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So yesterday I watched my boyfriend of less than 3 months drive off to his new base 700km away. He will be back this weekend and will be home and off for 2 whole weeks. But then he drives back to that base around the 20th of March and doesn't know exactly how long he will be there. 3 months in commoncore where if I want to see him one of us has to drive 7hrs or both of us have to drive 3-4hrs to meet half way. That's a lot of KM to see someone you've only been with for 3 months isn't it? Well after 3 months of Commoncore, he may or may not be able to work close to home until his course starts in September if we're really lucky. But then it's back to being 7hrs away for another 9months. If we make it through all of that. We're talking about 13 months of only seeing each other weekends. Then he starts really working for the army and there's no way of knowing where he will get a job. From what I understand, people with wives and kids get first pick, and young guys like him with just a girlfriend pretty much get sent wherever is left. So After being together just over a year, he might still be living hundreds of kilometers away.

I never thought I'd find myself in a Long Distance Relationship, and now I've found myself in one with no end in sight to the distance between us. And I am stressing out. I keep thinking, what is something bad happens like Rascal passing away. He is 7hrs away, I can't hold him or kiss him. I am all alone here.

And in a year from now, I might be facing a really hard decision. Like leaving my home and family and friends to move in with my boyfriend wherever he gets stationed.

Ya I know, I think too much, this is all in the future. But in 2 weeks I will start a real Long Distance Relationship and I don't know if I'm strong enough to do it.

I haven't even told him I love him yet. Sometimes I am so sure and other times I feel confused. I am afraid to say it. I said it once before and the guy who said it back and who I'd been with almost a year, suddenly left me without any warning for some girl he just met. And I'm pretty sure he started seeing her before he dumped me but he says she was "just a friend" back then. But anyway, I've got some trust issues I know that. I'm nearly 22 and I've only had 1 serious relationship with a guy who turned out to be a backstabbing b*****d. Meanwhile all my best friends are engaged or married and all my other friends are in serious relationships, living on their own, univeristy students or graduates. It seems like everyone's life is on track and mine is such a mess.

That's why I'm asking myself and him all these questions now. But then it kind of stresses me out more. Like when I asked him where he saw himself in 5yrs and he said still in the military. Which means he wants to renew his contract even though he could find a job within his field outside the army. So I know that if he doesn't get stationed near home I will have a decision to make.

But I also think that I don't want to give up on us now because of what might be difficult in the future. Maybe by then I will be so madly in love with him that the choice will be easy. If I give up now, I will never know what could have been.

It would make it all easier if this were happening when you were farther into the relationship, then you'd have a solid base to work with. That said, it's not uncommon at all to only be able to see your significant other during weekends. What with school, jobs, friends, a lot of people make do with whatever time together they can get. If you are both totally committed, this can work out fine. Don't forget, you always have phone calls and whatnot.

I am about to be in the same situation as you. My best friend/now boyfriend is joining the Navy. He will be gone on a boat for a year straight before he gets a 30 day leave. After two years or so he will possibly get the choice to do something where he can live on a base, where I'd be able to follow him if I didn't mind leaving everything behind. In order to get higher rank on enlistment, he'll be having to sign a 6 year contract =/

Yeeah. I've known him for 8 years, best friends for 4, so at least if it comes to having to move away, it'll be a little bit easier of a decision. But in your situation it's kinda hard since you've just met and whatnot. On the bright side, at least he does have a stable job and ambition to go forward that matches your own! Sometimes when you have one partner that's a go getter and one that lacks drive, it causes a lot of problems in the relationship, so that's one hurdle overcome.

Well I got some pretty good news. It seems two of the guys on his base drive past Montreal every second weekend. So he will be able to come home every two weeks and in between we can still spend weekends with my family in Ontario.