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Well, you'll be happy to know that your height and weight don't really have much impact on the size of your v****a. In fact, v****a size doesn't vary from woman to woman nearly as much as p***s size varies from man to man. That means most of us will be able to handle the average p***s and then some without a problem.

A lot of people don't realize that dryness is the number one cause of pain during sex. The friction of sex can cause a lot of pain and bleeding if the v****a is too dry. So make sure you are well lubricated before you try to insert anything into your v****a. You get more lubricated when you're in the mood, but it's a good idea to get a water-based lubricant from the store just to be safe.

Being nervous is the second most common cause of pain. The v****a can clench shut and make insertion difficult, painful, or even impossible if a girl is nervous or tense. So make sure you are relaxed and comfortable with the situation, yourself, your partner, and your surroundings before you have sex.

Not being turned on enough can cause pain too. That's because the v****a expands when we're in the mood!

Some women feel some pain when their guy goes too deep and hits their cervix. But it's not a problem for most couples. And even when it does it come up, it's usually pretty easily avoided by switching positions (some positions elongate the v****a, where others shorten it), having the guy not thrust as deep, or avoiding sex at certain times of the month (your cervix actually gets higher and lower at different points in your cycle).

Vaginal infections can cause pain too. So it's important for women to keep up on their regular pelvic exams. Even if you're not due for your regular exam, make an appointment if you have any smells down there that are unusual for you, if your discharge looks different than usual, or if you're feeling pain that can't be explained by any of the above reasons.

So make sure you do some research, understand your body, get a lubricant, have birth control, feel comfortable, and are very turned on before trying to have sex again. If you're totally ready and prepared you probably won't have any problems. 3nodding

Women make different amounts of natural lubricant. So you might be on the lower/dryer end of the spectrum, but it's probably not a medical issue or anything to really worry about. But you certainly can double check with your doctor if you want or if this continues even after you've tried everything.

You should definitely pick up a water-based lubricant from the store. It's actually not unusual to buy lubricant no matter what age you are, so don't feel weird or embarrassed about it!

Make sure you're drinking enough too. Don't forget that for our bodies to produce all these fluids (like vaginal discharge, tears, sweat, snot, etc.), we have to put fluids into them. That means that women who are dehydrated often have more dryness issues than women who are well hydrated!

Also, do your orgasm when you two fool around? If so, you might want to try having sex right after you orgasm. Insertion is usually the easiest then because the v****a is especially wet, relaxed, and expanded.

Sex should not hurt for the vast majority of women, even if there is a height difference. Most pain is completely avoidable and is a sign that the couple might not be completely ready, whether because they don't have lube, because the girl is too nervous, because they don't know enough about their bodies, etc.