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 Posted: Tue Dec 20, 2005 2:34 am
So straight to the point; I have friends who take advantage of me, make fun of me, and get mad at me because I don't want to hangout with them at times. The only reason I stay with them is because I have nowhere else to go. My school is either filled with shallow, uptight, popular people, or those uber-nerds who have absolutely no life and despise anything cool/popular (rap/hiphop, football, ipods, yes ipods). Any advice? Or is this the wrong thread? sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Dec 20, 2005 8:46 am
There's nothing we can tell you except to find new friends if you're not happy with the ones you currently have. You can find online friends, or branch outside of your school and look for new people. Try joining a new club/activity/sport, and see if you meet new people there. Go hang out at a library, or take a chance and make new friends at your school - by being judgemental and labeling everyone all at once, you're not doing yourself any favors.
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Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2005 1:29 am
Same issue, but I kinda secretly ditch them and try to find new and better friends....so yeah I'm kind a bad friend too.
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Posted: Fri Dec 30, 2005 2:55 am
Gokan124 So straight to the point; I have friends who take advantage of me, make fun of me, and get mad at me because I don't want to hangout with them at times. The only reason I stay with them is because I have nowhere else to go. My school is either filled with shallow, uptight, popular people, or those uber-nerds who have absolutely no life and despise anything cool/popular (rap/hiphop, football, ipods, yes ipods). Any advice? Or is this the wrong thread? sweatdrop I am going to be blunt: they are not your friends. People tend to use the term very loosely. Most people tend to think of friends as people they might talk to on occaision. A true friend is someone who you trust. Someone that you believe that you could tell them anything and they would not think any less of you. In fact, true friend are people you love. Not in the way a mother loves a child nor in the way a man loves a woman of course, it is somewhere in between I think. Also, this: or those uber-nerds who have absolutely no life and despise anything cool/popular (rap/hiphop, football, ipods, yes ipods) is merely your opinion, that does not make it true.
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Posted: Fri Dec 30, 2005 7:47 am
JayDeth Also, this: or those uber-nerds who have absolutely no life and despise anything cool/popular (rap/hiphop, football, ipods, yes ipods) is merely your opinion, that does not make it true. Agreed. And speaking from experience, nerds make MUCH better friends than any of the popular or really preppy people.
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Posted: Sat Dec 31, 2005 3:59 am
Nikolita JayDeth Also, this: or those uber-nerds who have absolutely no life and despise anything cool/popular (rap/hiphop, football, ipods, yes ipods) is merely your opinion, that does not make it true. Agreed. And speaking from experience, nerds make MUCH better friends than any of the popular or really preppy people. Well, that is kind of true, but I guess I like people who are in between....
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2006 7:13 pm
Yeah, popular ppl are much bitchier than the so-called 'nerds'.
Just try to find a new friend that is actually a 'friend'.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2006 7:53 pm
Gokan124 Nikolita JayDeth Also, this: or those uber-nerds who have absolutely no life and despise anything cool/popular (rap/hiphop, football, ipods, yes ipods) is merely your opinion, that does not make it true. Agreed. And speaking from experience, nerds make MUCH better friends than any of the popular or really preppy people. Well, that is kind of true, but I guess I like people who are in between.... Sorry, I didn't mean to sound like you had to pick one or the other. Either "group" is fine to be friends with - there's always going to be exceptions to both (some popular people who are really nice, and nerds who are jerks). I just meant from personal experience, because I got along better with guys and because I was a nerd myself, I got along better with the "nerd" crowd. Personally though, I think labels are crap. Be friends with whoever you want, regardless of their label - just make sure they treat you the way real friends treat their friends, and make sure they have qualities you want in a friend. smile
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Posted: Tue Jan 03, 2006 12:07 pm
'Popular people' aren't really popular at all. They just label themselves that but really most people hate them behind their back.
these guys aren't your friends so try talking to other people you wouldn't normally talk to and you'd be suprised at how a friendship and form. You don't deserve to be treaten this way so I strongly advise you to find other people to hang about with.
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Posted: Tue Jan 03, 2006 4:38 pm
Well now I'm starting to look for new friends. So far the only decent friends I have are on Gaia (I have no life crying )
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Posted: Wed Jan 04, 2006 5:16 am
How old are you? A lot of people don't meet their real friends until they're older.
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Posted: Wed Jan 04, 2006 6:06 am
Gokan124 Well now I'm starting to look for new friends. So far the only decent friends I have are on Gaia (I have no life crying ) Don't worry about it too much. Just survive school, concentrate on getting good grades, pursue your own interests. As soon as you stop trying to make friends and do stuff you are interested in, people will start navigating towards you. Especially if you are pursuing your interests, because then people with similar interests will be around you more. But really, college is where it's at. Do your best and get there. If you go to a school and a program that are suited to you, you will be surrounded by so many people just like you that you won't be able to help but to make friends.
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Posted: Fri Jan 06, 2006 7:09 pm
The comment about nerds might've affected me a bit more than most posts would. Sorry if I come off as offensive, but this kind of labelling does indeed annoy me. Much respect for another poster just pointing out the bit, instead of seemign to explode like me. Or something like that.
Anyways, I'd like to point these things out- first of all, who are the "cool" things decided by? People in the school. iPods are becoming a status symbol and show America's state of overspending, the rap teenagers generally listen to are more often then not derogatory, and football is a sport where people hit each other and jerks like Terell Owens, who had to badmouth his own teammate to the public instead of talking to his teammate in private.
However, that's not exactly the point. the point is, that judging the "nerds" for not liking what's currently "in" is stupid. What's wrong with those people? So they pursue different interests, dress differently, and that's just about it. Judging people on the labels given to them is just as much prejudice as judging someone by their skin color- you don't know them. As I've shown, it's not exactly hard to make a argument against any of the three things you listed as "cool/popular".
You can't fit all the people in your school into two labelled groups, I'm sure, so try to look for people you can talk to. People you share interests with. If someone who has a vendetta with iPods talks and you have a fun time talking to him, what's stopping you from being close friends with him? If a girl is rather hyper, blonde, and likes to be generally what would be considered "popular" but is just hilarious to talk to, what's stopping you from becoming friends with her?
You'll surely get more friends if you try not to judge anyone at all before talking to them, and judging them after you knew who they are.
I ranted didn't I? Sorry, but the comment about nerds touched me off, like I said.
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Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 10:26 pm
Elynian The comment about nerds might've affected me a bit more than most posts would. Sorry if I come off as offensive, but this kind of labelling does indeed annoy me. Much respect for another poster just pointing out the bit, instead of seemign to explode like me. Or something like that.
Anyways, I'd like to point these things out- first of all, who are the "cool" things decided by? People in the school. iPods are becoming a status symbol and show America's state of overspending, the rap teenagers generally listen to are more often then not derogatory, and football is a sport where people hit each other and jerks like Terell Owens, who had to badmouth his own teammate to the public instead of talking to his teammate in private.
However, that's not exactly the point. the point is, that judging the "nerds" for not liking what's currently "in" is stupid. What's wrong with those people? So they pursue different interests, dress differently, and that's just about it. Judging people on the labels given to them is just as much prejudice as judging someone by their skin color- you don't know them. As I've shown, it's not exactly hard to make a argument against any of the three things you listed as "cool/popular".
You can't fit all the people in your school into two labelled groups, I'm sure, so try to look for people you can talk to. People you share interests with. If someone who has a vendetta with iPods talks and you have a fun time talking to him, what's stopping you from being close friends with him? If a girl is rather hyper, blonde, and likes to be generally what would be considered "popular" but is just hilarious to talk to, what's stopping you from becoming friends with her?
You'll surely get more friends if you try not to judge anyone at all before talking to them, and judging them after you knew who they are.
I ranted didn't I? Sorry, but the comment about nerds touched me off, like I said. I didn't say that all nerds are like that.... I mean the ones who hate the "popular" stuff just because it is popular. I mean like they only hate it because it is an "icon" (if you will) of popularity, no matter how cool it is. (the word "cool" in this context doesn't mean "popular")
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