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 Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2010 8:41 pm
okay soo i have this boyfriend of about a month. things are going pretty swell. it's been established and discussed from time to time that we have er, financial differences. his family is much poorer than mine, and i have a job as well, while he doesn't. he and i smoke and drink together and often times i throw down more money than he does, simply because i can and i want to be helpful. sometimes he feels awkward about it because he feels like i guess as a guy he should be providing more. whatever it may be, i've expressed to him numerous times that money isn't something that matters to me, so when it comes to gifts and splitting costs, he doesn't need to worry about doing anything impressive. i don't give a s**t. i like him, not his money.
anyway. i've seen that he has a certain affection for peacoats, so i figured, s**t, i'll just buy him one for christmas. i came across one that is just about perfect, and i bought it. it was a little over 100 bucks. really really not a big deal to me. i mean, if he wants a coat, i'll get him a coat. it's a nice coat.
i just hope to god he doesn't figure out the price. but before i can even worry about that, riddle me this:
do you think the coat is a bit much? do you think the price of it will scare him away, or do you think he'll be flattered by the thought of it?
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Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2010 9:22 pm
I've been married 14 years now and he STILL has an old coat in the closet given to him by an x girlfriend. He really liked leather jackets and she bought him one once. We never had that kind of money to replace it so he just kept it. It was the same situation as yours, she had money and a better paying job than him.
I say do what makes you happy. Obviously it wasn't a big deal to you or you would have thought twice before getting it. Just assure him you don't expect reciprocity.
Oh, and if he does have a problem with it. Send it to me. I love pea coats.
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Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2010 9:55 pm
I would never spend that much on a coat anyways but just make sure you take off the price on the tag!
Doesn't sound bad to me when I didn't have a job Drew bought me a new dsi and that was in the 100 dollar range. Now I am repaying the favor though but if you want to buy it for him, do it.
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Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2010 10:00 pm
I got my pea coat for like $40 but oh well I guess!
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Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2010 10:38 pm
marzipancakes I got my pea coat for like $40 but oh well I guess! yeah i mean... it's not like i wanted to buy something expensive as ********... it just ended up being the only one that looked good and seemed to be a quality coat. but i don't spend money on anything so it wasn't much of a bother. but thanks for the help you guys, it makes me feel better about buying it.
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Posted: Mon Dec 06, 2010 8:06 am
My intention for my boyfriend's birthday [in 9 days] was to get him a DSLR camera, but we found one he absolutely loves and it's about 700, so we're going to wait and save more for it to get it later. SO price wise idc. XD
But for christmas I'm thinking of getting him a DS since he uses mine. When pokemon comes out we are not fighting over my DS. xD
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Posted: Mon Dec 06, 2010 9:10 am
Men's coats are hard to find for under 100 dollars, especially nice ones..
I think it sounds nice, and that certainly isn't too much to spend on your boyfriend for Christmas.
He might feel a little embarrassed but he'll get over it.
When I had a boyfriend things were not even. I spent around 200-300 dollars on him but he went upwards to 500, even though I told him not too. You can't force someone though, so just do what you want.
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Posted: Mon Dec 06, 2010 9:35 am
So I'm kind of in the reverse situation with my boyfriend, his family is well-to-do and he had a really good job over the summer. He knows that I can't spend very much on stuff for him, and he says it doesn't matter as long as I'm gifting things that are special. So in other words, he doesn't care how much gifts cost as long as they're thoughtful.
So I'd say since you got him something that he wants and can use, it doesn't really matter how much you spent. You're not buying it just for the sake of saying LOL I BOUGHT YOU SOMETHING EXPENSIVE!, after all.
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Posted: Mon Dec 06, 2010 1:07 pm
Giving gifts isn't about price, it's about making the person receiving the gift happy.
If you think it's something he'll use and that will make him happy, I say no worries.
That's not to terribly expensive for a coat, I've seen some really expensive ones this year.
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Posted: Mon Dec 06, 2010 3:15 pm
well gosh i feel a lot better about my decision now! thanks everyone for all your help. :)
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