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 Posted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 10:08 pm
me and my friend were talking about this today, but I want to get a woman's take. How best is it to approach you, say, in a public situation and get a conversation going, get your number, etc (assuming you're single). give me answers that would really work, and assume the person approaching you is a relatively decent looking stranger:
-you're in public with friends
-you're in public alone
-you're in the midst of shopping for something, in the store
-you're in a sit and eat place
go!
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Posted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 11:51 pm
I'd be flattered in any situation cept when I am sitting and eating. Not sure why...
I would hate to approach the opposite sex in a group of friends. I am pretty sure the woman if they would be interested in you or not would lie if they had a boyfriend just to get rid of you. If you are just a smooth talker, then awesome for you. But sadly, for most girls they will judge you on your appearance. I have gotten this before, "Why are you sitting here alone? Can I be your eating partner?" Course I had a mouth full of food and mumbled no.
If they are interested they linger on your words, nod, and smile often. They think you are the most funniest person in the world.
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Posted: Mon Aug 23, 2010 12:31 am
LSG girls will give you weird answers.
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Posted: Mon Aug 23, 2010 4:13 am
public alone is probably the best option. definitely not eating. or shopping really. friends isn't too bad but you really just wanna chill with your friends.
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Posted: Mon Aug 23, 2010 4:35 am
I don't know. I find giving my number out to a complete stranger is just asking for trouble. I did it once thinking this guy would never call and he called all the time for about a week and I just wanted him to leave me alone. I was too scared not to give him my number because I was alone and he kept persisting after I said no, and because people now a days call you immediately while you're standing there and are like OK IT'S REALLY YOUR NUMBER. I ******** hate that.
I only expand within my circle of friends, aka someone I know brings someone I don't and we hit it off.
I don't even know how to make FRIENDS much less a romantic relationship with a complete stranger. gonk
I wouldn't ask the first time you see them, especially if they establish that it's a frequent haunt of theirs. I'd ask maybe the second or third time I see them there.
So here:
-you're in public with friends- Your best chance is here. I'm not alone. I'm not going to get raped because there are more of us than you and some of us have knives. I can also weigh the reactions of my friends to you. Are they creeped out and I'm not? Am I creeped out and they're perfectly fine with it? Strength in numbers.
-you're in public alone- Leave me alone, I'm highly suspicious of you. Why are you talking to me? I make and keep constant eye contact to assert that I am a dominant personality type and that I will not be lead away from where I am at. I'm also uncomfortable and wishing I had a knife, even if you're hot. Do not trust. Wish someone else was there. Will probably go to the most crowded place possible after you leave.
-you're in the midst of shopping for something, in the store- I immediatly pictured this happening at the local mall near my house, so I'll go with that. I may talk to you for a bit if you aren't pushy. You can probably ask me to go have coffee or something. I'll feel really awkward but I'll go as long as we stay in the mall. I won't know how to end it and probably say I have to catch a bus. I will turn down an offer to catch a ride with you under all circumstances, regardless of your persistance, even if you are offended.-
-you're in a sit and eat place- Go the ******** away. I'm eating.
My answers are really paranoid, but out of all my closest female friends and aquaintances, I am the one of the very few that has never been raped or sexually assaulted. And most of them are far more baddassed and assertive, have more presence and far more intimidating than I am.
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Posted: Mon Aug 23, 2010 6:00 am
I think the easiest place to approach someone is when you're in line for something together. Maybe not when they're with friends because you kinda just want to talk with your friends, but if they're by themselves in a line, looking bored.
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Posted: Mon Aug 23, 2010 8:43 am
With my friends? Probably not. I'd just think it was a joke.
When I'm alone is better. But that doesn't necessarily mean I'll give my number out. I dunno I usually don't give my number to people I don't know. I guess it depends how long we've been talking.
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Posted: Mon Aug 23, 2010 9:07 pm
I CAN NOT approach strangers who are women with intent to pick them up. I cannot do it, I have tried, I freak out, and become really uninteresting.
In lieu of that, know what I hate? When you happen to talk to a stranger, they happen to be a girl, and don't you get that feeling that they ALWAYS think you're trying to hit on them just by talking to them? So I feel like I can never approach any women on the street.
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Posted: Mon Aug 23, 2010 9:10 pm
flattered in any situation except eating because i'm ugly when i eat.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2010 4:05 pm
I'd be cool with it on all those places. I'm actually pretty much cool with it anywhere as long as you're not yelling out of your car about my a** or what you want to do to me. D:
Just be respectful, and be patient if the lady gets defensive because a lot of us are just scared you're going to harass us. You can really just look at body language to see if somebody is uncomfortable around you, and if you need to back off.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2010 4:37 pm
I have mostly only been approached by creepy dudes on the street so...
This one guy was hitting on me at work and he noticed that my nail polish matched my cardigan purely by chance and asked if I matched my nail polish with my clothes. ******** I was so insulted. As if I am that vain. neutral
Being approached while reading is preferable...but if I am doing homework it might annoy me, even if he is a cutie.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2010 5:02 pm
thanks for some perspective, gals.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2010 6:08 pm
-you're in public with friends
I think this one is the best. You picked me individually out of my group of friends? I guess that means I stand out to you, even though some of my friends are absolutely gorgeous and I usually feel out shown by them, cool.
-you're in public alone
Kind of random. I might feel like you think I am some lost puppy you want to pick up. Other days I might think you are being friendly and nice. I dunno ******** man girls are complicated.
-you're in the midst of shopping for something, in the store
Strike up something relevant and I guess it works. I think this one gives us good options. If I like you there is room to continue talking or something, if I don't like you I can easily be like LOLBUSY SORRY.
-you're in a sit and eat place
This might be bad. If I am not interested it's like ******** I'M TRAPPED. MY FOOD IS STILL HERE, NO ESCAPE ROUTE.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2010 6:52 pm
-you're in public with friends
Don't. Well, I guess you could get your group of friends to start casually chatting, or like. Start by making a joke and see if we notice. But don't come up like a creeper.
-you're in public alone
Just, don't.
-you're in the midst of shopping for something, in the store
This might actually be okay, I guess. If you're super fashionable or something, and made some small talk about clothing.
-you're in a sit and eat place
Dont...
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