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 Posted: Mon Mar 01, 2010 12:27 pm
So I've been with this girl for almost three years now, in this time period it was horrible for me at times, then at others it was the best times of my life so far. Indeed I loved her despite her flaws, but I couldn't stand it anymore, I lived with her for a long time, and now I'm stuck living with my mom again. i decided to break up with her for my sanity and life. Now I feel like I have nothing to live for except to live to live. She was my everything and I screwed up, or did I? This situation is so freaking stupid and annoying me to death.
Is this normal?
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Posted: Mon Mar 01, 2010 1:53 pm
If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense.
Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't.
The main two things you've got to ask yourself are these -
1 - Will you be happier in the end?
2 - Will your Life be better for it in the end?
If the answer's no to both of these, then it was a mistake.
If it's yes to one of them and no to the other, then maybe it's worth it, but you should probably think of ways to try to compromise a couple of things with her o you still have a happy, healthy relationship, but your sanity as well.
If it's yes to both, then you did the right thing and it'll get better with time.
My personal opinion, at least.
And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be.
And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see?
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Posted: Mon Mar 01, 2010 7:46 pm
Well going by your judgement it was yes to both of them...
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Posted: Mon Mar 01, 2010 7:52 pm
I was dumped horribly and I know it kills and I know you doubt if everything is right. And if you will always feel this confused and hurt, possibly angry. But trust me it gets easier and it's really normal. Trust me you're not alone.
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Posted: Mon Mar 01, 2010 9:01 pm
Thanks guys, at least I know I'm not alone
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Posted: Wed Mar 03, 2010 9:05 am
ѕu¢н α
☆вєαυtιfυℓ ∂ιѕαѕ+єя☆ *~*~*
The guy that I was dating for 2 years dumped me out of no where about 7 months ago. It was rather devastating at first, but I knew that he had never really loved me and that he was really a jerk. He always put me down in subtle ways and made me feel inadequate.
A couple months after we broke up I found out that my best friend had been in love with me for years. We have been dating for 5 months and I've never been happier. It just goes to show that when God closes a door, he'll definitely be opening another that leads to something better. =]
If you really felt like you were going insane with this girl and that she was controlling your life - that isn't love. Compromise, trust, companionship, and partnership is love. From your tone, it seems like your relationship was the good/bad love/hate up/down kind. Move on, concentrate on your life, and things you lost in your past relationship - things you enjoy etc, and you'll find the right girl. =] trust me.
*~*~*
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Posted: Wed Mar 03, 2010 9:34 am
Call me Hattress ¯`°¤.¸.¤¯`°¤.¸.¤¯`°¤.¸.¤¯`°¤.¸.¤ Call me Law Things will get better, I promise.
Just as Dessy said, what you described probably wasn't healthy, though it sounds a bit like what I went through with my ex. We dated all through high school, and looking back at it now, I'm able to see all the things that I couldn't see when we were together. Things like, that I literally lived for him and not myself. If he was mad at me for something, I couldn't focus on anything else until he wasn't mad at me anymore. And that he would get mad at me over the smallest things. I was so dependent on him, and I called it love, that I couldn't function without him around. Now, people around me could see that the relationship was falling apart, but I couldn't. I just knew that life was crazy. And, now that I'm able to look back, I realize that I probably would have gone insane if things had kept going. It wasn't healthy. Not at all. Just like with you, things were either great, or awful. There was no in-between.
If you feel that being with her was not healthy for you, whether mentally, emotionally or physically, then you did the right thing. There is no excuse for staying in a relationship that you know is bad.
Just keep your chin up. Everything will work out.
¯`°¤.¸.¤¯`°¤.¸.¤¯`°¤.¸.¤¯`°¤.¸.¤
"Never imagine yourself not to be otherwise
than what it might appear to others
that what you were or might have been
was not otherwise than what you had been
would have appeared to them to be otherwise."
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Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2011 1:36 am
It shall not touch with breath of bale I've been in your exact position many times around. I think the reason why we feel as you do upon breaking up is there is a ligitimate withdrawel, similar to drug withdrawel, when you come out of the relationship high. This explains the doubt felt after a break-up and wondering if you should go back. In my experience I have always broken up with someone for a reason. Whether or not this reason is good is beside the point, however the few times that I decided to try the relationship again it turns out the origional break-up was deserved and it was almost as if my instinct knew that they were not the person I wanted to spend my life with. If she is the one, which I am not personally rooting for, then perhaps consider taking a step back, perhaps it was the fact that the two of you lived together and saw eachother in such close proximity EVERY day that drove you away from eachother and thusly you could just try being casual friends and seeing where it goes from there. Don't push things, don't hope for things and dont make things happen. Just consider your actions as a river and let them flow while focusing on the rest of your life and realizing yourself as an individual instead of a half of a couple. In fact I highly recomend that you put most of your energy now on focusing deep inside yourself to find your needs.  The pleasure of our fairy-tale.
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Posted: Tue Mar 01, 2011 2:31 pm
Haha Well...actually a few weeks ago she totally said "I don't like having your presence in my life I am no longer talking to you" so I said screw it. If she was going to be like that after me trying to be friends with her for like a year, then whatever her lose [: I've moved on...the relationship was abusive and in such I still have some problems with certain things, but the girl I am with now (going on 6 months this friday!) is absolutely amazin...and is helping me get through every little obstacle there is that she can think of. Yes a year ago that situation was horrible...but now I am thankful that I didn't let the regret get to me, she wasn't worth my time aching over. So I've found someone better, one I can trust with my life and not regret it.
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Posted: Tue Mar 01, 2011 7:40 pm
 ♠♠Sometimes Its to your advantage... *~*~*
*stands and applauds Cheshire*
atta girl! =] You need to find someone that loves and respects you just as much as you do them. You will find that someone - keep your hopes. *hugs*
*~*~*
...for people to think you're crazy♠♠
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Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2011 10:38 am
Well...after going through so many people...trying to cover up pain...I decided it better to just go with what I have found. [: and not get scared and break it off. Thanks girl [: You know you've helped me out a lot this past year...and I mean A LOT [:
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Posted: Fri Mar 11, 2011 11:47 pm
♠♠Sometimes Its to your advantage... *~*~*
Awe!
That means so much! ^.^
I am always here for any of you. Whether it be AiW or something else.
*~*~*
...for people to think you're crazy♠♠
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Posted: Sun Mar 13, 2011 7:09 pm
Thank you so much Dessy! You don't know how much that means to me! You know I'm always here for you too [:
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