one particular friend. Sometimes they're even touchy-feely or say "I love you," but just mean it in a friendly way. Some friends even do sexual things with each other without having any romantic feelings. Etc.

So it can be difficult/impossible to tell for sure if someone likes you as a friend or as something more without coming right out and asking them.

If you want to know more about his feelings but are also nervous to be totally honest with him just yet, you can try asking about his feelings for his girlfriend to at least try to find out if he is serious about her. If he truly is straight and not into you though, there probably won't be anything you can do to change that.

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Posted: Fri Dec 17, 2010 3:53 pm

thanks but i need to make this discreet as possible. i live in a small town in rural ohio, and news spreds like a wild fire, if someone would hear me say i love him even in a joking manner it could potentialy ruin my life. people do not take kindly to LGBTQ's in my area. and you only have one closet

Posted: Fri Dec 17, 2010 6:54 pm

Lone Ocelot

thanks but i need to make this discreet as possible. i live in a small town in rural ohio, and news spreds like a wild fire, if someone would hear me say i love him even in a joking manner it could potentialy ruin my life. people do not take kindly to LGBTQ's in my area. and you only have one closet

As Lorien said before, all you can do now is ask about his current gf, and how he feels about her. You could always (depending on the state of your friendship) ask the gf her feelings about him. Sometimes if a girl is going out with someone in the closet they may have a little something that say so (sometimes).

O and by the way as far as people not taking kindly to the LGBTQ community in your area. I am pretty sure you are not the only one in the closet. There are a host of online social websites you could log into just to get some comforting advice from people who have been in your shoes.

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Posted: Fri Dec 17, 2010 7:02 pm

oh thanks ^^ ~thinks i'll make an account on one right now.~

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