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 Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 2:32 pm
My mom has been having problems with her boyfriend lately, but she hadn't told me why or anything. So today I was just sitting in the living room when my mom goes "The problems I've been having with Ryan (her boyfriend) are because of you. He doesn't like you. He thinks you are disrespectful and don't help out enough." I watch my brothers almost everyday so that they can go shopping or biking riding and pretty much the only times I complain about it is when it interferes with my plans. Like a few weeks ago I made plans to stay the night at my friends house. I told her a few days before and everything was good. When I started getting ready to go she was all like "Well me and Ryan decided that we want to see a movie so you are going to have to watch your brothers." I rarely get to do anything with my friends cause I'm always watching her kids. She is all like "Well you can take them with you." Well guess what mom! You can take them with you! Yea I got upset. I also take care of her 6 cats. If I didn't they would probably be matted and never get food, water, or clean litter.
So today she was like I think you should move out. (I was planning on hopefully moving out sometime next year.) Currently I'm 17, I don't have a job, a car, or even my license. I'm just so pissed right now.
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 2:41 pm
How does she expect you to move out if you don't even have a job or a license and a car? No offense to her, but that it is a rather selfish request.
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 2:51 pm
I would point out that if you move out. Baby sitting will not be something you are obligated to do and that if you are paying to live at your own apartment you probably WONT come over to the house to help her out.
My friend has a similar issue. Minus the parents wanting her out. They will make her stay home and babysit despite the youngest child being in high school stare
I can almost see where your mom is coming from. Obviously I can't know what's going on without seeing it first hand. But I just mean. It's one thing to take kids along with your friends and another when you are on a romantic date. But to just say you should move out is really uncalled for. Unless maybe she said. Help out more or move out... Like me I buy my own groceries, pay for the pets food and vet bills. As well as help out with random stuff around the house. I pay more than enough in my opinion to deserve privacy in my own room. But my parents laugh at the idea. Coming in and out as they please. GOING THROUGH MY CUBOARD and organizing it because SHE thinks I don't have enough hangers. Moving my freaking lingerie! And when I fight with them over it they say I should move out. SO ya, it sucks, but it doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't love you. Just that parents can think they are right about everything and not be willing to compromise.
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 3:04 pm
I wouldn't mind taking them with me if they were older, but they are 2 and 5. She NEVER takes them with her because she says they are too hard to handle.
Me and my mom have never been close though. When I was younger I would always have to stay the night at my Grandmas so she could go out with her friends, and that wasn't like on the weekends. It was almost every night. From the time I was like 10 till I was 12 I pretty much lived with my grandma while my mom stayed with what ever guy she was with at the time.
She didn't say help out more or move out. She just said you should move out.
I'm going to try to move in with my Uncle or my Grandparents until I'm able to get a car and my own place.
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 3:58 pm
That reminds me of my mom! I would have to watcher her kids while she went out and got drunk off her a**..
I moved out when I was 17. And she still calls me to babysit. Except now I get paid for it. And I can say NO.
I moved in with my boyfriend, but if that isn't an option you can try to move in with an aunt, uncle, cousin, grandparents even!
Also, your family members will back you up. I know mine did.
I know what your going through, its really tough! I can't believe she asked you to move out.
when you do, you should give your mom's bf a piece of your mind. And her too. She is choosing her boyfriend over you. Which a mom should never do!
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