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My dad is an alcoholic and over the summer my dad and I had a fight about his drinking. I then asked him to decide between the booze or me. He went two weeks with out a drink and then fell off the wagon. Now my dad is not abusive when he drinks but he does pass out when he drinks and will drive drunk. I told him when we had the fight that I would leave if he continued to drink. Now it's almost the end of October and he still continues to drink. I don't think I would care so much if he didn't do it almost every day or if he didn't do it in front of friends. I don't know what to do this isn't the first time my dad has had a real issue with alcohol I remeber my dad had another big issue with it when I was 8 or 9. I'm now 18 and it hurts that my dad still wants the booze over me. What do i do because obvisously talking to him didn't work?

alcoholism is a disease therefore he needs exterior intervention. He loves you therefore he did try but the power of this disease is quite great. I would contact your local AA. They will be best served at aiding you but likely scenario is he will need a full out intervention.

It is tough and the sad thing is there is nothing you can do. He has to be the one who wants to change. I grew up hearing from my dad I will stop drinking on your 10th, 11th, 12th, 13th birthday and so on until one day when I was around 17 he got so drunk he passed out again and woke up in the hospital. The doctor told him his liver would fail if he took another drink and since then he has been clean but I know it is a constant battle for him. He does attend AA which I think helped him a lot but in the end there was no way I could help him, he would choose the drink over me any time and if I did try to do things I got a slap in the face.

Reiteration: He may not actually want the alcohol at all, but his body needs it to function normally. There are usually core reasons as to why someone becomes an alcoholic, however sometimes, it just happens. Why isn't your mom in the picture? Could it be that if she has left, that the separation caused him to drink more? In any case, there are types of therapy. And if he cared enough to stop drinking for 2 weeks, then he seems to care enough to stop. If you tell him that you think he is being a bad father to you, then that may jolt him into reality. However, YOU have to be the judge of whether or not this will work. It is a fine line you walk. You must be cautious.

you have to realise that being alcoholic is genetic but its also a disease he is going to fall off the wagon you just need to keep at it ,no matter what clean the house of booze , take his keys to his car and hide them and if he resorts to violance call the cops but thats all i have to say.