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 Posted: Mon Apr 19, 2010 4:07 pm
I was just harassed by some awful, hateful people and I cannot help but feel as if they have infected me with their hatred. Normally I assume that everyone is intelligent and at least have good intentions, which makes it so much easier to accept other people as they are and try to understand them. But these people were so ignorant and spiteful, I just couldn't deal with them and tried to ignore them. But now that I think about it, this seems to happen alot. While there are many people who are good, it seems that there are just as many people who I cannot justify thinking that they have any good inside of them. I know some of this is just in the heat of the moment, but how do you deal with these people? Thanks for your help.
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Posted: Mon Apr 19, 2010 4:37 pm
Sorry for you. I usually get harassed every day by the Christians in my town. Your best bet is to just ignore them, if they see it bothers you, it'll be more fun for them. stare
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Posted: Mon Apr 19, 2010 7:05 pm
I think we need more information before anyone can give any advice. You said that ignoring them isn't helping. Why is that? Do the people saying those hurtful things mean something to you? What kind of hurtful things do they say? It's tough but coming to understand why those things are hurtful to you can help you with coming to cope and possibly come to some resolution.
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Posted: Wed Apr 21, 2010 12:20 pm
I remember what JtHM said, "not a monster, not a bogeyman, understand that its just a person, not worth devoting any nightmares to".
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Posted: Wed Apr 21, 2010 9:51 pm
They were people that I had never met before, but that made me wonder how people who be so hateful to someone they didn't even know. It wasn't even the content of their harassment that bothered me, just that it had no reason aside from just being hateful.
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Posted: Wed Apr 21, 2010 9:53 pm
Laughingstock of Jokers I remember what JtHM said, "not a monster, not a bogeyman, understand that its just a person, not worth devoting any nightmares to". I actually find this rather helpful razz I like JtHM ^_^ thanks smile
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Posted: Thu Apr 22, 2010 12:00 pm
It would probably be best just to try not to think of them. One of my friends recently was pretty mean to me, and I haven't talked to them since, but I'm probably going to start talking to them again soon. We've never really talked before, so I dunno... yeah I have no idea lol
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Posted: Thu Apr 22, 2010 1:40 pm
recognize that they have their own circumstances and delusions, recognize that they too are suffering.
give them your compassion
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Posted: Thu Apr 22, 2010 2:41 pm
 For the Rose is a Beautiful FlowerMy first line of defense is to avoid them.
However that doesn't always work.
After that, depending on circumstances,
I either try to initiate dialogue or ignore them as much as possible.
I might ask them, "why the hate?"
I make a point of reminding myself that by hating they are hurting themselves.
This makes it less difficult to be compassionate towards them. A Beautiful Flower with ThornsAn Adventurer is never late, neither is he early, he arrives exactly when the plot requires him to.
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Posted: Thu Apr 22, 2010 6:00 pm
I had a lot of people harassing me for reasons beyond my comprehension, or rather so stupid i refused to even accept them. But the truth behind their 'false' reasons of harassing was that i am not your everyday gal' passing by. I was never the girl who clinged to society and fulfilled their every desire. I was independent from start and had a strongly formed opinions and views. I was NOT a part of their 'normal' society; i dressed differently, i thought differently, i liked different things, i was different... and that's where the problem lied... it's not the hate, it's just fear of different and inability to understand it.
How did i deal with it? At first very hard, i got into fights and stuff like that, but with time i learned my lessons and now i just kindly smile to them and walk away without any resentment or grudges. There's all kinds of people and there will always be. Some do bad things to other people for reasons we might not understand but what is important is who WE are and what WE do. So if they treat you bad you return with a smile... You will see people will react differently on a smile... and conscience is a weird but a very useful thing people have, you know... wink
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Posted: Sun Apr 25, 2010 3:52 pm
A-A Ragnarok I had a lot of people harassing me for reasons beyond my comprehension, or rather so stupid i refused to even accept them. But the truth behind their 'false' reasons of harassing was that i am not your everyday gal' passing by. I was never the girl who clinged to society and fulfilled their every desire. I was independent from start and had a strongly formed opinions and views. I was NOT a part of their 'normal' society; i dressed differently, i thought differently, i liked different things, i was different... and that's where the problem lied... it's not the hate, it's just fear of different and inability to understand it. How did i deal with it? At first very hard, i got into fights and stuff like that, but with time i learned my lessons and now i just kindly smile to them and walk away without any resentment or grudges. There's all kinds of people and there will always be. Some do bad things to other people for reasons we might not understand but what is important is who WE are and what WE do. So if they treat you bad you return with a smile... You will see people will react differently on a smile... and conscience is a weird but a very useful thing people have, you know... wink Thank you, this is very helpful smile
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Posted: Tue Apr 27, 2010 1:08 pm
BE SAVED BY THE HAND OF GOD!!!!no i kidding im not a missionary.well,just ignore them.and follow what your heart tells you not what they tell you.
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Posted: Mon May 31, 2010 4:37 pm
I know what that feels like, to have to deal with people who are just so hateful and harassing you, and I know how irritating it is. So, here is my wisdom for you:
First of all, I firmly believe that every individual that appears and talks to you in your life, even if for a short moment, had appeared for a specific reason. I think the Universe, when giving us the kinds of people you're talking about, is testing our patience with them. Just be patient with them, no matter how irritating they are. Just love them. Care for them. We don't know what their past may have been like, we don't know what they may have seen in their lives that made them act this way. There's always something that sparks up that kind of attitude, you're not just born with it.
In fact, when you look/talk to them, think about them as a child. What do you envision them doing as a little kid? What was their personality most like? Probably as almost all children are: happy, innocent, kind and caring, right? Then you kinda stop and ask yourself: what happened?
So you just gotta have patience and great care for these people, every single person, no matter what their attitude is like. One thing I've come to learn about those kinds of people is that they like to have an attitude toward you to get attention and to make themselves feel better about who they are. They do that to make it seem like they're better than another, it makes them feel powerful. So you can't give into that. You have to just say firmly, "nope. I'm not dealing with you."
Basically what I'm trying to say is be in the present moment. Are they really worth your time? Are they really worth your energy?
Just let it go. I won't even say "try". Just let it go.
I'm certain things will get better in time. *Hugs* ^^
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