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Posted: Mon Jan 25, 2010 10:05 pm
Okay so i need to get a few things off my chest. And really you guys are family to me. But way better. Anyways i thought, " Hey, why dont we all help one another with our feelings. Its alot cheeper than seeing someone you paid for. And we all have good suggestions. " So Poof. Here it is. I know everyone's life isnt rainbows and gummybears. [ i wished...] So share, no one will judge you. and how knows, maybe some my relate to you. :3
Anyways, im having father issues. Ever since my parents spilt up, my dad seemed to be difting away from me and royu. It use to be every other week i see him. And all we do is nothing but video games. Which is okay. But i'd like to do something with the man. Recently in the past year, he's been canceling and saying that he's "sick" almost every month for two weeks. And now i wont be able to see him for a month because who knows what reason. And im too scared to tell him how i feel because, A] I dont know this man very well anymore and B] dad's are scary when they're mad. Trust me. And i rarely see my father angry.
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Posted: Thu Jan 28, 2010 3:46 pm
You have quite a problem there. Maybe you should try to contact him, and try and be cheerful, yet respectful, I'm sure he is going through hardtimes too. Say something like "Hey dad, I really do hope you feel better, and maybe after, we could hangout and go somewhere like old times!" If he complains, and says no then say " Oh, well I still really really miss you, and I wish that we could do something, but I guess not" That will kind of give him some guilt, and he might change his mind : D
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Posted: Thu Jan 28, 2010 6:32 pm
thanks for the suggestion Snargle. :3 I have to call him this week anyways. By the way i love your siggy. XD
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Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 8:26 am
Kari Altair thanks for the suggestion Snargle. :3 I have to call him this week anyways. By the way i love your siggy. XD No problem friend C: Call me Cheese : D
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 7:54 pm
I need to let something out here... *inhales, ready to talk alot* I have a problem which im sure some of you have heard of, its called emotional movement. This emotional drastic change happens whenever it is that something changes in my life, dramatically. for example, if we move houses i get simply quiet for a few days and dont think about anything but myself. another example would be that when a freind leaves for too long, maybe four or five days, i get upset, at everything, not veryaware of others feeling whatsoever. I told one of my freinds (wont mention his/her name) that it is a nightly problem, at night i dont operate clearly and simply cannot function as a normal human being, so i start saying things. anything, it doesnt matter if i hurt the persons feelings, nothing. complete disregard for others feelings. I now learned it has become a perpetual problem. I need to stop this, and just stop focusing so much on that one freind.. or just stop depending on everything to stay the same.. because it wont. T^T i hope one of you read this, Grunt out.
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 8:45 pm
Sorry I can't help you with your father's issue, I don't have any respect for my real father nor I ever will
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Posted: Sat May 29, 2010 8:12 am
Kari Altair Okay so i need to get a few things off my chest. And really you guys are family to me. But way better. Anyways i thought, " Hey, why dont we all help one another with our feelings. Its alot cheeper than seeing someone you paid for. And we all have good suggestions. " So Poof. Here it is. I know everyone's life isnt rainbows and gummybears. [ i wished...] So share, no one will judge you. and how knows, maybe some my relate to you. :3 Anyways, im having father issues. Ever since my parents spilt up, my dad seemed to be difting away from me and royu. It use to be every other week i see him. And all we do is nothing but video games. Which is okay. But i'd like to do something with the man. Recently in the past year, he's been canceling and saying that he's "sick" almost every month for two weeks. And now i wont be able to see him for a month because who knows what reason. And im too scared to tell him how i feel because, A] I dont know this man very well anymore and B] dad's are scary when they're mad. Trust me. And i rarely see my father angry. I'm not one to give advice to others. Or even have the right to but, as for the case of feeling insecure about being around, or talking to him. I would say, take the initiative to speak to him. About anything, anything that comes to mind. Just avoid talking about heavy things. Talk casually, about weather, life, what has he been doing, so on. Chatting builds up the bonds with one another slowly, and repairing them. However, in some relationships between child and parent, one might want to deny their existence if they drifted away to far. So do it while you still have a chance at it. Also, I know fathers can be scary when they are angry. But you have to stand strong and try to have courage to talk back to him and make him see things you want him to understand about you or your problems. Don't use excuses or grovel, it won't do anything but make more fear. I know it may sound difficult but it is a try. You can ponder about it. madgrunt117 I need to let something out here... *inhales, ready to talk alot* I have a problem which im sure some of you have heard of, its called emotional movement. This emotional drastic change happens whenever it is that something changes in my life, dramatically. for example, if we move houses i get simply quiet for a few days and dont think about anything but myself. another example would be that when a freind leaves for too long, maybe four or five days, i get upset, at everything, not veryaware of others feeling whatsoever. I told one of my freinds (wont mention his/her name) that it is a nightly problem, at night i dont operate clearly and simply cannot function as a normal human being, so i start saying things. anything, it doesnt matter if i hurt the persons feelings, nothing. complete disregard for others feelings. I now learned it has become a perpetual problem. I need to stop this, and just stop focusing so much on that one freind.. or just stop depending on everything to stay the same.. because it wont. T^T i hope one of you read this, Grunt out. I'm not very sure how to tell you this well. So you're having problems with your emotions whenever you do things that affect you daily life style such as; moving away, friends leaving/absent. This resulting to disregarding others' feelings, when you bottled up a certain emotion that unleashed on them in either in anger or depressing way. I don't much advice about this, since I have something like that leading me to uncomfortable situations. These are the only options I can give you about dealing with this problem of yours with your "Mood Swings"/"Emotional Movement." Try to think positively, and try to get on with your life. Ask questions later. Experience life more in other ways, even if your usual friends you hang around with are absent just try to stop zoning out and thinking about things you shouldn't. If they are gone for some days which irritates you, just know that that person has their own life. They'll have their excuses, why they didn't hang out for awhile. As for you during the night time. It could be that you tired out yourself, maybe losing a bit of your apathy. Don't know. It's just normal to be that way. And it's your own choice to fix yourself. Mature. Yet still retain your childishness. Also thinking too much about yourself is like self pity! That is a no, no. Especially focusing the importance of your friend, is quite flattering however, it might be not. It's how you act will show how much you show you have control over yourself. As the saying, "Think before you leap." Christ, I feel like I'm counseling myself. See I'm horrible at trying to help. I feel like a villain now. But then again who cares. I love villains xD well some... Yattaro_SB Sorry I can't help you with your father's issue, I don't have any respect for my real father nor I ever will Oh? As for me... Well I have my ups and my downs. I love and hate. _____________________________ By the way this gif of Amaterasu is awesome!!!! xD
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Posted: Sat May 29, 2010 11:18 am
Quote: I'm not very sure how to tell you this well. So you're having problems with your emotions whenever you do things that affect you daily life style such as; moving away, friends leaving/absent. This resulting to disregarding others' feelings, when you bottled up a certain emotion that unleashed on them in either in anger or depressing way. I don't much advice about this, since I have something like that leading me to uncomfortable situations. These are the only options I can give you about dealing with this problem of yours with your "Mood Swings"/"Emotional Movement." Try to think positively, and try to get on with your life. Ask questions later. Experience life more in other ways, even if your usual friends you hang around with are absent just try to stop zoning out and thinking about things you shouldn't. If they are gone for some days which irritates you, just know that that person has their own life. They'll have their excuses, why they didn't hang out for awhile. As for you during the night time. It could be that you tired out yourself, maybe losing a bit of your apathy. Don't know. It's just normal to be that way. And it's your own choice to fix yourself. Mature. Yet still retain your childishness. Also thinking too much about yourself is like self pity! That is a no, no. Especially focusing the importance of your friend, is quite flattering however, it might be not. It's how you act will show how much you show you have control over yourself. As the saying, "Think before you leap." Christ, I feel like I'm counseling myself. See I'm horrible at trying to help. I feel like a villain now. But then again who cares. I love villains xD well some... thanks for helping out. i do get what your sayin'. razz only one thing, when I think of only my emotions at the time its more like, shutting everyone else out of my life and just focusing on how I feel. And since i posted this like a zillion years ago, i pretty much got over most of the stuff i told you. Im a normal human being now. XD but really, thanks for helpin out. blaugh
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Posted: Sat May 29, 2010 8:34 pm
Quote: Oh? As for me... Well I have my ups and my downs. I love and hate. Story of my life, you don't want to hear it
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Posted: Sat May 29, 2010 10:17 pm
Kari Altair Okay so i need to get a few things off my chest. And really you guys are family to me. But way better. Anyways i thought, " Hey, why dont we all help one another with our feelings. Its alot cheeper than seeing someone you paid for. And we all have good suggestions. " So Poof. Here it is. I know everyone's life isnt rainbows and gummybears. [ i wished...] So share, no one will judge you. and how knows, maybe some my relate to you. :3 Anyways, im having father issues. Ever since my parents spilt up, my dad seemed to be difting away from me and royu. It use to be every other week i see him. And all we do is nothing but video games. Which is okay. But i'd like to do something with the man. Recently in the past year, he's been canceling and saying that he's "sick" almost every month for two weeks. And now i wont be able to see him for a month because who knows what reason. And im too scared to tell him how i feel because, A] I dont know this man very well anymore and B] dad's are scary when they're mad. Trust me. And i rarely see my father angry. i wish i could help but im same as yatt i want nothing to do with my father but when i was younger i was in your shoes kinda accept instead of wanting to see him i didn't want to but the best advice i can give is just tell him and let him know how you feel
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Posted: Mon May 31, 2010 9:17 am
Yattaro_SB Quote: Oh? As for me... Well I have my ups and my downs. I love and hate. Story of my life, you don't want to hear it Actually I do like to hear it. I like listening. madgrunt117 thanks for helping out. i do get what your sayin'. razz only one thing, when I think of only my emotions at the time its more like, shutting everyone else out of my life and just focusing on how I feel. And since i posted this like a zillion years ago, i pretty much got over most of the stuff i told you. Im a normal human being now. XD but really, thanks for helpin out. blaugh Good to hear =)
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