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 Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 1:34 pm
Well I need advice...This might be long so be prepared to read. Theres this girl I like...And she likes me...Well Im not sure if she does anymore...But she did like me...Im sure of it...Well anyways she did this thing where she shut down for a few days because shes been under alot of stress...To take time to think and what not...And we had been planning to go out...But when she came back from that break...She said she CANT go out...She said she still liked me, it wasnt me, and she wanted to go out with me...But she couldnt go out with anyone...Shes still single so shes not taken...She says its not any one else...Well anyways I kept bugging her about it...Being the stupid a*****e that I am...Cause I was confused and didnt know what the hell was going on...So she stopped talking to me all day yesterday...Blocked me on AIM...Blocked me on Xanga...Blocked me and took me off of her friend's list on Myspace...Luckily she didnt block me on yahoo...So I talked to her a little bit today...And asked her if I was losing her...And she said "I cant answer that because I dont know" I have no idea what the ******** is going on. I dont want to give up on her...Because she has had a horrible past...And I want to help fix the damage that has been done that I can...And because I dont like anyone else...And because there is only one her. Shes real special to me. But I dont know what to do! Or what to say to her anymore...She gets pissed if I talk about "us" Anything about it. She wouldnt even read the lyrics to the song I dedicated to her and this situation on my xanga...It was "Someday" by Nickelback. So do any of you have any advice?
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 10:28 pm
tell her your sorry for not letting her have her space. and that you hope you two can continue to be friends. ask her to contact you when she is able to sort things out. tell her you are sorry for infringing upon her space and that you were only worried for 'her' nvr mention 'us' or anything. talk so that you signify her as her and not someone you want with you. leave your feelings out of it beyond friendly. dont pester her...if she says she doesnt care to talk about it then tell her that its okay and that you understand she is under stress and needs time. you must have patience....tell her you wish her best and that she will always have a friend in you.
that should work...dont try to manipulate her though...i did that with a friend and kinda pushed too hard...we arent friends right now...and im pretty shure we wont ever be again...he wuz one of my best friends too...a brother...dont push...give her time...she will thank you. oh and tell her that if she ever does need anyone to talk to that you are always available and all she has to do is contact you and you will help her as best you can. be a friend...thats all you can do...do not let your emotions get in the way you have to think clear and logical or you risk losing her forever...if you really do love her or like her alot you will respect her wishes....even if they are to not be with you...
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Posted: Sun Dec 25, 2005 3:25 pm
Sounds to me like you burst her personal bubble. Meaning that you've interfeared with her personal space and she probably feels uncomfortable that is why she forcefully recoiled from you. It sounds like she feels you are smothering her and/or obsessing over her, she may feel threatened. The best thing to do is relax, shrug it off, and give it her space. Getting aggravated and especially letting her see that anger will probably scare her more and cause her to recoil more.
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Posted: Sun Dec 25, 2005 10:12 pm
Nathero is right....and so wuz i...if you listen to us you may be able to redeem yourself in her eyes...or not...its ify....
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Posted: Fri Dec 30, 2005 3:06 pm
Then go tell her your sorry for not letting her have her space. and that you hope you two can continue to be friends. ask her to contact you when she is able to sort things out. tell her you are sorry for infringing upon her space and that you were only worried for
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