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 Posted: Fri Sep 03, 2010 7:18 am
Right, so my BF is bi, which is totally fine with me XD I really don't care at all... however, a while back he told me he cheated on me with his room mate (which is a guy) Now usually I hate people that cheat. I think its completely wrong and a horrible thing to do. But when he told me, I wasn't really upset. I have a couple of reasons why I think I wasn't upset which are; 1. Its a long distance relationship. I'm not there with him and I don't ever see him. Its understandable that something like this would happen -though I do care for him dearly, he's very precious to me. I was actually surprised at how upset he was about it when he told me. I've been in a few other long-distance relationships and that type of thing has never happened before. I mean the cheating has, but not them being so sincerely sorry about it.- 2. (I'm not sure if it would matter if we lived near each other and got to see each other.) Because it was another guy maybe? (not sure about this one.)
Now reason 2 I've been thinking about a lot. Like, if it was the same situation but he actually lived near me and we actually got to see each other and spend time together if my reaction would be different. I feel kind of bad not being really upset about what happened. Only because it makes me feel like I don't care that much about him, but really I care about him A LOT. I know cheating is wrong no matter what sex the person cheats on you with. But its weird O_O like when I was still dating one of my Ex's and he cheated on me -even though it was via internet xP- I was pissed and very upset.
I'm just so confused as to why I wasn't that upset when he told me...@_@
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Posted: Tue Sep 07, 2010 9:56 pm
Here's the thing to always remember about long-distance relationships: Your LD is a human being, one who has needs which are physical as well as emotional. To be honest, I wouldn't feel one bit mad if I was cyber-dating with a girl, and she had it with another girl one time. Now, if this person continues to do this, even makes a habit out of it, then that's where the line gets crossed. To be honest, I'd be happy for him if I was in your shoes. But, that's because I've tried long-distance before, 3+ times, and each time it ended because we couldn't actually be there with each other. It's one thing to be there for someone. You can support each other anytime. But, when it comes to that, and you know you're not going to see each other for a while, I wouldn't worry about it. As long as, again, he doesn't make a habit out of it.
I hope I've been of help to you. heart
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Posted: Tue Sep 07, 2010 10:51 pm
Hiru Harada Here's the thing to always remember about long-distance relationships: Your LD is a human being, one who has needs which are physical as well as emotional. To be honest, I wouldn't feel one bit mad if I was cyber-dating with a girl, and she had it with another girl one time. Now, if this person continues to do this, even makes a habit out of it, then that's where the line gets crossed. To be honest, I'd be happy for him if I was in your shoes. But, that's because I've tried long-distance before, 3+ times, and each time it ended because we couldn't actually be there with each other. It's one thing to be there for someone. You can support each other anytime. But, when it comes to that, and you know you're not going to see each other for a while, I wouldn't worry about it. As long as, again, he doesn't make a habit out of it.
I hope I've been of help to you. heart This. I've been in a long distance relationship, and it's hard to manage. Especially on the sexual part of it. You can say you want to do everything with each other, but it's different from doing it. Trust me on that factor. I'm the single most faithful person ANYONE would guess, but long-distance kinda whittles that away like a knife to balsa wood. I'm really ashamed of admitting it, but I have cheated in a long-distance relationship. My significant other understood, and threatened to turn me into a woman permanently if it happened again, but I still feel bad for it. In other words, what the guy I quoted said.
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Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 11:26 pm
I think you weren't as mad with this Bi bf of yours than that of your other Ex, is because you accept his sexuality. Many people who are straight with Bi bfs/gfs tend not to get very upset if the other person cheats. Another thing is a persons sincerity toward another. If one person is not sincere, than no one can trust any one....
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Posted: Mon Jan 03, 2011 10:06 am
I agree with what all these people have said.
But let me share my insight on it.
When me and my long distance bf started dating, two months after we started dating, he cheated on me with another girl. The next day he got really guilty, so he broke up with me and told me he cheated on me so he decided to break it off cause of the distance. I got mad at him only cause he broke up with me. If he would've told me about her WITHOUT breaking up with me, I would've been completely fine because I understand we're far away. I told him that while I was getting revenge on him by making him feel even more guilty. Then, he was like "I'm sorry" and stuff and we got back together. He was still with the other girl for a good week until she broke up with him. I felt sad for him when that happened.
Now six months later, and me being bi and stuff, I decided I wanted to try out my other side and I asked my bf if I could have a gf. He was totally fine with it-especially since he thinks me doing lesbian/yuri stuff is sexy. *smirks* Now, I have a bf and a gf, both long distance. All three of us are completely happy with this and so far everything is going great.
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