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I really have a problem with trying to be in a relationship with someone... and the reason is because no matter what I do I can't stop thinking about my ex.

It's weird because when I'm single I don't think about her at all... until I get a new girlfriend and then all I think about is her... and I'm really trying to like the girl I'm with now... but it's hard when I still think about my ex all the time... and I think she knows it, which doesn't help the situation at all... it's always like this.

Hell, I even have dreams about her... I still talk to her, which I know I probably shouldn't do... but I can't help it... I wear this necklace that she gave me and I seriously have not taken it off once since then other than to fix it.

And it doesn't help that I was going through a bunch of old pictures on myspace and half of them were of her... or me and her...

I mean, I don't want to go out with her again... but then again I do...

It's just frustrating. It's been over a year and it's still a problem.
This is the reason all my relationships since her have failed, and I don't really know what to do about it...

been there. not to the same extent as you, though.
there's nothing wrong with still talking to her if you wanna stay friends because she was cool or something. however, if you think that's one of the reasons you can't get over her, maybe you should cut back on how much you talk to her. the pics you can keep too, because it's good to remember times you once loved.

the necklace, though, could still serve as a strong connection between you and her. almost symbolic. i mean, don't get rid of it or anything, but maybe try taking it off once in awhile. then NEVER under any circumstances, compare (even in your mind) this relationship to the one with her. don't think, "oh, x is a better kisser than y" or "y is funnier than x" or anything like that. try not to think of your ex as an ex. think of her as just another girl, or as a friend. once you keep in your mind, though, that you were with her, it's hard to get it outta your head and definately distracts you from the girl you're with now.

good luck getting over her. sometimes you never stop regretting the end of a relationship, but you shouldn't let your regret sabatoge your future love-life.

All this kind of leads to another problem though... because I'm just so gosh darn full of 'em!
Since I'm not over my ex... I try to stay out of relationships... but I have a curse of not saying the word "no." ... so when a girl asks me out... I can't say no. So I try to make it work... even though I really don't care for the relationship or need it, because I'm fine with being on my own...

The only time I ever think about my ex is when I'm going out with someone else. When I'm single... everythings fine... but when I'm going out with a girl... I guess I always think "I wish she was [insert ex-gfs name here]"

and I honestly hate myself for it because I can never give anyone a chance...