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 Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 9:20 am
Since I discovered masterbation before I even knew what it was called I've masterbated face-down and by using a lot of pressure on my c**t. And now it's like the only thing that works.
Although finger penetration feels kinda nice, it's not really usually arousing to me unless I do something with my c**t as well and even then I can only get aroused - not completely get off.
I don't really like my method because the orgasm is incredibly short and really not all that strong. The best thing I've ever tried was a showerhead was made it last considerably longer and stronger but I really can't recreate that feeling manually.
My boyfriend is also starting to get frustrated that pretty much nothing he does gets me off (except for once dry humping) and I can get him off fairly easily.
I'm kinda worried that when I have sex, it won't ever work very well for me.
Is there anyway I can try to teach myself to respond more to penetration? Any methods I can use to try to reach a better orgasm?
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 9:37 am
I suggest you stop masturbating like that. You probably have TMS, Traumatic Mastubatory syndrom.
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 10:09 am
Lifeissuesmule21 I suggest you stop masturbating like that. You probably have TMS, Traumatic Mastubatory syndrom. O.o. What is that?
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 11:02 am
I believe that there are a few posts on it in the masturbation sticky that you can check out. To simplify it it's stimulating yourself in a way that can't be recreated with another person which can lead to sexual frustractions such as you are having now. For boys it can also be physically damaging but I'm honestly not sure about girls. I haven't done any further research so I only know what I've read here.
As for your actual question, I'm not really sure there is anything I can say that will be helpful. I've been sexually active for a few years now and have never had an orgasm with him or by myself. Possibly you could spend some time looking for your G spot and trying to orgasm that way? And it's normal for it to take a long time for a girl to orgasm.
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 2:50 pm
Ohh.. I looked up TMS and it sounds a lot like me...
So I guess I should just try to get out of using that method and try to use others....
Do you think using a showerhead/electric toothbrush is also bad?
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 3:12 pm
If you are going to use a tooth brush make sure that 1. You don't use it.... 2. You wash it really really REALLY well after each time. If the bacteria and yeast in your v****a are caught in it and then left to grow you will probably give yourself all sorts of nasty infections next time you use it.
As for the shower head, as long as it's only on the outside it's probably ok. But spraying water directly inside yourself could possibly push water past your cerivx, into your uterus and that's not a good thing to have happen.
You best bet would probably be to visit a sex store if you are old enough to. Honestly they aren't that intimidating, the staff are really nice and everything. A nice vibrator or vibrating c**t toy would probably be good for you and they are easy clean so less risk of infection.
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 5:58 pm
OhtarwenElenya Since I discovered masterbation before I even knew what it was called I've masterbated face-down and by using a lot of pressure on my c**t. I do the same thing! I'm scared it might lead to female TMS or something. I haven't had any problems with it, though. I can masturbate lying on my back, but it's usually more comfortable and pleasurable when I lie on my stomach. And I'm a virgin, so I've only used fingers, but penetration has never felt that good to me. Quote: If you are going to use a tooth brush make sure that 1. You don't use it.... 2. You wash it really really REALLY well after each time. If the bacteria and yeast in your v****a are caught in it and then left to grow you will probably give yourself all sorts of nasty infections next time you use it. Cover it with a ziplock!
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 7:30 pm
That wouldn't work. Fungi (including the type that give yeast infections, yeasts) produce mega-billions of spores that are always floating around the atmosphere. That's why chese and bread get mold after a while, even if you don't have them out for an extended period of time. One second exposed to anything moist is enough for most yeasts to start to grow on. Putting it in a zip-lock bag would not only not prevent the spores from getting on it, it would give them a less-hostile enviroment to grow in. I suggest just being sanitary with it and washing it thoroughly when you're done. 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 11:14 pm
One of those vibrating massagers you see at the store will work.
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 7:28 pm
I've used it before with a ziplock. xp (well, and I washed it as well) but mind you that I was using the end of it and wasn't actually penetrating with it: just using it externally...
I'm too young to buy a vibrator. xp But I suppose if I really wanted one, I could coerce my boyfriend into getting me one when he turns eighteen which is pretty soon. ninja
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2005 10:15 pm
Some women just have more trouble orgasming than others, I'm afraid. I'm one of them. My orgasms often aren't that good and I never ever orgasm from penetration (only clitoral stimulation).
My fiance and I simply incorporate masturbation into sex. Either we will masturbate me first and then have sex, or masturbate me once he is done. That works for us since we are both satisfied.
But don't be ashamed or think that there is anything wrong with you. Not all of us can be like those porn stars who just start orgasming and never end, meanwhile spraying the whole room for ten minutes strait, lol.
As for positions and such, I've vaguely heard about a problem with that for men, but not for women. Certainly, you can quite easily get accomodated to a "favorite position" and then have trouble any other way.
What works for me sometimes is to not touch myself for a while. Either I would think about something sexy, watch pornography, or have my fiance do a little dance. I only start touching myself once I am already aroused. I find my orgasms tend to be better when I do that. It's worth a try, anyway biggrin
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 12:27 pm
^ Good idea. I think I'm going to try to lay off on the constant attempts and only do it when I feel really aroused.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 8:53 pm
Here's a question for you: I actually have masturbated a couple of times. However, I never had sex yet with my boyfriend. The only thing that I am curious about is, I don't what or how it feels to have an orgasm. Can someone feel me in?
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 9:18 pm
Musical Medli Here's a question for you: I actually have masturbated a couple of times. However, I never had sex yet with my boyfriend. The only thing that I am curious about is, I don't what or how it feels to have an orgasm. Can someone feel me in? "Sex Education 101 Sticky" has information and links about orgasms. We can't really tell you, because it's different for everyone, and some women can't/don't orgasm at all.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 11:04 pm
girls need foreplay to have a good orgasim,try masturbating but right when your at your climax stop and wait for it to calm down then do it again until you cant take it
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