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Naaaw, it's totally clean down there, I'm pretty darn sure you can't pass on any non-STD infections. ^-^; Hmmm, but now you've got me wondering, how safe is a**l sex for the guy? XD;

Oh, and... no. I don't think I really like the idea of period sex. *__*;;; ew. Especially oral. You mean getting oral? XD; No. I do not want my poor BF down there when... ewww. T--T;;;;
I don't want to sound all, you know, super straight, but that's just one of the things I don't want to do. XD; Other people can if they want, that's fine. But if it were me, it would not make me happy.

Haha, in 7th grade there was this really obnoxious kid in my class, and he got all pissed off about something, and he started making a scene... and he knew he was already in trouble, so he loudly asked the teacher if she'd ever had sex on her period... and our tiny little teacher DRAGGED him down to detention. 9__9;;;

Infection is a big possibility. Menses are not sterile, hardly anything out of the human body is. A period is the sloughing off of the uterine wall, it IS a waste product of not becoming pregnant.

Masturbation, yes, I have and would do. Oral, no. Personally, I used to have really have flows and a sex toy will work better than having my poor partner having to deal with it. Although normal sex isn't messy for us really and if it's your thing, then sure go for it. I personally would never do that since it would be extremely disgusting, staining, and unclean. Like I said, just my opinion. biggrin

1) No more chance of catching HIV from sex during period than sex during any other time. Yes, it can pass through blood, but it passes through vaginal mucus as well. So if you aren't wearing protection, it's dangerous no matter what.

2) Just infections? I highly doubt it. Penises are extremely un-prone (is there a word for that?) to infections like that. Unlike the v****a, they aren't warm/moist caves for bacteria to hide in. As long as he washes, there are rarely problems.

3) I honestly doubt that there are any medical reasons (baring a few weird individuals) for not having sex during your period. There are, on the other hand, a good number of reasons why you should. As you mentioned, it can relieve cramps and such.

4) For the messy: Have a scramp shirt or towel that you can put under yourselves. Works wonders. And then just make sure you both clean up/shower after sex.

5) Oral sex: If he doesn't mind, then sure, whatever. I'd imagine the taste would be a bit... ichy, but that's a personal choice between him and her. It's not for me to pass judgement. I doubt there's a huge risk of infections or whatever. If you want to be extra safe (and for the taste), there is protection you can get for giving oral sex to a woman. It looks like a small square cut out of an inflatable balloon and comes in a variety of flavors.

Yeah... but you could catch HIV and AIDS WITHOUT being on your period too. I don't understand where you're coming from.

Well, I'm not worried about any kind of STDs, me and him have only ever been with each other, and we were both virgins when we met. The kind of infections I meant were like the possibility of getting a UTI from a**l sex without protection (which is possible).

I guess I should have detailed my question better about oral sex during menstruation. I never said my fiance was "lapping up my blood waste" for lack of a better term. He stayed up top, on my clitoris, which was entirely devoid of any waste at that time, since I had cleaned myself thoroughly.

I only clarified it because I think I'm sending the wrong message across, but if it were just clitoral stimulation during your period, would you be ok with that? (for ladies and men).

Oh, and for the record, period blood does not taste all that horrible until the end of your cycle. I know it sounds weird for me to admit that I've tasted it, but I was curious, and blood turns me on sometimes. redface

We have had sex on my period a couple of times. Mostly because my libido goes up while I'm on it. But honestly he isn't too fond of the smell, and neither am I so we don't often. I most places in the world you throw a red towel on the bed and then it's business as usual so it's mostly North America's problem.

I'm not sure about that one specifically but most babies are tested and treated for any STDs that the mother may have had. I asked my doctor about that before having sex and she told me it shouldn't be an issue.