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*Warning - Longish sorry*

So I just need to know that what I am doing is right.

I just started college last fall. When I came over the first time in the summer so this guy (referred to as T) and I instantly liked him. So into fall semester I decided to see more about him if I really liked him or if it was just a crush....it isn't.

While getting to know him I ran into a girl (refer to as Shaun) who happened to like him as well and had been pursuing him as well. We then became friends. (weird we both know)

So I have really just been playing the friend card with T because I want to know him I don't just want his pants. I want him in his entirety. Shaun wanted just his pants, and this didn't bother me cause in high school I learned it is ok for multiple people to like the same person it is just a natural part of life. Well Shaun got T's pants even though she is engaged to someone back in her hometown, has 2 unofficial gfs, and is currently fwb with my other friend.

Now this doesn't bother me because she got his pants. I mean he isn't my man......yet. Its just that she doesn't consider what she is doing "cheating"

So of course in the mist of this I told T I liked him, and he was shocked. I texted him recently cause I just want to know where we stood cause everyone and their mothers' here keep trying to push us together. The conversation basically ended with him saying I am more than just a regular friend and that he would date me in the future but right now he wants to focus on education. I understand this cause I too feel the same way. I asked if I can find the door to his heart and open it. He said he never had anyone ask him, or try that. HeI can find the way to his heart, but he doesn't know where I should start. Where does a girl start on her journey to a guy's heart??

Ok here is the fun part. So when ever me and T flirt Shaun finds some need to propel her body into it and try to make me jealous but I am not. But for some reason she gets jealous whenever I am with him. "Why?!" that is my question I mean out of all the things they have done, shouldn't I be the one jealous? But no so this is why because for some reason I just get enjoyment out of making her squirm when she tries and fails, thus making me feel like a bad friend. Why do I get enjoyment from her envy? Idk. Plus she said that she just wants him, but I think that now the only reason she wants him is because she knows I want him. Because 1st she liked liked him, then she didn't want anything to do with him, then she just wanted to be friends, then she said I can have him, and now she wants him. Same for her "fiance", first she hates him, now supposedly she is in love with him. (pet peeve=wishy washy people)

So am I doing the right thing? I just feel that if me and T are meant to be it will happen. I have done what I can right? And Obviously if T was liking her would have gone in for it, right? (I personally think he just used her).

*Random side thought*
- Should I get him a little V-Day gift? I mean we both think the holiday is superficial but it might be a fun idea?

**Sorry for the length**

Well thank you very much. smile

Yeah like she expects him not to even talk to other people and it is sad, cause its a double standard (another pet peeve). As a friend I try to tell her its an unhealthy relationship, but thats all I can do.

Yeah like I was just curious if there was anything else I can do. We have talked about relationships and what we want. He likes what I have to offer and I like what he has too. I've just never felt this close to anyone before even past bfs. So I just thought it would be nice to hear some things from outside unbias people.

Yeah like I was thinkin about buying a little bear and a box of candy from this school organization. It costs $3.

I agree. 3nodding

Sorry to hear it didn't work out. sweatdrop Poor you. whee