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How lubricated are you? The drier your are, the more rough the sex or fingering will be and the more sensitive your v****a will get from it. If you find yourself not secreting enough natural lubrication, you could always go out and get some. DO NOT USE VASELINE. Vaseline will break down a condom and make it useless. You could always try more lubrication even if you think you have a fair amount to see if it helps.

My next question would be to ask how is he entering you? Are you or he slowly guiding his p***s into your v****a? This is the best way unless you're really skilled because otherwise the head of the p***s can bruise or irritate the surrounding area of the v****a and make it ache. Making sure he enters slowly and precisely will help prevent any bruising on the outside.

How long have you been having sex? For some women it can take a while to get used to the entire thing. It varies on different people, but it could just be that you're still getting used to it, though if that's the case the fingering thing perplexes me. Does it hurt even when it's one finger?

How long are your sex-sessions? It could just be over-use. Sometimes, myself included, find that after a while sex just starts to hurt. If you think about the action of sex, there's only so much in and out any part of the body can take.

When you're not having sex, do you itch? Do you sometimes have thick secretion or smelly white stuff? If so, you might have a yeast infection and that could contribute to the pain you're feeling as it tends to make everything in that area more sensitive. This is easily taken care of with a trip to the pharmacy. I advocate Canesten as I find it works best and has the best delivery system.

My other suggestion is to go to the doctor. It could be an STI or it could be something else that I'm not qualified to diagnose or help, but your doctor is. You don't want to mess around with your v****a.

my first guess would be dryness too

All women have discharge. Discharge is what keeps our v****a healthy, clean, and lubricated. We make more of it when we are in the mood and at certain times of the month. Its normal for discharge to have a bit of a smell too.

But if your discharge has been stronger or yuckier smelling, or if it's been really clumpy (like cottage cheese) lately, or if it's been greenish or yellowish in color, any of those things could mean you have an infection.

There are many different types of infections that you can get down there. Some are sexually transmitted, others are not. Most of them can be cleared up no problem with some medication from the doctor, but some of them can become serious if left untreated.

Yeast infections are one type of infection you can get down there. Yeast infections are very common, and you can get them even if you are not sexually active. You can get yeast infection medication over the counter. However, there are other types of infections that have extremely similar symptoms. A bacterial infection (also common and not sexually transmitted), for example, can have the exact same symptoms, but it is a very different type of infection and needs a very different type of treatment. For that reason, the over the counter yeast infection medications usually say on the box that you are not supposed to use them unless you have been diagnosed with a yeast infection by a doctor. So as tempting as it may be to grab the medication and skip the doctor, it is not wise or healthy to do so.

So if you're at all in doubt about whether or not you have an infection, visit a doctor. The doctor can see if you have anything, give you medication if you do, give you a pap, give you STD tests, answer questions that you might have, give you birth control, and more.

If you do not have health insurance or if you want pap smears and birth control without your parents knowing that you are sexually active, you can go to a clinic. Clinics like Family Planning and Planned Parenthood offer all those services for free or low cost depending on how much money you make.

To reduce your chance of various infections:
-Change pads and tampons often
-Do not douche
-Do not put soap in your v****a
-Do not sit around in wet clothing, change if you got caught in the rain or went swimming
-Do not use scented pads or tampons
-Use condoms or get tested and stay monogamous (don't forget that STDs can be transmitted orally, so don't assume you're safe if you and your partner haven't had intercourse with others but have done other things).
-If you want to switch from a**l to vaginal sex, make sure you get a new condom first
-When you pee make sure you wipe from front to back. If you wipe from back to front, the toilet paper can bring bacteria from your a**s to your v****a, and that is enough to cause a bacterial infection.
-Pee after sex (preferably within 15 minutes) to reduce your chance of urinary tract infections.

Yeah, disposable pads irritate me. I switched to reusable cloth ones, and I like them much better. 3nodding

The disposable pads are bad for the environment because they create a lot of garbage. They're also often made in stinky factories and contain bleach and other chemicals that can irritate skin or be absorbed into the body. So the cloth ones are supposed to be better all around.
http://www.lunapads.com/switch.htm

That is a myth. Sex is not supposed to hurt, even the first time. The number one cause of pain is dryness. The number two cause is being nervous and tense. The number three cause is gynecological issues. So a woman with a healthy reproductive tract should not be feeling any pain if she is lubricated and relaxed.


That's a myth too. Your body does not need to "get used to sex." It was made for sex! wink

For more info on pain during sex check:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/from_ow_to_wow_demystifying_painful_intercourse

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/first_intercourse_a_pain_for_us_both

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/pressure_from_friends_and_worries_about_pain_during_intercourse

http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/female-pain-during-sex


Just because Always can cause problems doesn't mean it will in every single woman. Everyone is different. Our skin varies in terms of sensitivity and what will irritate it. 3nodding