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Posted: Sat Dec 17, 2005 1:50 pm

Because I think that the hardest thing about being a Witch/Wiccan/Pagen must be to let others know I made this little guide for those who don't know how, need help, or just want to know a bit of come-backness

Part One- What it's about

Coming out of the broom closet is probably the most important thing you will ever do as a Wiccan/Witch/Pagen. The reason is simply because it take as lot of courage, it makes you feel different, and it shows you like yourself! Liking who and what you are no matter what anyone else thinks/says is a great virture, that will come in haddy in every part of you life. I, myself did it nice and simple by just saying it, my mom and her boy firend didn't understand and thought it was a joke, but at my school I found some other people who were intrested and we started a coven, tis wonderful wink .
But, coming out of the closet DOES take planning, say you live in a very strict Christan(or any religion for that matter) house hold, your aren't going to just jump out at the dinner table and say
"I'm a witch/wiccan, please pass the salt" You need to prepar your family!
Lastly, before we go to the guide remember:
Coming out of the broom closet should be done when you feel ready, don't push it or let anyone else tell you when to do it

Part Two-Getting Ready

Unless you come from a Wiccan/Pagen family it maybe a bit hard for you to tell your family what you are. Because of this, you may feel better to say in the closet, which, if you really do want, is a-okay! But if not,you may want to know a few tips and tricks, because I'm not the only one who's done it, I will also add a few things my firends say (if you want to give some advise too, just PM me or post)

Katrina(and co.)'s helpfull tips

1. Don't do it when you feel down, rejection may come up, and if your down you really don't need that!

2. If you aren't ready to tell your perents, tell your best firend or someone close to you, it will help build up the courage

3.Do it face to face! Leaving books and items lying in plain view may get you found out, but it doesn't help build up anything, anyway either way you're going to end up telling your perents

4. With telling perents who are stcitly one relig. you should do it when your in an very understanding mood (both of you, like when your having a long talk) bring it on slowly, and try not to get nasty. It is best to not go stright out and say "I'm a witch" but better to say "I am praticing Wiccan. I am learning how to use the elments and energy. Wiccan does mean "Witch", but not the same as in the bible. I still respect your relig. and hope you can mine" kind of thing. What you really don't want to do is say while fighting just to make them mad "I'M A WITCH!!!"(that came from a girl whos father is a minister and was/is know as "the little church girl" so she know her stuff!)

5. Show them what it means to be a Witch/Wiccan/Pagen! Tell them about what we do. Like we use the world around us, we know of the energies and such, not like that, a bit more your age wink

Tricks and ways to make you feel better about it

Spells:
Becuase we all love doing them ^-^
(Please note, because all(or most) spells take a while you should do these a few days before you plan on doing it)

Enthusiasm Spell
(PS if you don't have a green stone handy, then paint a sotne green wink )

Self blessing shower
(Really helps!)

Luck spell
(I feel lucky! XD)

(PM me with any more good spell)

Herbs
For those who want extra luck ^_-
(Work in there normal form, in oil, or as incense)

Agrimony-Protection, banishes negative energy, sleep(air)
Allspice-Prosperity, courage, energy, strength (fire)
Burdock-Cleansing, protection (water)
Carnation-Feminine energy, healing, strength (water)
Cedar-Home purification, good fortune, luck (fire)
Ginger-Success, courage, strength (fire) (My herb, I advise it, is very helpful!)

Stones:
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For luck I would hold those in a pouch along with other luck charms or put the oils on you.

Okay, I can't help you much else on getting ready, it's up to you now "who, what, when, where,why, how"

Part Three: Thing to Remember:

Here are a few IMPORTANT things to remember:

-No matter what your perents may say, they DO love you and will acept you, if you prove to them in a nice maner that it IS important to you, they will at one point agree it is you life and should be able to do what you want

-You don't HAVE to tell ANYONE! If you just want to tell you perents or your best firend that's okay!

-If people turn on you for what you believe in, goes triple for you firends ask your self, what kind of people are they? It may hurt if firends go, but those who stay show they are ture firends! It's always better to have ture firends! Remeber, if those who turned on you didn't know and you told them a secert, how do you know they'd keep it?

-For those who tell you you are a devil worshiper/ Satain lover/ ect. remind them and yourself you don't believe in the devil, unless you're like me twisted (okay, uneeded humor, ignore that whee )

-If you don't feel happy with yourself because of those in your life, remember, we're also here for you, you can tell us, or at lest me if you have any problems!

-Remeber to enjoy being a Wiccan! If you don't what's the point of coming out at all?

If you have any other questions relating to anything Wiccan, I'm here, and am a link box XD You can also tell me more personal stuff, I'm good that way cool

(PS sorry this is in one post, but I didn't know, and I didn't want to split it up or cut anything, Sorry sorry sorry! crying gonk )

Posted: Sun Dec 18, 2005 9:07 am

Coming out was hard at the same time it was easy for me. Some of the people in my family did not approve at all. And some of them were very supportive. My mum was probably the most supportive. She bought me my first spell book when she noticed my interest in the craft. I took interest in the craft when I stumbled upon a craftbook of hers. She took me to the library often so that I would be able to borrow books I wouldn't own. She gave me gift certificates for books on my birthdays and such so that I could go and choose the books I wanted to own. Others have been stingy and unbelieving. They like to pretend I'm not in the room when I mention anything about my religion. Coming out is like trying to win a losing battle. There is always going to be someone who doesn't approve. But if you're content with yourself and you have someone to support you, than that's all that matters.

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Posted: Mon Dec 19, 2005 11:53 pm

I still have not came out of the broom closet completly for it is still really hard for me to talk to my parents about it but I am planning to possibly send them a book once I move out of the house.I have told my friends about my religion and they have been very supportive.

Posted: Wed Dec 21, 2005 11:10 am

Wicca does not mean witch. Biggest flaw I have found in that passage there.

I dont' think you understand the full magnitude people can possibly suffer because of very closed minded parents. For some people, it IS the best to remain secret, merely for their own protection. I have heard of people getting beaten and kicked out for trying to tell their parents, of their own accord versus getting found out, that they are an intelligent and reasonable practicing wiccan/witch/pagan/new age/etc.

Also, in your herb guide (it'd be nice to see a reference by the way, as well as HOW you use these things in their "normal form". You don't need someone ingesting something poisonous), you should include a masculine energy herb, only to be fair to both sexes.

Finally, we REALLY frown about sharing of spells. So even better, you shouldn't include the herbs at all. If anything, how about just linking to a very reasonable and intelligent page on the internet saying "You can look for some empowering ways to help you emotionally here," instead of saying "do these spells." This is especially important because using multiple spells can negate them, or even cause harm.

Luck-In-Spades
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Miss_Spell

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Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2005 9:25 pm

I wrote a section on this subject for my website, but didn't see an option in the poll that was an appropriate response, so I didn't vote. Bummer, since I could always use more gold.

I'm not afraid to tell someone, and everyone who really matters to me knows that I'm Pagan, although a lot of people seem to forget over time because it isn't all that I am. I'm also a co-worker, a prison guard, a parent, a woman, a friend, so on and so forth.

One thing that worked well for me has been to explain and focus on the similarities between my religion and that of the person I'm talking to. idea

A lot of things depend upon the situation and the people involved. Obviously, me discussing things with a friend who's known me for several years and knows what kind of person I am is a lot different from discussing religion with a complete stranger or a teenager telling the evangelical parents they live with. idea

Posted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 8:24 am

Coming out was rather . . . unsatisfying of me. I mean; my grandfather trained me, so my parents new; they were just kind of like "blah blah your life blah blah be carefl blah blah have fun" my friends were interested. And I got lucky; becuase I didn't loose any of my friends. I guess it's not really considered coming out if your just always open with it though. I don't think it was really 'coming out' as much as someone asking me . . . 'what did you say' as in kind of being found out when I wasn't thinking. Not that I was trying to suppress or hide anything; I just never really thought any different of it.

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