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 Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 3:13 am
Uhh... I just joined because I was raped and I got invited... Anyway!
The guy didn't use a condom, I'm not on any birth control pills, and there was nothing protecting me.
Does anyone know the chances of getting pregnant on the first try with all of those factors?
AND! If I do get pregnant, I'm only 14. I need some guidance here. I don't really believe in abortions, but I'm 14. I could put the kid up for adoption, but I still just don't want to give birth. I'm pretty sure it'll be a huge health issue, seeing as I'm 5'7" and 110 pounds...
So err... Any suggestions?
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 5:41 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 9:22 am
Wow, great links Yi Min! eek
We cannot tell you what your chances are of getting pregnant. If you're worried, talk to a doctor/someone at a Planned Parenthood clinic, and they can tell you when you need to take a pregnancy test.
Whether or not you get an abortion or you choose to adopt (or keep the child) is not something we can really help you with. It's a personal choice that you yourself need to make. Tell your parents so they can help you with this - they might be sad and upset that the rape happened, but you could probably benefit from their help and advice. Although they can't make your decision for you, the emotional support might be beneficial to you.
As Yi Min also said though, do not let anyone guilt you into doing something you don't want to do. If you don't want the abortion, don't get one. However, if you don't get an abortion, then you need to consider adoption, or seeing if you and your family are in a position to raise a child. That includes your schooling, your family's finances and your own, job situation, and so on.
You can also go to the police and file a report for the rape that occured. Even if you can't tell them who he is, if you can provide them with a physical description, maybe that would help.
Above all else, you might want to look into counselling/therapy/some sort of psychological help with regards to the rape. Maybe it would help you deal with the rape better if you could talk to someone about it?
But first things first. Worry about getting a pregnancy test and having access to a reliable doctor, before you start worrying about being pregnant. No need to stress out about something that might not exist.
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 1:05 pm
4laugh Thanks Nikolita. I actually copied and pasted them from my BabyQ&A sticky. I have a ton of links.
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 8:06 pm
Yi Min 4laugh Thanks Nikolita. I actually copied and pasted them from my BabyQ&A sticky. I have a ton of links. And then I copied them into the Links sticky in this subforum. blaugh So thank you very much for providing them. /more off-topicness.
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Posted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 2:02 am
Thank you guys so very much.
I'm considering an abortion, but I'd feel so awful...
I reported the rape this morning and the cops said, "We'll look into it."
It sucks that there are no definate answers to the chances. You'd think scientists would've calculated the odds by now!
That pill sounds great, but expensive, and I'm just not financially stable right now.
I'm pro-choice, but I won't allow myself to get an abortion if there is a kid coming.
Thank you so very much for the links, I have some reading to do now!
I haven't told my parents just yet, and the cops told me to tell them immediately, so I'll do that in the morning.
I guess if I am preggie, I'll put the child up for adoption the moment I have him/her. It'll be a pretty child, I'll tell you that much.
I figure I'll go buy a pregnancy test tomorrow, too.
By the way, the rape happened on Christmas morning.
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Posted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 5:16 am
Your Lust Thank you guys so very much. I'm considering an abortion, but I'd feel so awful... I reported the rape this morning and the cops said, "We'll look into it." It sucks that there are no definate answers to the chances. You'd think scientists would've calculated the odds by now! That pill sounds great, but expensive, and I'm just not financially stable right now. I'm pro-choice, but I won't allow myself to get an abortion if there is a kid coming. Thank you so very much for the links, I have some reading to do now! I haven't told my parents just yet, and the cops told me to tell them immediately, so I'll do that in the morning. I guess if I am preggie, I'll put the child up for adoption the moment I have him/her. It'll be a pretty child, I'll tell you that much. I figure I'll go buy a pregnancy test tomorrow, too. By the way, the rape happened on Christmas morning. Oh, dear. If you are worried about how expensive the Morning after pill is, just think about how expensive the pregnancy and birth will be. And how taxing it will be on your body. However, it is your choice and I will stand by you no matter what you choose to do. If you ever need someone to just listen, feel free to PM me. Good Luck Luv.
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2005 8:16 pm
There is no clear way to tell hte chances if someone can get pregnat, while there would be a general precentage it would vary some depending on the man and woman, because of the strength of the acid (I think that's what it is...a weak acid or something acidic, if I am wrong then I'm sorry, I just know that there is something that the sperm has to get past that can kill them.) the sperm have to pass to get to the ovum and the strength of the spem themselves.
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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 2:21 pm
The morning after pill only works if taken right after (within 48 hours of) the incident. If the rape happened at Christmas it is now Feb, you should have had at least one if not two periods since then. Are you late?
Have you talked to your parents, how are things with you now?
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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 5:24 pm
Your Lust Thank you guys so very much. I'm considering an abortion, but I'd feel so awful... I highly suggest to do what is right for YOU. Consider the options of actually giving birth (how much it will cost, etc) and consider the cost of other things like vacumme aspiration abortion, the abortion pill (which induces miscarriage), and other things. It would be helpful to know what state you live in, so we can tell you what options might be available. Also, if you're white, know that it is highly possible that if you have a white baby that it will be adopted upon birth. This is mainly because tons and tons of white families are looking for a white baby, so your chances will be higher. If you are indeed pregnant, you need to let your parents know NOW. You need to get prenatal care unless you want an unhealthy or sick baby, and you also need to start eating and taking the right pills to make sure that you are getting all the nutrition to make a healthy pregnancy. You're 14, so they're probably not going to allow you to give vaginal birth, so you will probably have to get a C-section (where they cut it out of your abdomen instead of having you give birth). Consider if this is what you'd like to do or not. Quote: I reported the rape this morning and the cops said, "We'll look into it." I highly suggest councilling or other things, even if the cops don't do anything about it. Quote: That pill sounds great, but expensive, and I'm just not financially stable right now. It's not necessarily expensive. If you get it through a health clinic and you qualify for low income, they'll give it to you practically free. One of my close friends got an abortion for free because she is a starving college student with not much money. Quote: I'm pro-choice, but I won't allow myself to get an abortion if there is a kid coming. I highly suggest that before you rule out anything (including adoption/keeping it), that you do some serious reading and figure out what is REALLY going to go on in all the situations (ie: abortion, adoption, pregnancy, etc). If you do educate yourself and still find that keeping/adopting out is the best thing to do for you, then go for it. Good luck in your decision, and know you have my support! I hope you're not pregnant from the rape, though, because that is a trauma that I would not want to wish on anyone.
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