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Crooked_Lamb

PostPosted: Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:47 am


Ok so you guys have probably had this question thousands of times but i have to ask....

I finally lost my virginity only finally during my fourth time was i able to bear the pain long enough for him to c** but he still can't get all the way in. Sadly it even takes like twenty mins for me to let him in cuz my body does not like pain at all it naturally just pushes him away or clamps my legs shut on him...

I need advice on how long until it starts to feel good for me? Is there anything i can do to help?

I dont want to give up trying im determined to get to the point that it feels good so help is greatly appriciated....
PostPosted: Sun Jul 11, 2010 9:56 pm


This is a more personal question but do you have wide hips or small hips?

wdier hips, aka Birthing Hips, arent jsut a sexy-image thing, they actually aide in conception and in birth by "widening' the area needed for both functions

if you hips are small and compact then it's safe to say you dont have birthing hips, and might wanna try an artificial lubricant...

also, because of the pain tolerance issue, even if you have birthing hips, try the lubricant...it may help...

and if the lubricant doesnt help, seek official medical advice from a certified Doctor

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Crooked_Lamb

PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 6:07 am


Wide hips but im very very unflexible....*sweat drops....we tried lube it appears to be working now its just a matter of my body getting used to it....lol its still expecting major pain so *deeps breath...relax...
PostPosted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 2:50 pm


Crooked_Lamb
Wide hips but im very very unflexible....*sweat drops....we tried lube it appears to be working now its just a matter of my body getting used to it....lol its still expecting major pain so *deeps breath...relax...

well then you're a very lucky/ very unlucky woman, it basically means you've got a ton of nerve endings down there making you a ton more sensitive, i'd say if what you're doing now is working, ease into it as aslow pace, and go from there

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inu_fan77777

PostPosted: Thu Jul 15, 2010 12:06 pm


If your having that much trouble I think you guys need to get soaking wet down there first, or maybe since you have already lost your virginity this is just one solution. You don't have to take it but maybe using something to practice with so you'll be better prepared like a ehem...uhm... fake you know a d***o
PostPosted: Wed Jul 28, 2010 12:45 am


inu_fan77777
If your having that much trouble I think you guys need to get soaking wet down there first, or maybe since you have already lost your virginity this is just one solution. You don't have to take it but maybe using something to practice with so you'll be better prepared like a ehem...uhm... fake you know a d***o

the thing with these though: it's easy to ruin whatever sensation a female would receive form actual intercourse using one of these even once

i'm not an expert, and i'm certainly not female, but i did grow up in a housefull of girls so ican give soem advice:
these 'fakes' can be helpful be can be harmful too, i'd say, if you use one, make sure to do three things:
first: okay with your partner
use lubricants even one the fake(to ease it)
and sanitize it before and after each and every use even if it only gets a fraction in, sanitize the whole thing
(i cant begin to explain how easily sex can get you sick, but it can, even one shard of dirt on that component could contain an illness, so be sure to do this step okay?)

again i'll state i'm not a female and i'm not an expert, so dont take me to heart full-timely, but i've at least tried to help

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lol_nikki_lol

PostPosted: Sun Aug 15, 2010 4:30 pm


if these suggestions are helping, then i suppose all you needed was a little bit of lube. but if theyre not and it still hurts down there, dont push it. there are woman who have pain so badly during intercourse, it makes it impossible to have sex. if you think you could be one of those woman, i say go to a docter and ask for advice.
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