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Okay, so there's a boy I've been off and on with for 5 + years. We didn't sleep together in high school, just because we wanted to not be statistics. + He was not emotionally ready for it. (Honestly, I don't think I was.)

I moved away after high school ended. Ended up losing my virginity to a boyfriend I had in my new city. He knew what he was doing. He was older, and just kind of took control of the situation, which I was grateful for. But eventually I moved back home, we broke up. etcetc.

Now it's been six months, I'm back with the first boy. He's amazing. I've always adored him. Love him to bits.

We've done it twice, as of today.

I still haven't been able to get him to climax. Mostly because we can't get the rhythm going. Also because he ends up jamming his hips into my thigh. (I have a baseball sized bruise there. Ow!) And not on purpose. We tried moving several times, and I honestly don't know how to direct him.

Also, I didn't realize how out of practice I was at being on top, myself. (What we tried after the hip bone issues. + The fact that my legs hurt already from the aforementioned issues didn't help.)

Idk. I really haven't gotten around to teaching him much.
Any tips? I really should have taken more notes on the "guy side" of things. But I dunno, I didn't expect to ever have to teach someone. But I love this boy. (: So I want to make this work.

If you're both fairly inexperienced, it can take quite a bit of time to get the rhythm down, find the best position for you both, work the muscles that you'll be using, find out what you both like, etc.

It can also take guys a while to get used to the feel of a v****a. A lot of them are used to their hand, and the v****a can feel very different. Some guys also don't orgasm the first few times because they're nervous.

So be patient. Try different positions (a doggy style position might be worth trying; you can find a list of positions online if you search). Communicate about what feels good and what doesn't.