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 Posted: Tue Nov 10, 2009 2:35 pm
Okay, this has to do with some dramaz I'm witnessing on another website, but no, I am not planning on ranting or raving. I'm just going to ask a lot of hypothetical questions on the matter. And maybe state some of my opinions.
At what point can it be said that a person is mature? Is maturity reached at a certain age? Is it achieved by acting and responding in a certain way, or is it achieved through a state of mind?
Are you mature if you perceive yourself to be? Personally, I think if you have to tell people that you're mature that it just makes you sound less mature. It gives me the mental image of a toddler whining and crying while saying that. On the other hand, are you any more mature if you admit to the fact that you think you lack some maturity?
Are you mature if you no longer indulge in childish things? If you choose not to do something because you're afraid of being seen as immature, does that make you mature for realizing the importance of how people perceive you, or does that make you immature because you denied yourself something all because of what people might think?
Going off of that, is it immature or mature to care what other people think? On the one hand you're aware of the world, on the other, you might be dwelling on something you really shouldn't be.
And I ran out of questions, so go!
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Posted: Tue Nov 10, 2009 4:24 pm
When they act in an efficient way when the situation demands. No. Both.
No. I'm very modest about my maturity. Don't make me mature, makes me..... A pessimist?
No. Immature.
Depends on the situation.
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Posted: Wed Nov 11, 2009 6:51 am
Good questions. :]
I'd say maturity is achieved when a person gains mastery his or her impulses to the point that he can ignore them when it is necessary to do the contrary to succeed.
Understanding that you are mature but keeping it to yourself wouldn't be immature.
It is immature to care about the opinions of anyone who is not vital to your current state of living. If they're not your source of income, food, transportation, shelter, etc. why care if they don't like you? It's not going to hurt you in any way. However, you should care what the people you depend on for one reason or another think about you. Example: it is very mature to care about what your boss thinks of you, as it is to care about what your landlord thinks of you. One person can make you lose your livelihood and the other could kick you out of your home. I'd also lump parents in this category, contingent on the parents being good parents or willing to disinherit you, or if you live with them, kick you out of the house if you displease them.
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Posted: Wed Nov 11, 2009 7:45 am
Maturity doesn't reach at a certain age. I've had some encounters with 40 year olds that seem as if they never left the high school mind set. Expect to find that, and worse, throughout your life until the day you die...
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Posted: Fri Nov 13, 2009 11:08 pm
Maturity, to me, had to do with wisdom, which is essentially derived from learning from one's experiences. I don't think one has to go through a lot, live a certain amount, or act a specific way (though I think I would expect a mature person to not act certain ways, such as drinking until they drop and spending all the next day throwing up in the dark). Rather, I think maturity has to do with achieving a certain amount of understanding, of oneself, of the world, of people in general, and using that to one's advantage while not actively harming the others (being a philanthropist or humanitarian is strictly optional, but for them to be mature, they cannot be self-sacrifical or doing so out of guilt or some other misguided motive). I'll stop here and assume you all know what I'm getting at. smile
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Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 1:09 pm
Etherealsage Maturity, to me, had to do with wisdom, which is essentially derived from learning from one's experiences. I don't think one has to go through a lot, live a certain amount, or act a specific way (though I think I would expect a mature person to not act certain ways, such as drinking until they drop and spending all the next day throwing up in the dark). Rather, I think maturity has to do with achieving a certain amount of understanding, of oneself, of the world, of people in general, and using that to one's advantage while not actively harming the others (being a philanthropist or humanitarian is strictly optional, but for them to be mature, they cannot be self-sacrifical or doing so out of guilt or some other misguided motive). I'll stop here and assume you all know what I'm getting at. smile And I can agree with this as well. That just about sums up my opinion about maturity.
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Posted: Mon Nov 16, 2009 9:27 am
I'd say there's several kinds of maturity. Your body may mature 'till it's stopped develop in some kind of productive way. You may mature to be able to take responsibility for your own actions. And more...
I'd guess my body is quite mature, but my mind and my ability of taking responsibility is unlikely.
You may still be mature, even if you consider what people think. If you just do/reject what people say because they told you to, you may not act in a mature manner.
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Posted: Mon Nov 16, 2009 11:46 pm
I think it depends greatly on the situation, wether you're mature or not.
I've been told that I act mature, and I know that I sometimes act very immature. So I don't really see myself as either for certain. I'm sometimes very immature sometimes partially, and same thing for the opposite.
For myself I think I'm more mature when talking to people that don't know me as well, because then I feel more comfortable sharing some opinions. But when I'm with people I know really well I feel comfortable being immature, not all the times of course though.
I think it applies to everyone that you can't say for sure if they're mature or not mature, because it's not a definite thing. There are many variables surrounding it, such as:
How serious the situation is, who you're with, how important it is on how you act, if you care about the impressions of the people around you, etc.
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Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 9:20 am
Everybody matures at a different rate. Yes, it typically increases in proportion to age, but no, there is no set age when one can be called "mature".
It's like height, or weight, or any other measurement like that. There's no given point when you become "tall", you just get taller and taller and then stop, and depending on how tall you are when you stop, people might call you tall or short or in between.
Same with weight, but it isn't quite as linear. There's no moment when you become fat or skinny, your weight just fluctuates and then settles somewhere, and then people might call you fat or skinny or in between, depending on what they consider fat. It's all subjective and ambiguous.
And the same applies with maturity. You aren't "mature" when you turn 18; well, some people reach a high level of maturity when they turn 18, but a lot of them don't, and a lot of them take longer to mature (some people say you aren't really fully mature until you're 25). But it really depends. Some people are very mature when they're 16. I'm only 17, and I'd at least like to think that I'm pretty far along. But like I said, there's no set level of maturity in which people can call you "mature", and there certainly isn't an age level when you cross the boundary of maturity. It's all subjective, and it's all ambiguous.
Well, that's my opinion, anyway.
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Posted: Thu Jan 28, 2010 8:40 pm
A person matures emotionally when they stop becoming essentially selfish and begin to care more for people besides themselves without realizing it. Part of this is having the self-control to stop being an annoying p***k and to start considering how your behavior is making the people around you feel. Whining, throwing temper tantrums, rudeness... these are signs of a person who needs to grow up a bit more.
I haven't thrown a temper tantrum since I was a child and I've had the self-control to act appropriately in public for most of my life. I remember kids as early as middle school being idiots and I was never one of those people. I was goofy, sure, but I never screwed around during school and I never gave my teachers too much trouble. As conceited as this makes me sound, I believe I'm the kid that my parents don't have to worry about as much.
Being mature means having consideration for people, whether you care about them or not.
What throws me off is when a person my age looks a lot older than me, is younger than me, and acts like an immature idiot. xd
People don't automatically become the emotional equivalent of an adult. My sister annoyed me greatly when she said, "I'm an adult!" when she turned eighteen and tried to use her age as a reason why our parents should treat her differently. She wasn't an adult. They had no reason to treat her differently.
If I really needed to, I believe that I could live on my own. Sure, I may need financial support until I can get a job (ajfkdasjfklds jobs here are impossible to get) but I could care for myself. I believe I am mature enough to handle college without being tempted with alcohol and drugs. The way I see it, I can get those things now if I wanted them and going to college probably won't make me want them more.
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Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2010 4:57 pm
Id Say Maturity Is Based On the State Of Mind Where You Have Accepted That Youre That But You Still Have Some Space For Improvement
Caring About People think?
Id Say Not caring Could Be mature and Yet Immature
Since Like I said Being Content About Who you are is a Sign Of Maturity But You Also Have to Be Open To what You Could DO to Iprove Yourself
And You Cant say Soeone Who does Childish Things Makes someone Immature since Thee Things That seem Childish To One Person But Doesnt To The Eyes Of Another blaugh
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Posted: Tue Jun 08, 2010 10:15 pm
Gallows and Guillotines A person matures emotionally when they stop becoming essentially selfish and begin to care more for people besides themselves without realizing it. Part of this is having the self-control to stop being an annoying p***k and to start considering how your behavior is making the people around you feel. Whining, throwing temper tantrums, rudeness... these are signs of a person who needs to grow up a bit more. I haven't thrown a temper tantrum since I was a child and I've had the self-control to act appropriately in public for most of my life. I remember kids as early as middle school being idiots and I was never one of those people. I was goofy, sure, but I never screwed around during school and I never gave my teachers too much trouble. As conceited as this makes me sound, I believe I'm the kid that my parents don't have to worry about as much. Being mature means having consideration for people, whether you care about them or not. What throws me off is when a person my age looks a lot older than me, is younger than me, and acts like an immature idiot. xd People don't automatically become the emotional equivalent of an adult. My sister annoyed me greatly when she said, "I'm an adult!" when she turned eighteen and tried to use her age as a reason why our parents should treat her differently. She wasn't an adult. They had no reason to treat her differently. If I really needed to, I believe that I could live on my own. Sure, I may need financial support until I can get a job (ajfkdasjfklds jobs here are impossible to get) but I could care for myself. I believe I am mature enough to handle college without being tempted with alcohol and drugs. The way I see it, I can get those things now if I wanted them and going to college probably won't make me want them more. A revision: Maturity is a state of being that is impossible to achieve and is, by definition, a paradox. You cannot achieve maturity but attempting to achieve maturity despite this makes you mature. Does that make sense? I suppose it doesn't. Humans are imperfect. That makes them perfect.
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Posted: Sat Jun 19, 2010 4:24 am
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I think maturity as a whole is dictated by your perceptions of the world around you and the effect and impact that you have on it. What choices you make in relation to what options are presented to you. The environment is a big topic right now; the ''mature choice" would be to buy compact fluorescent bulbs.
Or say someone tries to start a flame war with you, unprovoked, and says some truly terrible things to you. Is it more mature to walk away and let it go or get riled up and behave like a child?
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Posted: Thu Aug 12, 2010 7:55 am
Well in terms of science, the brain stops growing at age 21. (or 28, can't remember, but I think it was 21) Though I guess that's not entirely true for everyone, as there are the 45 year-olds still mentally stuck in their younger years. So maturity doesn't have a certain age.
Maturity to me is a lot of different things. When a bad situation arises, you're the one to stay calm and help deal with what ever's happening. The ability to control your emotions is part of it, too. Being mature also means accepting that you have more to learn and improve on.
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Posted: Sat Nov 27, 2010 8:50 pm
When I was in Primary School, in year 7, whenever the class got in trouble, the teacher would always say "Grow up". Yet, there were so many mixed messages~~You always hear people telling kids to 'act their age'. We were twelve. Kids. Children. And, it's like, "If you want us to "grow up", stop telling us we're too young for this, or too small for that. Because if we are, we don't need to "grow up". What would they have rathered, we wear high heels and makeup to school? Exactly. Why should we emotionally and behaviourally act like adults when we're children?"
There's too much pressure on kids these days to "mature", yet the majority of people don't realize that maturity doesn't come with age, and you shouldn't treat people differently because of their age- you should also realize that everyone has different levels of maturity that isn't age-dependent.
To me, maturity is your understanding of the world and how you act and respond to different situations.
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