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 Posted: Thu Mar 18, 2010 1:45 pm
I'll admit,
I didn't want to tell mine either.
But trust me,
It's not all that bad...
Your parents might not react the way you'd think they would.
And if you honestly cannot talk to your parents about it, talk to another trusted adult, or someone you know who will help you, or at least try.
Friends. They're alright,
But once I had become pregnant, most of the friends that I had thought would be there for me until the end of the earth, automatically stopped talking to me.
Not saying that you can't trust your friends...
But not all of our friends have trusted information that could help you through this tough time.
I understand that many of you are probably thinking,
'But you don't understand... they'll get upset' or,
'It'll be too embarrassing.'
If it's that hard for you to physically talk to them, then just write a letter to your parents expressing your feelings and what happened.
Most parents love their children through anything... Though you may not know it. And if your parents do get upset, or don't believe you... Go find another trusted adult. The first adult that I've ever told was my 9th grade Art Teacher... and I'm so glad that I told him too, because he's so far been doing everything in his power to find me help; Help that my parents probably could never get me.
My parents come from a completely different culture than me,
So they have less knowledge about these kinds of things. I'm sure for most of you Americans out there, you have parents that have access to information that could help you as well.
Anyways:
Back to my question...
Why don't you guys just talk to your parents? It's not like they can get angry with you; Rape is rape. You can't control it.
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Posted: Thu Mar 18, 2010 8:58 pm
I know how mine would react..
My parents are predictable in that aspect.
Plus my father is a sheriff deputy..
I've never had that relationship with my parents
They only know what I let them know..
About.. 2 years ago, I finally let my mother now the reason I quit my job.
The manager's husband had been touching me and what not.
I couldn't do my job correctly if I was in constant fear of being cornered or left alone with him.
Plus his wife hated me x.x
I never told on him because as far as I knew I was the only one it was happening to.
My best friend worked there as well, and when I finally got the courage to tell her she got pissed and quit.
I'm glad I was able to tell my mom that, but there's still some secrets that I cant ever tell her.. even if I wished I could.
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 12:12 pm
it is hard because you are afraid of their reaction. They may believe you or they may not. If you have been threaten by the rapist it makes it even harder. You are afraid for you and your family's safety.
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Posted: Sun Mar 28, 2010 6:52 pm
ChildoftheMoon14 Yes. Sometimes people don't want to tell their parents because they're scared for their family. They think, maybe, if the rapist finds out they told, before and if the rapist gets caught, the rapist will come back and kill their family and, possibly, them.
But then again, you could always tell anonymously. The rapist, (depending on how well they know you) may not be able to find out if anyone told on them.
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Posted: Tue Mar 30, 2010 5:28 pm
Definitely. You nailed my problem (child of the moon), yet I told my parents, and I'm still afraid because if the guy who hurt me, his girlfriend finds out and breaks up with him, he said he would hunt me and my boyfriend down with a knife........I still have flashbacks that are terrible, like today for example. We were talking about violence in school, then the warning signs like bullying, threats, inappropriate touching, and that's where I broke down in class in the back of the room. My ex had to take me to the nurse to calm down since the guidance office was closed. I'm still afraid.
(welcome bucky) true, yet the thing is, we share the same friends and he's been to my house several times b4 it all happened, and I've known him for 2 years. *shudders*
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 6:57 pm
I can imagine some people have no connection with their families at all, and it'd be hard for them to tell... Especially since they don't have any bonds.
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 11:45 am
Welcome Bucky ChildoftheMoon14 Yes. Sometimes people don't want to tell their parents because they're scared for their family. They think, maybe, if the rapist finds out they told, before and if the rapist gets caught, the rapist will come back and kill their family and, possibly, them.
But then again, you could always tell anonymously. The rapist, (depending on how well they know you) may not be able to find out if anyone told on them.that's true. But even if I was afraid of something like that, I'd still tell. My mom would kill a man (or a woman) over me.
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 11:46 am
P i n o c h u I can imagine some people have no connection with their families at all, and it'd be hard for them to tell... Especially since they don't have any bonds. I feel sorry for people in that situation. They feel kind of alone and like they have no family support.
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