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 Posted: Thu Mar 25, 2010 11:32 pm
Recently one of my friends just passed away and his death was a shock to all of us,clearly, but I just can't seem to get over it and....I don't know. So . . .yeah.
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Posted: Fri Mar 26, 2010 3:31 am
I've lost atleast one friend or family member a year since 2000. you never get over it, you just kinda become numb to it. (be careful though you may lose all emotions.)
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Posted: Sun Mar 28, 2010 12:58 pm
Try leaning on your other friends... Talk it out, write it out... What-ever it takes to get all of the feelings out.
I remember when I lost the only person who understood my pain, and she died litterally 2 months after my g-ma... >.<
Like said in the comment above me, you never really get over it... But you can help ease your pain at least a little by talking it out with people you are close to...
I hope this helps, and I am so sorry for your loss!!
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Posted: Thu Apr 01, 2010 12:07 am
Well thank you guys for your advice and respects. I'm feeling a little bit better. I guess only time, tears, and getting used to will be in order to feel much better again.
Once again, thanks! (:
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Posted: Wed Jun 30, 2010 1:36 am
As much as people seem to think otherwise, you never get over it. Regardless of who you talk to, what you do, it's always there. Emotional damage never heals. I suppose I could draw an analogy to having your arm cut off. That arm's not growing back. Over time, however, you learn to live with and adapt to said lost arm. Same basic principle. The psychological damage resulting from the death of someone with whom you are close never goes away, but over time, you find yourself less obviously affected by it. You begin to think of them less and less, and the memory of that person begins to fade until eventually, they are nothing but a name. However, you will still carry the effects of the death itself. For example, if they died by motorbike accident, you'll always be slightly more apprehensive towards motorbikes than your average person.
Now, me personally? I'd laugh. I don't mean that in the sense that I'd start telling jokes to cheer myself up. I laugh at the death itself. In the case of the motorbike incident, I'd laugh at the ineffectiveness of the helmet they presumably wore, and I would honestly enjoy myself. As socially abhorrent as that seems to be, I imagine it probably helps the people who do it.
Of course, I've never really been close to anyone I know who died.
I can't say that I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know you. I've never talked to you before, and honestly, to me, you're nothing but an avatar on my computer screen. People you know dying has no effect whatsoever on me. As such, I'd be lying if I said I felt any kind of sympathy for you. Your situation, however, is one that am able to offer advice on, regardless of the fact that it's already been resolved. I've kind of wanted to post something here for a month or so, anyway.
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Posted: Thu Jul 01, 2010 5:24 am
Let it all out- cry, scream, do whatever you need to do to let it all go. If you keep the negative feelings inside, they'll only seem to grow and cling to you like parasites. I remember when my beloved Inga passed away- I basically cried without any barriers for a week, but by the time I had done that, I had come to realize that it isn't the end. It'll all work its way out and you'll heal... It may take time, but you will. Quote: I can't say that I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know you. I've never talked to you before, and honestly, to me, you're nothing but an avatar on my computer screen. People you know dying has no effect whatsoever on me. As such, I'd be lying if I said I felt any kind of sympathy for you. Your situation, however, is one that am able to offer advice on, regardless of the fact that it's already been resolved. I've kind of wanted to post something here for a month or so, anyway. Even so, there's nothing wrong with opening our hearts and helping her through it.
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Posted: Thu Jul 01, 2010 3:22 pm
I never said there was. My point wasn't that there was an inherint problem in trying to help her; after all, I feel I tried to do precisely that.
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Posted: Wed Aug 04, 2010 3:55 pm
Raven Winter As much as people seem to think otherwise, you never get over it. Regardless of who you talk to, what you do, it's always there. Emotional damage never heals. I suppose I could draw an analogy to having your arm cut off. That arm's not growing back. Over time, however, you learn to live with and adapt to said lost arm. Same basic principle. The psychological damage resulting from the death of someone with whom you are close never goes away, but over time, you find yourself less obviously affected by it. You begin to think of them less and less, and the memory of that person begins to fade until eventually, they are nothing but a name. However, you will still carry the effects of the death itself. For example, if they died by motorbike accident, you'll always be slightly more apprehensive towards motorbikes than your average person. Now, me personally? I'd laugh. I don't mean that in the sense that I'd start telling jokes to cheer myself up. I laugh at the death itself. In the case of the motorbike incident, I'd laugh at the ineffectiveness of the helmet they presumably wore, and I would honestly enjoy myself. As socially abhorrent as that seems to be, I imagine it probably helps the people who do it. Of course, I've never really been close to anyone I know who died. I can't say that I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know you. I've never talked to you before, and honestly, to me, you're nothing but an avatar on my computer screen. People you know dying has no effect whatsoever on me. As such, I'd be lying if I said I felt any kind of sympathy for you. Your situation, however, is one that am able to offer advice on, regardless of the fact that it's already been resolved. I've kind of wanted to post something here for a month or so, anyway.
anyway, yeah, try to let the emotions out kid, bottle it up and it'll enfold you, then consume you. smile best wishes, i've been there.
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Posted: Wed Aug 04, 2010 11:06 pm
machina alphonse Raven Winter As much as people seem to think otherwise, you never get over it. Regardless of who you talk to, what you do, it's always there. Emotional damage never heals. I suppose I could draw an analogy to having your arm cut off. That arm's not growing back. Over time, however, you learn to live with and adapt to said lost arm. Same basic principle. The psychological damage resulting from the death of someone with whom you are close never goes away, but over time, you find yourself less obviously affected by it. You begin to think of them less and less, and the memory of that person begins to fade until eventually, they are nothing but a name. However, you will still carry the effects of the death itself. For example, if they died by motorbike accident, you'll always be slightly more apprehensive towards motorbikes than your average person. Now, me personally? I'd laugh. I don't mean that in the sense that I'd start telling jokes to cheer myself up. I laugh at the death itself. In the case of the motorbike incident, I'd laugh at the ineffectiveness of the helmet they presumably wore, and I would honestly enjoy myself. As socially abhorrent as that seems to be, I imagine it probably helps the people who do it. Of course, I've never really been close to anyone I know who died. I can't say that I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know you. I've never talked to you before, and honestly, to me, you're nothing but an avatar on my computer screen. People you know dying has no effect whatsoever on me. As such, I'd be lying if I said I felt any kind of sympathy for you. Your situation, however, is one that am able to offer advice on, regardless of the fact that it's already been resolved. I've kind of wanted to post something here for a month or so, anyway.
anyway, yeah, try to let the emotions out kid, bottle it up and it'll enfold you, then consume you. smile best wishes, i've been there.Well, when I said 'lost,' I meant permanently; I wasn't just referring to the act of the arm coming off. I suppose I should've been more clear about that. I'm curious; how would such a leash-arm help with nuclear fallout? I... don't get it.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 1:40 pm
Raven Winter machina alphonse Raven Winter As much as people seem to think otherwise, you never get over it. Regardless of who you talk to, what you do, it's always there. Emotional damage never heals. I suppose I could draw an analogy to having your arm cut off. That arm's not growing back. Over time, however, you learn to live with and adapt to said lost arm. Same basic principle. The psychological damage resulting from the death of someone with whom you are close never goes away, but over time, you find yourself less obviously affected by it. You begin to think of them less and less, and the memory of that person begins to fade until eventually, they are nothing but a name. However, you will still carry the effects of the death itself. For example, if they died by motorbike accident, you'll always be slightly more apprehensive towards motorbikes than your average person. Now, me personally? I'd laugh. I don't mean that in the sense that I'd start telling jokes to cheer myself up. I laugh at the death itself. In the case of the motorbike incident, I'd laugh at the ineffectiveness of the helmet they presumably wore, and I would honestly enjoy myself. As socially abhorrent as that seems to be, I imagine it probably helps the people who do it. Of course, I've never really been close to anyone I know who died. I can't say that I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know you. I've never talked to you before, and honestly, to me, you're nothing but an avatar on my computer screen. People you know dying has no effect whatsoever on me. As such, I'd be lying if I said I felt any kind of sympathy for you. Your situation, however, is one that am able to offer advice on, regardless of the fact that it's already been resolved. I've kind of wanted to post something here for a month or so, anyway.
anyway, yeah, try to let the emotions out kid, bottle it up and it'll enfold you, then consume you. smile best wishes, i've been there.Well, when I said 'lost,' I meant permanently; I wasn't just referring to the act of the arm coming off. I suppose I should've been more clear about that. I'm curious; how would such a leash-arm help with nuclear fallout? I... don't get it.
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