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 Posted: Wed Jun 16, 2010 6:55 pm
I guess the title says it all but there's the situation in full:
My sister who is 5-years older tan me, called me up monday night, saying she found "our brother" i replied, "WHAT BROTHER? TELL ME WHAT YOU MEAN!" i knew she wasnt joking because sis doesnt joke that way, and never has
well apparently 7 years before i was born, Mom and dad 'separated' and in this absence form each other, Dad remarried and had a child, a boy, and this boy, is my older-half brother by my father
turns out he's 26 and live in new york.
i just need advice on how to handle the whole "aww heck i have a brother and didnt know for 21 years of my life, nay my whole life?" issue
it's worth noting he wishes to meet me, and i kinda wish to meet him...but becuase of my autism, i'm nervous about meeting him, but to my knowledge, he too, has been tested for autism, makes sense as Dad has it too and males pass it down.
just if anyone can give any advice on how to deal with the shocker, please do, i've been kinda irked all week because of it...
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Posted: Thu Jun 17, 2010 3:11 pm
Well first my question is what kind of autism do you have? My friend has aspergers which really seems to make it difficult for him to meet new people.
Secondly, I'd say it's worth meeting him. I'm a child of divorced parents who seem to keep remarrying and having children. At one point I'd had 5 other siblings including my half, step, and bloods. Now I'm down to three. So I think that siblings can positively effect your life and to go for it.
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Posted: Fri Jun 18, 2010 9:36 am
lol_NiCoLe_lol Well first my question is what kind of autism do you have? My friend has aspergers which really seems to make it difficult for him to meet new people.
Secondly, I'd say it's worth meeting him. I'm a child of divorced parents who seem to keep remarrying and having children. At one point I'd had 5 other siblings including my half, step, and bloods. Now I'm down to three. So I think that siblings can positively effect your life and to go for it. i have aspergers' myself but via the net, i learned how to break through my 'not wanna meet someone' type shell and i do wanna meet my brother, but i just need advice on how to deal with the emotional stress it's caused me to realized just now, when i'm 21, that i have a brother i've never known that i had
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Posted: Sat Jun 19, 2010 9:16 am
Aw Heck lol_NiCoLe_lol Well first my question is what kind of autism do you have? My friend has aspergers which really seems to make it difficult for him to meet new people.
Secondly, I'd say it's worth meeting him. I'm a child of divorced parents who seem to keep remarrying and having children. At one point I'd had 5 other siblings including my half, step, and bloods. Now I'm down to three. So I think that siblings can positively effect your life and to go for it. i have aspergers' myself but via the net, i learned how to break through my 'not wanna meet someone' type shell and i do wanna meet my brother, but i just need advice on how to deal with the emotional stress it's caused me to realized just now, when i'm 21, that i have a brother i've never known that i had
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Posted: Sat Jun 19, 2010 6:32 pm
lol_NiCoLe_lol Aw Heck lol_NiCoLe_lol Well first my question is what kind of autism do you have? My friend has aspergers which really seems to make it difficult for him to meet new people.
Secondly, I'd say it's worth meeting him. I'm a child of divorced parents who seem to keep remarrying and having children. At one point I'd had 5 other siblings including my half, step, and bloods. Now I'm down to three. So I think that siblings can positively effect your life and to go for it. i have aspergers' myself but via the net, i learned how to break through my 'not wanna meet someone' type shell and i do wanna meet my brother, but i just need advice on how to deal with the emotional stress it's caused me to realized just now, when i'm 21, that i have a brother i've never known that i had what if they, i mean, these reasons, cant be abolished?
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Posted: Tue Jun 22, 2010 11:55 am
Aw Heck lol_NiCoLe_lol Aw Heck lol_NiCoLe_lol Well first my question is what kind of autism do you have? My friend has aspergers which really seems to make it difficult for him to meet new people.
Secondly, I'd say it's worth meeting him. I'm a child of divorced parents who seem to keep remarrying and having children. At one point I'd had 5 other siblings including my half, step, and bloods. Now I'm down to three. So I think that siblings can positively effect your life and to go for it. i have aspergers' myself but via the net, i learned how to break through my 'not wanna meet someone' type shell and i do wanna meet my brother, but i just need advice on how to deal with the emotional stress it's caused me to realized just now, when i'm 21, that i have a brother i've never known that i had what if they, i mean, these reasons, cant be abolished?
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Posted: Tue Jun 22, 2010 9:47 pm
lol_NiCoLe_lol Aw Heck lol_NiCoLe_lol Aw Heck lol_NiCoLe_lol Well first my question is what kind of autism do you have? My friend has aspergers which really seems to make it difficult for him to meet new people.
Secondly, I'd say it's worth meeting him. I'm a child of divorced parents who seem to keep remarrying and having children. At one point I'd had 5 other siblings including my half, step, and bloods. Now I'm down to three. So I think that siblings can positively effect your life and to go for it. i have aspergers' myself but via the net, i learned how to break through my 'not wanna meet someone' type shell and i do wanna meet my brother, but i just need advice on how to deal with the emotional stress it's caused me to realized just now, when i'm 21, that i have a brother i've never known that i had what if they, i mean, these reasons, cant be abolished? (therapist) i do go to one for my autism, but only once every 3&1/2 months, and my recent appointment i did mention this, sadly, he just like he always does, said, "well how you feel about it?" i wanted to voice my opinion but he require my mother be in the room as well, and i learned, to never deject my family in her earshot so i told him i was 'shattered from the ground up' and he just said, 'well maybe meeting him will give you another friend' (yeah some therapist more like some Dejectapist) anyhow, my emotions have eased a bit...but it's still hard to stomach that for my entire life i've had a bro and not known that this guy i assumed was my cousin was actually my brother the 'i assume he's my cousin' came from them intro'ing me and saying we're related but not specifying how thus since i was 7 at that time i thought he was my cousin, only just recently did my father look me dead in the eye with fear in his eyes and ask "are you aware Billy is your brother?"...totally shattered me... the cracks are mending now though...but i must finish the mending them the only way i know: RP
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Posted: Fri Jun 25, 2010 3:17 pm
Aw Heck lol_NiCoLe_lol Aw Heck lol_NiCoLe_lol Aw Heck lol_NiCoLe_lol Well first my question is what kind of autism do you have? My friend has aspergers which really seems to make it difficult for him to meet new people.
Secondly, I'd say it's worth meeting him. I'm a child of divorced parents who seem to keep remarrying and having children. At one point I'd had 5 other siblings including my half, step, and bloods. Now I'm down to three. So I think that siblings can positively effect your life and to go for it. i have aspergers' myself but via the net, i learned how to break through my 'not wanna meet someone' type shell and i do wanna meet my brother, but i just need advice on how to deal with the emotional stress it's caused me to realized just now, when i'm 21, that i have a brother i've never known that i had what if they, i mean, these reasons, cant be abolished? (therapist) i do go to one for my autism, but only once every 3&1/2 months, and my recent appointment i did mention this, sadly, he just like he always does, said, "well how you feel about it?" i wanted to voice my opinion but he require my mother be in the room as well, and i learned, to never deject my family in her earshot so i told him i was 'shattered from the ground up' and he just said, 'well maybe meeting him will give you another friend' (yeah some therapist more like some Dejectapist) anyhow, my emotions have eased a bit...but it's still hard to stomach that for my entire life i've had a bro and not known that this guy i assumed was my cousin was actually my brother the 'i assume he's my cousin' came from them intro'ing me and saying we're related but not specifying how thus since i was 7 at that time i thought he was my cousin, only just recently did my father look me dead in the eye with fear in his eyes and ask "are you aware Billy is your brother?"...totally shattered me... the cracks are mending now though...but i must finish the mending them the only way i know: RP
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Posted: Thu Jul 08, 2010 10:27 am
what if you try visiting him with your sister you might feel more comfortable
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Posted: Sat Jul 10, 2010 11:41 am
inu_fan77777 what if you try visiting him with your sister you might feel more comfortable that wouldnt be how that'd happen... you see i cant leave my state even for a week, since i've nowhere to go and make part-time minimum wage myself so it'd e my brother would have to come down here, and he's been saving to do such.... and sides that this same sister you suggest me going with, she think i like ponies and rainbows and unicrons and dresses...and pink skies...and i'm 21, and male, so yeah not very easing to think of it that way
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