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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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 Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 4:49 am
He dumped me because he's afraid of the hardships we would face if we were still together in 3yrs. Because his job requires him to go away for long periods of time and I wouldn't be able to go with him. For shits sake we've only been official for 3 months. How can you dump someone because of troubles you might face in 3 years!
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 6:41 am
That's ridiculous. If you had lasted the 3 years, I would think your love would be able to make not seeing each other worth it.
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 9:51 am
I'm really not capable of accepting this. I texted him a few times asking if we could please meet up and just talk. He is either ignoring me or still sleeping off the alcohol (my friend is engaged to his friend and she was with him last night she told me he was trying to get drunk) I just think it is not a reason to break up and I guess I figure if I can just talk to him one more time I can make him see that. Or maybe, given a bit of time, he will realize what a mistake he is making and we will get back together.
My agility instructor is asking me what day I would prefer to do agility and im sitting here thinking that if I'm really single than I want weekends just to have something to do and take my mind off missing him. But if I put down saturday as my first choice, it's like I'm accepting that it's over, and if we do get back together, I will be screwed I will either have to ask to get switched or drop out.
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 4:03 pm
what a d**k move. it makes no sense to break up with someone for what may happen in 3 years.
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 4:49 pm
Sounds like he had some other reason that he just doesn't want to admit to/talk about. stare
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 5:24 pm
Lady Lagomorph Sounds like he had some other reason that he just doesn't want to admit to/talk about. stare Bingo!
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 6:36 pm
Yeeah, that's what it's sounding like.
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Posted: Sat Mar 20, 2010 8:59 am
Sorry, to me it sounds like your better off. Hope that's not to harsh. But it sounds to me this guy just wanted his 'freedom' while he's away. I assume this is the same guy who inspired earlier 'relationship troubles' posts. He takes his friends side against you and ditches you at bars and breaks it off at the drop of a hat. Doesn't sound like this guy is as dedicated to the relationship as you are. 3 months can feel like a long time, but it's not. Better this happens now than later.
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Posted: Sat Mar 20, 2010 9:13 am
That's horrible. I can't believe someone would make up that lame reason to break up with anyone. You two could have three years before the it happens and figure out how to get by it. I have to agree with Lady Lagomorph and imderanged. I think you're better off without him. As my aunt said to my cousin who told me, "Boys are trouble. Get a puppy instead."
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Posted: Sat Mar 20, 2010 9:28 am
The happiness I feel with him is worth all the trouble! I can't lose him now after everything we have gotten through for such a retarded ******** reason. Maybe he is full of it but I don't think so. I trust he would tell me the truth, especially since his reasoning leaves me with zero closure and I keep trying to get him to talk to me. Before he broke up with me, he was looking really upset. I asked him what was wrong but he said he was sick and tired, and he was sick, so I just stopped asking questions. I was scarred to push it any further, I wanted to enjoy our time together and talk about it after. Well when he picked me up looking really distraught and I asked him if he was okay he said no. He said he couldn't stop thinking about it and he's realized it can never work it's impossible. He was crying and sweating and looked like he was gona be sick. I tried to reason with him but I was in shock at what he was saying. I put my hand on his and it made him cry more. I asked if I could at least hug him goodbye and he agreed and we sat there holding each other and crying until he begged me to stop. And I told him he was making a mistake and I left and I fell on my bed and just started sobbing. We've only been official 3 months but I've been dating him for 7 and I feel more attached to him than any guy I've ever been with. The more I lay in bed thinking about it, the more I thought how ******** crazy this is and how I just need to talk to him. So I texted him the next morning asking if we could talk but he never responded and I called him and he didn't pick up. So I gave him his space, I gave him more than a day now but he leaves tomorrow and I can't let him leave without talking to him so I called again but his cell was off or dead. I texted his friends, I am loosing my mind, I have to see him before he leaves!
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Sat Mar 20, 2010 10:20 am
First, if he broke up with you, he doesn't care about you the way you care about him. You don't leave someone you love or really care for, especially when you know they feel the same way. Second, if he really cared about you, he'd want to see you before he leaves the same as you wanna see him. I know it hurts, and it's gonna hurt for a while, but you definitely need to be with someone who feels the same way, or else it's not worth all of the trouble.
I could be wrong, but it's unlikely.
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Posted: Sat Mar 20, 2010 6:43 pm
well he could be going through something and not be telling you. when i was dating i would really like a guy or girl then out of the blue break up with them just becasue i needed to get away from it all. i would break off all contact with them and fall off the face of the earth for a few months
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 8:17 am
I have not heard from him since Thursday. On Monday I know he went on facebook because he changed his relationship status. He didn't change it to single... But he is no longer listed as in a relationship, and his current relationship status is hidden. But that is the only sign of life I have seen of him. For all I know he logged on for 5 secs for that purpose specifically and hasn't been online at all other than that. I have no way of knowing if he's even read the email I sent him. I have no way of knowing if he is at least thinking about it or if he's that much of an stubborn idiot that he doesn't even want to hear what I have to say and will never come back.
My best friends tell me to give him his space. They told me he will realize in time how much he misses me and regret dumping me. One of these friends has known him longer than I have. But lately they just tell me I will find someone and to try to make him regret his decision by looking confident and sexy and going out but to move on and not dwell on it. Then I've got his sister messaging me that he just needs time to think. Then I've got others saying he is never coming back. I'm so confused and I don't know what to think. I try to convince myself that I will be okay and to move on but I miss him every day and as much as I tell myself that it's over I can't help but hope and think and feel like he has to come back. Because it just isn't a reason to break up.
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Posted: Tue Mar 23, 2010 2:46 pm
Man, that's a terrible reason! I've been dumped because I don't believe in God. Stupid boys.
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Wed Mar 24, 2010 6:25 pm
Miah Darkling Man, that's a terrible reason! I've been dumped because I don't believe in God. Stupid boys. That sucks, least mine wasn't that bad. But I guess religion is more important to some people than others.
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