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[.Clit Commander.]

PostPosted: Sun Dec 25, 2005 11:57 pm



I think telling your parents can be the hardest.
I know people who are grown and parents still don't know.
I plan to wait til I move out so I they don't put me in counseling.
Anyways...
Okay so one day at lunch my friends and I were in the quad.
My friend ,Jasmine, wasn't feeling to good so she was laying down on her girlfriend ,Melanie, lap. They weren't doing anything. But the counselor tells the dean and principle then sent to the office are sent to the office. Yes, it's against our schools rules to show PDA(public displays of affection) but c'mon. Anyways, they have my friend write a statement, and talk to the dean and principle. A few days later they ended up calling their parents. Neither of their parents lnew of their sexual preference. The teacher that sponsors our GSA at our school said he'd do all he could. Mel's parent's threatened to take her out of the school. We're still not sure if they will. The thing that unfair. Is that just moments after they sent my friends to the office. A girl is sitting on a guys lap, and the counselor just says to get up, nothing more. Later we read in the newspaper about something similar happening in another school. My school is kind of over protective and all. But the could have just said they did PDA but didn't have to say with who. And all this for laying her head down.
Is this just my highschool?
Have you heard of anything happening at yours?
Should your school have the right to tell your parents of your sexuality?
It's suppose to be our choice,...right? I haven't told my parents for a reason.
What are your thoughts?
PostPosted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 1:06 am


Depending on what type of school you go to, that may be covered in AB 537 (since you're located in LA - sorry, I just wanted to make sure the law would still potentially apply to you).
Basically, AB 537 covers harassment and discrimination in CA public schools and schools receving state money (except religious schools).
What is AB 537?
"AB 537, the California Student Safety and Violence Prevention Act of 2000, changed California's Education Code by adding actual or perceived sexual orientation and gender identity to the existing nondiscrimination policy. The state defines "gender" as "a person's actual sex or perceived sex and includes a person's perceived identity, appearance or behavior, whether or not that identity, appearance, or behavior is different from that traditionally associated with a person's sex at birth." The nondiscrimination policy also prohibits harassment and discrimination on the basis of sex, ethnic group identification, race, ancestry, national origin, religion, color, or mental or physical disability."
http://www.gsanetwork.org/resources/ab537.html

If they called your friends' parents, but not the straight couple's parents, and your school qualifies under this law, then your school could potentially be in a lot of trouble. That's discrimination based upon [perceived] sexual orientation.

My school doesn't do this, to my knowledge. We have a fairly decent understanding that if they ******** with us (us being LGBTQ and allies), then we will fight back. With lawyers.
The only trouble I can think of off the top of my head is in regards to one of our dances. The teacher in charge of selling bids has students sell the bids, and students have been known to deny homosexual couples the discounted couple price. There was also an instance where every f/f or m/m 'couple' going to the dance was asked by administration if they were dating, to ensure that they got the discounted price for a reason. We fought that, since they didn't ask m/f 'couples.' They haven't done it since, to my knowledge.
Actually, they've been really accommodating these past few years. Last year, we renamed the Sadie Hawkins dance, since it's heterosexist and homophobic (there was a long debate with that one) and this year we got rid of 'Homecoming King' and 'Queen' to replace it with 'Homecoming Court,' so that it doesn't matter your gender, gender identity, or sexual orientation. It's a popularity contest, nothing more, and now it's slightly more equal, although people made a stink about that one, too.
Ah, I love being the president of my GSA. I get to raise hell, then turn their whole systems in a direction I like. whee

Zombugger


fragile_yuki

PostPosted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 8:03 pm


I remember the days of getting into hell with our school district because my girlfriend and I were the only openly gay couple. We kissed in the halls and got detentions, got phone calls home and they tried to kick me out. But it was worth it because it's now against district policy to discriminate against the bis and gays. We have a GSA and many GSA teacher advisors to supervise the fair treatment in our school.
PostPosted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 8:09 pm


That is so bloody messed up! OMC!

Anriazna


ViewtifulVampire

PostPosted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 1:04 pm


My school has no problems with straight couples shoving there tounges down each other's throats in public and in front of everyone but as soon as my friend gives his boyfriend a peck on the cheeck, he is instantly suspended. My school is complete discrimatory against Gays. I absoulty hate it but I need the education, right?
PostPosted: Wed Dec 28, 2005 1:53 pm


Discrimination has never really gone on like that at my school (that I know of). Where I go, no public display of affections are allowed, even hugging in the hallways.
But, when participating in the Day of Silence, a few teachers are okay with it. The problem with my school and my old one is really the kids, who have a narrow view of love.

sydni the winner


xAsh-chanx

PostPosted: Thu Dec 29, 2005 7:38 pm


~Syko Sydni~
Discrimination has never really gone on like that at my school (that I know of). Where I go, no public display of affections are allowed, even hugging in the hallways.
But, when participating in the Day of Silence, a few teachers are okay with it. The problem with my school and my old one is really the kids, who have a narrow view of love.


My school's the same with the no hugging thing, although that could also be because i go to a private/charter school.

But, Sugar Plum, that's not the first time I've heard something like that happened. Especially in the south (where i live).
It's absolutely insane and almost sickining how they treat same-sex PDA.
PostPosted: Fri Dec 30, 2005 10:28 pm


Well my school is very strict, Usually if there are some kids making out in the hall the teacher will just tell them to go to class or whatever. This is the first time I ever seen something happen because of PDA. Maybe because it was a councilor. He pointed out to another who sent them away. I'm not sure if she did it only because the other made a big deal out of it or what. Theres alot always going on in the little space of ours.
I don't think any discrimination like that will happen anymore atleast I hope not. The teacher sponsoring our GSA is gay and he says he informed the administrators about it. We get alot of help from other teachers too.
---
Anata I think it's great what your school has achieved. We just got our GSA started in second sememster last school year.
The only things we've accomplished is the day of silence and no name calling week. We plan to get alot more don this school year though.

[.Clit Commander.]


Uncontrolable_sin

PostPosted: Fri Dec 30, 2005 11:13 pm


my friends tell me i should tell them, but i dont want to. it wouldent be smart, but my dad thinks im gay anyways...
PostPosted: Wed Jan 04, 2006 5:04 am


PDA is banned at your school?!!! What kind of people would do that? It's a violation of your civil rights! How dare they?! ARGH now I'm really pissed! scream

SirLund


existentialGuy
Crew

PostPosted: Wed Jan 04, 2006 11:48 am


That is seriously stupid. Especially since i bet most people (Hetrosexual) use PDA anyway. If thats so, then you should do something about that teacher/school being homophobic.
PDA Is allowed at our school, but i live in the UK, which is made up of homophobes anyway. I'd rather not use PDA with another guy at our school. Just incase this happens (Although i'm not saying it's your fault, just my opinon). This should be dealt with though.
PostPosted: Sun Jan 08, 2006 7:16 am


my school is really homophobic. *sigh* So really, there aren't anypeople that I know of that are openly GLBT from the current school (Last shool was awsome, really good about it, had rainbow day, people come in and talk ect. Though in my opinion, they were preaching to the converted. Of course, I didn't openly come out, though I would have had alot of support, though I wonder how much. I still have contact with that school so it's good.) Yeah, I don't know, I'm in canada, so I don't know about laws or rules or feelings (I don't know feelings in canada, there are so many.) I don't stand up for LGBT stuff because I would get torn into a million tiny pieces and scattered all over the school. I still feel really bad about it, but since no one is openly gay, I don't feel the need to stand up for them, (o.k. im a coward, but hey, I'm not stupid.) I hope it works out for you, sorry for ranting of topic! stressed not much to say now.

Dairymaid


ideaguy09

PostPosted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 5:51 pm


No problem at my school yet....but then they are no out gay/lesbian cupoles....
PostPosted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 4:03 am


My high school had no problem with it to my knowledge. Although I must admit when one of the guys on our student council came out, the next year like no one voted for him. He was in charge of our dances and they were always so awesome. I loved him for it(I knew him well) and that year when he wasn't in charge, the dances sucked. No decorations or anything.

I felt bad for him, he was dating my friend and alot of people were very rude but not insulting towards him.


Just a story this reminded me of..
On a metro transit bus(public bus) a bus driver pulled over the bus when he saw two guys kissing and literally kicked them off for doing it. When they complained to the company, all they ended up getting was a FORCED apology from the bus driver. The guy didn;t lose his job or get any fines towards him. It was the stupidest thing ever.

LittleAngel13

Magnetic Sex Symbol


Man_Ho

PostPosted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 8:26 am


I'm sorry that schools suck so much. I've switched to a school with a 90% population of gays and lesbians that are out, but still... the school before this was compltely overboard about PDA. It's aggravating when you just want to give your girlfriend/boyfriend a kiss when you are gay, cuz school staff just gets pissy. Just wait til school ends. Things can be better.
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