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 Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 7:35 pm
I had my first sex with my boyfriend just now.
We've been going out for two years.
We are really close and hes like.... perfect for me.
We slept together before but with no sex.
After that day my parents were really freaked at this incident of a 17 year old. My parents wouldnt believe that I didnt have sex.
I dont want to be a 20 year old that still lives with their parents. But I want to ask first ... do you think that Im too old to be treated like this by my parents? I mean.. it might be because Im their only child and they spoiled me up to the point I get frustrated...
I feel really worried because I am really close to my parents and they still treat me like their little princess. They dont really like the guy Im with much either. How should I feel about this...
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 9:45 pm
It's normal, speaking from experience. You are their only child, so it's normal that they would probably be a little overprotective and/or concerned. Technically you're still 17 though, so there's not much you could do if they decided to do something regarding you and your boyfriend.
Were you on birth control when you had sex? Did you use a condom? If you didn't, then be smart and responsible and mature, and go on birth control before having sex again.
If you did use both, tell it to your parents. Show them that you feel you are old enough to make some of your decisions for yourself, and that you're being responsible. If they still don't like the idea, then you might have to wait until you're 18 (or the age of being a legal adult) before you can have sex with him again. Talk to your parents and try to work out a compromise.
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Posted: Sun Dec 25, 2005 9:10 pm
Nikolita It's normal, speaking from experience. You are their only child, so it's normal that they would probably be a little overprotective and/or concerned. Technically you're still 17 though, so there's not much you could do if they decided to do something regarding you and your boyfriend. Were you on birth control when you had sex? Did you use a condom? If you didn't, then be smart and responsible and mature, and go on birth control before having sex again. If you did use both, tell it to your parents. Show them that you feel you are old enough to make some of your decisions for yourself, and that you're being responsible. If they still don't like the idea, then you might have to wait until you're 18 (or the age of being a legal adult) before you can have sex with him again. Talk to your parents and try to work out a compromise.
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Posted: Sun Dec 25, 2005 9:15 pm
You're never too old for your parents to treat you like a child. They love you, they worry about you, and they wonder when you grew up so that they were no longer the center of your world. It's hard for a parent to let go of being there, and sometimes they react in silly ways.
From what you've said, I would guess that they worry because they don't want you to get hurt or be unhappy. They sound like the parents who want to be involved, but don't really understand you. That's okay smile
But yes, tell your parents you had safe sex. Tell them that they raised you to be responsible. They may get mad, they may yell, but they will also realize that you learned good things from them, and they should be proud.
Hopefully it won't be long before the anger of 'my baby had sex!' is replaced by the admiration of you as an adult.
The only way to get them to treat you like an adult is to just be one. Ignore the times they treat you like a child, and try and be mature, resonable and rational.
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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 12:59 am
Your parents will always be your parents and you will always be their child. Nothing is ever going to change that no matter what your age.
If you do wish to be treated as more of an adult then you will have to demonstrate your maturity to them. Do all of your homework as soon as you get home from school, and the better the grade the better. Do your chores without being nagged and do them well and quickly. Go out and get a weekend job so you can start providing for yourself with clothes and gas (assuming you drive, that would be a good thing as well) Let them know that you are responsible enough for sex by being on birth control, using condoms, and each getting STDs just to be sure. To be treated like an adult you must act the part, and it isn't always easy but necessary.
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Posted: Sun Jan 01, 2006 10:00 pm
x_Okonomiyaki_x I had my first sex with my boyfriend just now.
We've been going out for two years.
We are really close and hes like.... perfect for me.
We slept together before but with no sex.
After that day my parents were really freaked at this incident of a 17 year old. My parents wouldnt believe that I didnt have sex.
I dont want to be a 20 year old that still lives with their parents. But I want to ask first ... do you think that Im too old to be treated like this by my parents? I mean.. it might be because Im their only child and they spoiled me up to the point I get frustrated...
I feel really worried because I am really close to my parents and they still treat me like their little princess. They dont really like the guy Im with much either. How should I feel about this... Then you should be careful. For some reason, the parents usually know who would make a good boyfriend and who wont. I'm not saying you should run out and dump him, I'm just saying that you should at least think about what they're saying.
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Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2006 8:32 pm
Communication is the key. talk with them, let them know what's going on. They may not like it but at least you came to them and were honest with them.
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