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 Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2006 9:00 am
According to alot of my friends and even my fiance, I flirt nonstop. Even when I'm trying not to. Most of the time, I'm completely unaware of it.
Anyone else have instances when you're walking down the street, and billions of people stop and ask if you need a ride, or for your phone number? I mean, its not like I wear anything particularly revealing either. Jeans and a t-shirt.
People say it has to do with the way a person walks. I did ballet and pointe for years, as well as martial arts, both of which have influenced the way I move. Shoulders down and back, back straight, and my toes have a tendency to hit the pavement before my heels do.
Looks-wise, I'm nothing special. I'm cute, in a cutesy-anime-character type way.
But what if there's is just something about certain people that just oozes sexuality? Something that the pesron in question has no control over?
I mean, I know guys who have gotten hard-ons and chicks who have gotten really horny watching me eat something. Not just ice-cream and pizza a speghetti and sexy looking food. I'm talking yucky caffeteria food.
So, it would seem people are their sexiest when they arent trying.
To test this theory, I went to the bus station, and rode the bus for hours, and peopl-watched. I found that the sexiest people were the ones that were completely unaware of their sexuality.
I tried asking a couple of people for their numbers, and found them pleasantly surprised that I had noticed them, as well as people who were trying to be sexy look kindof jealous that I hadn't asked them.
Comments? Anyone seee any angle that I may have missed?
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Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2006 11:45 am
You test a hypothesis...once it's validated, it's a theory...And you need a control group as well.
It depends on another person's definition of sexuality and their preferences. A perfect example would be like those scary old men that like making their spouses into dangerously obese heart-attacks and that's the ultimate in hot. Regardless whether or not their spouse is aware of her sexuality or not.
My one friend is VERY aware of his sexuality, yet he manages to get hounded by girls. I'm also very aware of my sexuality, but I don't have the personality to attract a fanclub? For all I know, the guys I've met and spoken to last semester really liked me but thought that I have a boyfriend and don't want to bother. Or that I'm a dyke feminist. Whatever!
The point that I'm trying to make is that anything that is related to human beings is not an exact science...there is no definate answer or an "always". I'm not trying to be mean any further by saying, but perhaps the people sincerely did not expect to be hit on while on the bus?
I know it may sound like jealousy on my part as I know I cannot think of an experience of a person getting a hard-on from watching me eat food or anything. It may also be a matter of that I am a shy person in public and people notice it - and wonder what gives when I'm around familiar people and tend to open up a bit? Yet online, I get told I'm an outrageous flirt and people are flabbergasted to see what a Plain Jane I really look like.
With that, I do agree it is wholly dependable on HOW you carry yourself that attracts people. I mean, an outgoing person who shows off their dental work tends to get a better response out of people than an introverted person would...according to a few people. I get WOW'd by outgoing guys, but yeah, the shy ones get my attention mostly because I know who I really am and what a different person I am once I know somebody. Consider High School, the labels we were given then and how that leads us to either fulfill that prophecy or to break out and be different.
I dress well for my figure and often have had friends tell me that I can trick them about my size by the way that I dress. I don't like wearing make up (that's another post from somewhere else why...) and only wear it once in a while or when I'm painting the town red. And I'm warm and friendly and smile at everybody albeit all of them rude ******** don't smile back. I've never been asked out on a date or for anything. Another friend, who is my size and the sort, whom I go to university with as well...she gets chased around by the guys and asked for her number often. Why? She carries herself around differently and has some sort of characteritistic that magnetizes people towards her.
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Posted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 8:51 am
madamfluff You test a hypothesis...once it's validated, it's a theory...And you need a control group as well. heh. Science never was my best subject... sweatdrop madamefluff It depends on another person's definition of sexuality and their preferences. A perfect example would be like those scary old men that like making their spouses into dangerously obese heart-attacks and that's the ultimate in hot. Regardless whether or not their spouse is aware of her sexuality or not. *is a chubby-chaser* heh. My fiance is a bit overweight, but he's still schmexy as hell. Besides, he's gettting plenty of exercise since I moved in. madamefluff The point that I'm trying to make is that anything that is related to human beings is not an exact science...there is no definate answer or an "always". That's where I keep hitting a brick wall. I feel the need to come up with an explanation for everything. I'm just like that. I can't stand not knowing why things happen. madamefluff I'm not trying to be mean any further by saying, but perhaps the people sincerely did not expect to be hit on while on the bus? But, why should one location be any different from another. A person has just as much chance getting asked out on a bus as he/she has in a bar. madamefluff I know it may sound like jealousy on my part as I know I cannot think of an experience of a person getting a hard-on from watching me eat food or anything. Looking up from your plate to see people leering at you makes for an uneasy evening, but hey! I get food at a discount at certain places, so I won't complain. Yet again, this is something that I honestly don't understand, and it just grates on my nerves. madamefluff It may also be a matter of that I am a shy person in public and people notice it - and wonder what gives when I'm around familiar people and tend to open up a bit? Yet online, I get told I'm an outrageous flirt and people are flabbergasted to see what a Plain Jane I really look like. I've never really been particularly shy around anyone, so I don't know. madamefluff Consider High School, the labels we were given then and how that leads us to either fulfill that prophecy or to break out and be different. I never actually went to a highschool. I was homeschooled, so I have no clue about that aspect. Okay. You're right. There is probably no way that this can be explained. But tha twon't keep it from gnawing at my brain. Once something atarts bothering me, I can't let go of it until I've figured it out. That's just the way I am. I dwell on things, and most of the time, I'm brooding about something much like this. Not understanding why things happen just gets to me, I'm not sure why. Anyways, thankyou for your perspective. It helps.
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Posted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 11:55 am
I think it's more than just whether or not they know it. In my experience, there are people who not only don't know that they're incredibly sexy, but don't want people to come up to them. sadly, I'm one of those people, and I have a difficult time talking to people and people seem to have a difficult time talking to me. This is a sort of turn-off as well it seems.
Though, I really have no clue how sexy I really am. sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 12:13 pm
I am similar in attitude to Chiku. I get called sexy by girls who see my pics on the intarwebs, but in real life, I'm made to think I'm really not that impressive. This confuses me so... sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 8:47 am
Lord Vyce I am similar in attitude to Chiku. I get called sexy by girls who see my pics on the intarwebs, but in real life, I'm made to think I'm really not that impressive. This confuses me so... sweatdrop The trick is to put the worst picture you have of yourself on the internet. Like...the one that makes you look like an obese leper. Lower their expectations and you'll shine so much brighter in person.
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Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 9:42 am
KittenFlaps Lord Vyce I am similar in attitude to Chiku. I get called sexy by girls who see my pics on the intarwebs, but in real life, I'm made to think I'm really not that impressive. This confuses me so... sweatdrop The trick is to put the worst picture you have of yourself on the internet. Like...the one that makes you look like an obese leper. Lower their expectations and you'll shine so much brighter in person. I haven't put a good pic of myself on the net since that weird guy who tracked me down and cut off a lock of my hair while I was sleeping... Since then I've made sure that all net pics of myself suck a**.
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Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 9:49 am
Random NaySayer KittenFlaps Lord Vyce I am similar in attitude to Chiku. I get called sexy by girls who see my pics on the intarwebs, but in real life, I'm made to think I'm really not that impressive. This confuses me so... sweatdrop The trick is to put the worst picture you have of yourself on the internet. Like...the one that makes you look like an obese leper. Lower their expectations and you'll shine so much brighter in person. I haven't put a good pic of myself on the net since that weird guy who tracked me down and cut off a lock of my hair while I was sleeping... Since then I've made sure that all net pics of myself suck a**. Hahaha. Go check out my picture in the introduction folder (it should be the most recent entry in the folder). You'll come to learn just how well I understand. Ugly picture posters unite.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 12:18 am
Random NaySayer I haven't put a good pic of myself on the net since that weird guy who tracked me down and cut off a lock of my hair while I was sleeping... Since then I've made sure that all net pics of myself suck a**. It's lucky for me I have distance to isolate myself from that sorta thing. ninja Personally, I have to agree with this experiment's results; I find those who aren't really trying to be sexy to be sexier than those who seriously try.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 1:18 am
Posture is important! I'm reeeeeeally short (just 5'1'') So I keep my back straight. That makes me look confident. But, I already Am confident, so it makes me look MORE confident. I have absolutely no idea if I am sexy or not, but It seems that Australian people are attracted to me.
I think that if you can feel confident being NORMAL and not trying, then you project an air of sexiness. but that's just me.
*Good morning!*
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